[littl3chocobo]

i won't didn't work the last time won't work this time, besides i just want her mother gone not her

[Trakadon]

Do what you think is right then.

[CupcakeDolly]

From what I understand, this girl and her mother come as a package. If you want one gone, then the other one will go too. Otherwise they both stay, and honestly it doesn't sound like either one is making you happy. This girl doesn't seem to feel anything for you, and probably wouldn't be extending the same courtesy in dealing with troublesome family members as you are for her.

When you say that she's THE ONE... Really? There are billions of people out there. If you'd open your eyes and take a look at a few of them, you might realize that some of them aren't so bad either. Yeah, it's hard to pull yourself away from someone you idolize, but that's all she really is at this point - an idol. It doesn't seem like she's interested in being much more than that.

I think more people here would be willing to validate your anger if they didn't want you to actually do what you so obviously need to in order to be happier. Give your roommate - as that's ALL she wants to be for you - the ultimatum. Tell her you want her mother out, or you're out. If she chooses her mother over you, you should really consider the possibility that she isn't a good person to be associating with. The situation you've put yourself in is not healthy.

[DeadMuse]

I'm sorry this is happening to you D: I know it may "kill" you on the inside but is it really worth it? I know you may care deeply for her but is it honestly worth letting someone else's parent crack down on and belittle you and make you feel like you HAVE to step on eggshells while living in a home you mainly pay for? I think not. I bet you'd be ten times happier if you just lived on your own without a roommate and paid for the place on your own. And if you can't afford it then move into a cheaper apartment :( Again im sorry this is happening to you it must be rough and exhausting and frustrating.

[Jurinjo]

People have said that your mate is probably not extending any love to you. But you haven't countered with what she does do for you. Is there love returned? Is she showing signs of being withdrawn because I suppose giving her up the last time she feels like something may happen again? They're right at this point you aren't living in a healthy situation. If anything I think a talk needs to happen between you two about your feelings. Take whatever process you need for your thoughts/feelings on it all: how her mother treats you, why she can't support you in front of her mom- that this makes you feel she doesn't love you at all. Essentially "Do I matter to YOU at all?"

What I do though, and it's not a recommendation to or everybody in general because we are all different. Is that when I go through a particular emotion I want to work out then during it I write quickly- scribbling my thoughts and feelings at the moment no matter how jumbled it is and then try coming back to it in a calmer state. Reviewing it more logically. Not to make excused but to try and resolve a solution to the problem. It's an easy way to chicken out. But it is a method that works for me personally.

[Yokuutsu]

The only question I have is this, why did you post this?

You've already made your decision. You refuse to even see the posibility that you could be happy (someday) on your own or that there might be someone else out there. There really was no point in posting this it seems.

And what are you going to do when she finds someone else? Maybe she'll (this is a she we're talking about right?) get married to this person. What will you do then? It'll be the same as you left....except you will be forced into it instead. Possibly with little to no warning. And maybe you should seek counseling since this just isn't good. Because personally from what you typed up....she doesn't even love you since her mother still comes first ALL the time (I can understand sometimes)

But you've already made your decision so none of what I just typed matters, now does it?

[littl3chocobo]

oh my^^: these last two posts are even farther from the mark than before, guys, my issue is no really with the girl(though for the record /no/ she does not love me, this is an old issue a couple years resolved between us, i asked and she ansered) the problem is with her mother. the only reason i mention her is because if i do what /i/ want to do and sic the landlord on her(the mother) then i will ruin a relationship that is still very new and easily broken(with the girl)


as it stands though i have not been accociating with the wonan(the mother) since then, up until yesterday there have been no real issues

i have talked to my roomate(the girl) and we are going to try and sublease her out of the contract, hopefully she will still kee in contact with me afterwards

i posted because unless i say something i cannot formulate an answer

[DarkForbidden-Love]

Your solution is sound (sudleasing the mother out of contract). If the girl is a friend who wants to keep in contact she will even if you request that her mother not infringe on your house. If mother or girl still refuse to work with you try to explain to them why you need the computer and that you would prefer peace in your house. A good method for politly asked the mother to stay out of the apartment is to say that the apartment is your home/santuary and you would like peace and quiet in the santuary.