[littl3chocobo]

so there is a person i dont like because they are a compulsive liar and say all sorts of stupid things just to get attention and once more they have pulled this bs of saying one thing then doing the exact opposite the moment after everyone shows the appropriate amount of attention

personally i want to go up to them and call them a sick little twit who just wants to be in the spotlight but of course that would be tactless, honestly i dont want to talk to them but they get on my nerves to no end and because they are friends with some of my friends i cant just ignore their stupidity, what should i do? should i do anything at all? i am fed up entirely


by the way, i have caught them up in lies before and they just blamed it on being 'tricked' then dropped the topic entirely if that helps you to figure out the kind of person they are

[Umaeril]

It sounds like you have been pushed just a little too far. On the other hand, choose your battles wisely. Is it a battle you can win? Will you come off looking petty if you go on the offensive (which seems to be tempting you)? I don't know. So one thing you could do is keep your eyes open and collect some hard evidence and/or get a witness or two to some of the lying. I'm not saying you use it, just keep it on the back burner. You can always move it to the front burner if or when the time is right. Not only that, you never know what might come in handy to know about a person but not tell, keeping to yourself instead. This puts you up a level on things, makes you a bit more observant if you can figure people out and what they are up to. It's just something to recognize is all. You seem to have the gift of perception. Not everyone has this or one would think most compulsive liars would be recognized pretty quickly by everyone...and they are not.

[littl3chocobo]

well i have the evidence and a few people have seen this person for what they are but i am not very good at pacing myself and it looks like a brutal assault whenever i say anything of the sort so less than petty it comes off as me being a bully which they thrive on because it causes people to flock to them to offer consolation(i have gotten a lot of grief for that particular issue of mine) so it is a lose-lose

i have been told i am perceptive and a fine judge of character unfortunately i am no good at utilizing it though it helps to hear you speak with a voice that is reasonable and say what it is i was already thinking might be so

[Umaeril]

Hmmm….I think you just need to acquire a certain skill-set is all. You already have the hard part down. So the skills you need to learn are : 1. to pace yourself; 2. to address others in a manner that is not like a bully; 3. to avoid all those lose-lose situations. Does that sound about right?

[littl3chocobo]

it does but the part i fail at is being able to do it XD

though another friend of mine found several online instances of them lying and now i just feel bad, they are so pathetic they cant even pick a story and keep to it and do it even more often than i though, it is like watching smeone hit themselves for laughs or something, i dont feel angry anymore i just feel a little sick and sorry for them

[Nexess]

Sometimes it's better to let that person implode all on their own Choco. It may bother you a great deal but really the person isn't your friend, so don't stress yourself over someone being an attention whore, cause everything comes back eventually.

[Dawn]

I agree, I have noticed on the net that many people are like that and to me, attention seeking grows boring very fast.. Since the person is not in your circle of friends, I would suggest just leaving them to their stories, etc cause sometimes the best way to deal with a 'woes me' person is to ignore them completely and enjoy the company of the people you want to be around.