[littl3chocobo]

a few weeks ago someone i was fond of began talking to me less and less. i did not know why and did not ask figuring it was something small. after a bit our communications were limited to say the least and i figured it was something i had done and started to get paranoid, eventually someone told me it was an irl issue and i tried to let it go, i attempted to keep the conversations alive and let the rp we were in go into hiatus. soon after they stopped talking to me and so i sent a single entry offering to help with this thing that was taking them away, it was ignored. for two days i watched them post a storm in the rp forums and sometimes in other places too. it got to the point where clicking the refresh button actually put me in tears. two days after my last message i wrote an unpleasant pm stating how i felt and got a reply telling me i was selfish for feeling that way.

my problem is even after a week i still randomly burst into tears and get a stomachache when i see them post, i want to say i am sorry and hope they will be my friend again but doing that would mean accepting that i am in the wrong for having put my feelings before their convenience. i don't know what to do, should i eat my anger and hurt and go back to being mostly ignored or continue as is and /still/ be ignored only with the last shreds of my dignity still attached?


we were not super close or anything, i mean we were not even close enough for them to tell me there was a problem or for me to have the sense to ask /why/ they were distant but i still considered them my friend and i still want to /be/ friends with them

what should i do?

[Yokuutsu]

Just let it go. Really. There are other people to befriend in the universe. Also, maybe the person will come back of their own accord. Or maybe, over time, the friendship will just come back. That's what has happened every single time me and any friends have had any problems (except the one who had carnal relations with my then boyfriend).

Or maybe that person thought ya'll were closer and you'd have the sense to ask what was wrong? I don't know on that one. And maybe they're hurt because you didn't ask?

[littl3chocobo]

so give it up and ride out the hurt?



i am not sure how close they thought we were, but you could be right though

[Yokuutsu]

I've learned over the years that most people have a differing view from the other of how important the relationship is in general. To almost everyone I know....it seems....our relationships don't mean shit when they mean a lot to me.

I'm saying kind of ride it out because contacting this person could annoy them or make them angrier at you. Or it might not since I don't know this person. Riding it out might be the right choice and everything might turn out good in the end.

[littl3chocobo]

then i guess i will continue in my current direction i suppose. though i don't think they will come around shy of an intervention. i burned that bridge by having the nerve to talk to them in the first place

[SinX_franz]

Cheer up pal. Don't down yourself that much. It'll make you look 10 years older. *ahemmm* Mind my sense of humor. Anyways, don't take it seriously. Don't bring yourself down. Try talking to them in a much diplomatic way without hurting each other. Try asking them like this, "Hey there <insert name here>, How are you?", start with something like that. Be optimistic and don't give up. If you ever need help or someone to talk to, you can approach me. We may not be that close yet but i just want to help out. And I'm not really sure to what a HS kid like me do. I'm pretty much focused on studies and i kind of have a lone wolf personality. But still I'll try my best to help you out. So cheer up.

[Daring Scylla]

I agree with Yokuutsu. Let them alone for a while, see if they get over it. You tried your best to explain your feelings of the situation.
If after a while they still don't want to play ball, then forfeit the game. After all, there are other persons who care about you, and if this person can't be bothered, why should you as well.
It'll come to a point where you need to decide whether the irritation and hurt is going to be more or less if you pursue this relationship. And then you have to decide if you want to take the route that causes more pain and if you feel that such a gamble is likely to be rewarding in the end.
I wish I could actually help D: That's my best advice.

[littl3chocobo]

you guys /are/ helping though, it is advice i am seeking and when it's given it is helpful