[Cheshiresneer]

This is going to be very long, heads up. >.< And I've posted in here once before about moving etc. This is even worse and I really need input or anything you can offer.

My fiance and I moved out to Las Vegas two months ago. It was because he was promised a job from his dad's painting company out here. (my fiance was originally from Las vegas) Well he worked for about 2.5 weeks and then his dad called him and said that the casino had stopped construction for some reason and that they had no work. Well this also means that he has no money to pay anyone, which means my fiance doesn't get paid. I've been trying to find a job since I got here to no avail.

Both my fiance and I have been on craigslist, every day for the last 2-3weeks calling everyone that we can do an odd job for. Some big jobs that we keep waiting to hear back from and some small little ones (which seem to be the only ones who are calling back.) But it's not enough to buy food, or cover bills. Everytime he calls his dad essentially saying, "We are screwed," his dad basically responds "I dunno what to tell you." His dad is not helping us at all.

Pretty much everything that was promised to us before we moved out here is being taken back. He told us that he would let us borrow his one daughters car since he was going to get her a new one. That didn't happen. He told us that if that didn't happen he would be willing to take us places (grocery store, etc.) that doesn't happen and everytime we call him he makes up a new excuse or we will hear "If not tomorrow I'll do it the next day." every day for a week and it still won't happen.

We have no car, no money, barely any food left. We have no access to anything we don't even have money to take the bus.

Rent is due in about a week, and we don't even have a speck of it. We are waiting to hear back from the rental assistance place that were supposed to call back yesterday. Now were waiting until Monday to call. We also called the ebt or food stamps company because we wanted to apply and they told us weeks ago that it would take everything a grand total of 2 weeks to be done, but we haven't even gotten the paperwork from them yet. We want to go in there directly because they can process it immediately, we were supposed to go yesterday (his dad said he would take us Friday, if not Saturday.) Well we haven't gone today either, when we called him he said "I don't think they are open Sunday so I will take you Monday." Which I'm sorry, sounds like a load at this point.

Because we just moved here, we don't know anyone, or have any friends that couldn't potentially take us to social services, or loan us money or anything.

I went to school for 5 years for graphic design, I have a degree. I can't get work there to save my life x.x I am trying desperately to sell commissions, but my illustrating skills are no where NEAR where they should be and I can't sell any, even for 5$... All the sites I know or belong to all sell sketches and everything for their sites currency which although it would be nice, doesn't help me here... :( I don't know what to price anything at, and I don't know where or how to market it. I'm floundering. I can't even post anything to sell on etsy that I've made such as clay figures, because I don't EVEN have the .20$ to list something...

We both wake up every morning sick and worried. We also don't know what else to do...I'm so scared that we will get kicked out and have no where to go. I also have pet rats that I could never ever give up or abandon if we were to get kicked out...we honestly don't have anywhere to go.

Right before we moved out here, I was a student, I didn't have a job. I barely had any money saved up. My grandparents and my parents gave us over 5000$ dollars to move out here. (That includes rental car, money for gas, food and lodging, and the costs for the shipping company to to move all our stuff across the country.) And his dad has barely given us 400$ to help us. Our rent is 600$ a month. That's not including internet/cable and electricity and gas. I can't ask my parents for any more money and I won't do that to them :/ they are having a tough time themselves.

I don't know what to do anymore...at all. I'm getting to a point where I'm honestly going to call about doing porn. T.T and I really don't think people would pay to see me do that. I feel all this pressure to try to up my artistic talent overnight to try to make any amount of money.

I just need help..or just someone to talk to ....or anything. I'm in a really bad place right now, physically and emotionally. Thank you <3

[Obsidian]

I've been somewhat in your position but of a different situation.
I know you wouldn't want to put your parents in a bind but parents will get upset if you do not come forth and tell them what's going on.

My parents live here in Arkansas and I had moved out to Virginia to a guy I had met over the internet. We lived together for about a year, until I finally had enough of everything. I couldn't save up any money to save my life cause he would always purchase games and such ALL the damn time and would want me to pay all the bills, so out of my pay checks, I had barely 25$ left for myself.
I wanted to move out, so I attempted to only pay the bills that we needed and refused to pay for anything else. Which ended up starting a fight between us and he kicked me out of the house numerous times although we were both on the lease or I thought we were. It wasn't til I moved away from him when I realized that I never signed any paperwork, so I don't even think the apartments ever knew I was there.
Well, I put up with him for a year before one night when he kicked me out in a snowy cold night, I called my parents crying. I was scared and I didn't want them to spend money that they didn't have just to come get me, but I had no choice. It was either that or I was spending the night in the cold again.
My parents went to great lengths to gather the money just to come get me.

That was when I was 22 or 24 years old. I'm now 27 years old, living in an apartment in the same town as my parents with my husband and daughter of 3 years.

I know how it feels not to want to call your parents, but think of it this way, how pissed off will they be if you don't call?

[[Edit]]
Also, I found out later that it was my sister (who's known here as Feto) who paid for the trip.

[littl3chocobo]

your parents love you dear and your guy's dad is a lying bastard, i say call your folks and get out of vegas

[Cheshiresneer]

Well the thing is, they've been getting constant updates of everything and today I suppose was the final straw for them. I haven't said too much about them above but since we've moved out here they have still helped us out. My mom gave me a little more money to cover bills, bought and shipped out a vacuum for us to use, sent us a box of random goodies like Halloween stuff and candy and even just now sent us out a package of food.

My mom finally flipped out today and was instead furious at my fiance for everything...he hasn't done anything wrong at all. In fact we have a great relationship and are both incredibly supportive of each other. (We've been together for 2 years now.) He's the only reason I haven't completely broken down from this. x.x I know my parents are upset because I'm their only daughter and of course parents want the best for their children. And I think they just want something to blame or be angry with now. >.< Chocobo, my mom even went so far as to say that she will pay for a rental car for me to come back with the important stuff and my pet rats but not him. I was incredibly shocked to hear this from her because prior to us moving she and my father both really really like my fiance. (And my mom is not the kind of person to lie to me about that kind of thing, she's let me know her opinion of all my other boyfriends, lol) Unfortunately now that makes it harder for me.

That's incredible to hear for you, Obsidian! I'm glad everything worked out like that in the end! :) I'm 23 right now too so I'm around the same age that you were. <3 I do definitely wish I still lived in the same town as my parents but the rent there is crazy and now we're kind of stuck across the country.

[littl3chocobo]

i... don't know what to say, if it is a choice between your parents and your fiance then you must make up your mind yourself, i canno offer advice


though i can see your mom's reasonings, his father is screwing you over but he is the one that got you to move to begin with

[Obsidian]

Yeah, parents tend to lash out at the non-biological sons and daughters (dating, fiance, husbands), even though occasionally it's their biological child's fault to begin with!

Everything will get better!

[Cheshiresneer]

Thank you <3

I had a distracting stressful day or two that's why I popped off x.x But yea, that is a big assumption however chocobo. It was both of our decisions, not his alone because we're a team. If I had opposed it, I got news for him we would not have gone. But if anything I was more for moving because I thought it was going to be easier. I believe his father too. But regardless, his father is more to blame than either of us are. And any fault that is ours, is equally ours. :)

I do understand where's she's coming from, if I had a child I would probably be the same way. If ANYone hurt one of my pets I would probably punch them in the jaw >.>;

[Cheshiresneer]

The internet/phone are getting shut off today, so I don't know when I will be able to respond x.x

<3 <3 to everyone!