[Yokuutsu]

Do you think it's possible to have true online friends?
How easily do you make online friends?
Don't you hate that feeling when you realize that someone you considered a friend doesn't consider you the same?
Do you have more online or IRL friends?

Feel free to tell any stories.

[Triateyal]

I don't get close to too many people online, things aren't always as they seem. However, one of my best friends I met while playing an MMO. I see having an online friendship as being no different from an old fashioned pen pal. We tell each other just about everything, whether it's online fun or real life insanity.

[Cazzidy]

Hhhhmmmm... I do make online friends on avatar sites but only a few, a selected few that is. But I don't usually just tell much about my personal life. But still those few are still considered friends. :)

[Poggio]

Well I have to be honest, there comes a point where my real life friends are considered on line friends since I only find out about them through face book. We rarely have time to hang any more and such and it gets annoying that they would rather update a status then give me a call. As for my online friends, they are real people and proven to me they are not trolls. XD in fact we have become pen pals and such its amusing. I guess I am one of the lucky ones to have a friend like that.

[Taiki]

I meet a lot of people on forums and online. I consider them a friend when we exchange Skype (or some sort of instant messenger), talk a lot on there, and follow each other to other sites than the one we met on. Considering I don't spend as much time online as I used to, I have much more friends IRL than online.

[Yokuutsu]

Well, I've learned that people like that, you talk and etc, you can't consider friends online. They've all ended poorly for me at least.

Maybe it's just my bad luck -shrugs-

Though it's good that it works for you -shrugs-

[Umaeril]

Hmmm well I met my bff online like 10 years ago. We found out we lived really near each other and after about a year we met and now we have thanksgiving at her house every year. So online can turn into RL. And I know some others online who have made somewhat of the transition to RL friends. My acquaintance online is certainly larger than offline. I cherish people I have met online pretty much as much as those I know irl, if not in the same way. .

[Triateyal]

Originally Posted by Yokuutsu

Well, I've learned that people like that, you talk and etc, you can't consider friends online. They've all ended poorly for me at least.

Maybe it's just my bad luck -shrugs-

Though it's good that it works for you -shrugs-

Honestly, that's really the norm. For the one friend I've got, I can think of a few that didn't work out at all. But then again, I've had crazy bad luck with some offline "friends" too.

[Ashy]

A lot of my RL friends turned into online friends, pretty much the only way i still talk to anyone i know is online.

[Umaeril]

I don't think I have a single RL friend who turned into an online friend.

[Yokuutsu]

Well, I rarely see my RL friends, I talk to the on messenger, but I don't count that as online friends really .-.

[littl3chocobo]

i think it is quite possible and almost all of my friends are 'online' friends, though i am one of those weirdos who treat online friendships like irl ones, it is less about 'bad' friends and more about how you treat your friendships with them. i talk to my friends often, i maintain contact with them even offline(letters, gifts, texts, calls) i do my best to respect their feelings and their schedules and i treat them the same as i would with a friend i lived next to<3 my best friend is an online one and i love her as dearly as my own family(some days more XD) and i consider all of my online friends equally important to anyone else, if you talked to someone primarily on the phone does that make them any less important than someone you talk to face-to-face?

of course this goes the other way too, people who treat me like i am not important or try to wheedle and abuse are treated just as cold me by me as anyone who'd try it in real life, i have no tolerance for fake people who only care about having buddies or indulgences from strangers who's name they know. want to be my friend? then act like a friend

[Yokuutsu]

Well, recently, I've started to get ignored by my "online friends" by like all of them (and it's not like I keep sending messages) so yeah. So I'm starting to think they're like certain family member of mine, if they can find something better to do/someone else to talk to or whatever, I'm chopped liver.

[littl3chocobo]

well maybe, since it is something many people seem to be doing maybe it is you, how do you treat them? i don't mean 'good' 'bad' 'normally' i mean look at each one and look at how /you/ are treating /them/ maybe they sense something is corrupt/broken with the relationship and are just not having anything to do with you just in case it turns out to be true, a positive attitude and a personal/warm treatment of them might be what you need to get your friends to come back

[Yokuutsu]

Well, then they need to tell me whatever the problem is instead of just ignoring me. I would do the same for them.

Why should I and how can I treat someone positively when they're ignoring me essentially? Can't talk to someone who won't even recognize that you sent them a message. I feel like by just sending them the first message that I'm bugging the crap out of them.

[Poggio]

Okay because I have two friends that are going through the same situation I can only say keep trying but at the same time understand your friend. Is your friend some one that naturally opens up? Or does it take a bond of trust for them to do so?

My one friend is constantly depressed because our other friend is off living her life. The friend that has been living her life, has known us since highschool and is an unexpected people person and gatheres flocks of friends and can be a little spacy. Though she is also an introvert but my friend (lets say A for sake of clarification ) tries and tries to communicate with her. Some days A does it, some times it is months before A finds out an event and other times she finds out through me because I found out through face book. But A has not stopped trying because she passionately loves this friend girl.

No matter what the excuses are never in a situation we do not want to be in. If you want to be friends then you will either find a way or not.