[katyasha]

Originally Posted by Demonskid

No one hires here either =/

Same as where I am I was lucky that a friend of the family needed help with some house work because she has bad allergies and her husband doesn't want to do house work at all. The pay is good and I'm helping out as well.
As for your problem I think your parents need some help, they must have something on their minds that they don't want to talk about and that is why they are taking out on you. You may want to see if they have a guidance counseling center where you live and see if they can help you with this problem and maybe fix it.
That's what me and my mom did for my dad he has this problem of panic breathing he is on O2 24/7 and every time when something goes wrong even if it is something bad, standing up, a weird smell, ect he panics. And we tried everything we can to fix this and nothing so we found out from our local guidance counseling center that they can help my dad with his problem and ease me and my mom from not stressing out.
So give it a shot it wouldn't hurt to find out why your parents are treating you badly maybe there is still some hope that this will be fixed before it is too late.

[Asami]

That wouldn't help

I had to go to a therapist for cutting myself and I found out I had pledge there and the last session she had my mom come in and my mom was playing the victim and it was horrible I was so embarrassed. They would never tell the truth. They want us kids to be the bad guys

[Xun]

(( Warning: Just letting you know, my words may sound cold-hearted and what-not, but not only am I trying to help, but I've actually went through this type of situation myself... and possibly still am. Please understand I have nothing against you, alright? 'u' ))

*facepalm* .... *double facepalm* .... *headdesks*

After reading your post Asami, I've come to conclude that it's just like any typical child's rant regarding their parents and thinking that they will never understand. Here are my thoughts about your situation:

1.) I don't know if you have school or not because of this lack of sleep. If the internet is keeping you awake, then you must immediately realize that you have made it a necessity and that's no good. People won't miss you if you're not on 24/7-- that's life. If it is because of school, tell your parents that you've been studying and have been unable to sleep. When the grounds of you getting enough rest has been established, plan out your days more orderly so that you get enough rest to be able to get up and work throughout the rest of your day.

2.) If you wanted a laptop, you could've gotten something pretty cheap like the small HP laptops or one of those ACER laptops. They go for around... what, $200-$300? I got mine for at least $300. Unless whatever your parents got you was more cheaper, then I can see why they got you that instead of a laptop. But if you're in school, then let your parents know that you need something portable to use and work on so that you can have more time for yourself once you're back home.

3.) I believe you're referring to "God dislikes favoritism" and not "God created us equal". You're mixing the bible up with the constitution. Don't do that or else you'll be confusing people and that's no good. Also-- do your parents work? If they do, then they have every right to tell you and your siblings that you need to work around the house. I don't know how long your parents work, but if it's for too long, then you should understand and be considerate. Don't complain about them being lazy themselves when they have jobs to work on. If their jobs involve them standing or dealing with very rude people, then once again I shall mention this: you should understand and be considerate.

4.) In age, are you the eldest, middle, or youngest child of the family? If you're the eldest, then you have the responsibility to work in the house. I have to work in my house as well, so don't think I don't have anything to do. If you and your siblings all went to school, then I'm pretty sure your parents would be able to split the work for you and your brothers. However, if you live in a pretty small house, then don't complain. I live in a 2-story house, so I have a lot of work to deal with in here.

5.) Don't complain about not getting a birthday cake and what-not. Having a party and a cake is your common, typical celebration and it doesn't have to be big. When you get older, you'll eventually not care. Besides, your birthday is the celebration of your birth, that you're getting older, and that you've survived another year and you continue to live. For all we know, you can just hold a birthday party between friends! The important part of a birthday is that you should be grateful that you've still alive.

Finally, how I'm reading this situation of yours, you sound to me like a spoiled brat. Honestly, I'm just going to say it's a pride issue because you want to do things you want to do and if you don't get your way... no one will. Understand that sometimes, you need to humble yourself and do things for others. It may not get you forward in life faster, but it does leave a very good impression on you when people start talking about how awesome of a person you are.

Now, I don't want to appear as if I'm siding with your parents. Let me side with you also.

Your parents need to understand that they shouldn't speak to a child negatively because it only affects their child's self esteem. If they're putting you down and saying you can't do anything, tell yourself that it's their fault! They're supposed to encourage you, not DIS-courage you.

Well, that was too long beyond comprehension, so I leave you with a tl;dr version of this all:

-Stop complaining and thank God for still living, respect your parents and they'll respect you, actually start on trying to get work or something rather than being on here. I believe it also says in the bible, "Faith without works is dead." If you don't start something, it's not going to work.

In any case, just try to reason with your parents. After all, they have more burdens than you, and if you believe you have more burdens than them, tell them. And then once you become a parent yourself, you'll see how your parents feel when having to deal with children.

[katyasha]

Originally Posted by Asami

That wouldn't help

I had to go to a therapist for cutting myself and I found out I had pledge there and the last session she had my mom come in and my mom was playing the victim and it was horrible I was so embarrassed. They would never tell the truth. They want us kids to be the bad guys

You may never know if you give it a chance, talk to someone and tell them your parents need help and not you they need the help more then you. And if they say no then fine it's their own funeral that they can't talk to someone about their problems and try to fix them then go with plan B.
That is talk with your relatives if they are willing to take you in for the time being until your parents get their act together. It's couldn't hurt.

[gremlin]

If you feel the need to cut yourself due to your mother's stupidity then you need to seek help for that problem. Your mother sounds like a complete idiot and you need to try your best to ignore her, try to tolerate your parents for now until you move out. There really isn't anything else you can do. I will suggest talking to them, sit them down and calmly tell them how they are both making you feel.

[Asami]

In response to fun

1) I don't go to school Atm because my parents wont let me. I cant go anywhere I cant walk to and seeing as there is no college within walking distance it is not possible. My mother told me she wouldn't drive me to work or school or anything so I accepted that ive been running around town applying to all the stores with no luck but I try. Me being kn the Internet is different than some people I couple Internet time with chores while j wait for replies I do chores ect rarely do I sit and do nothing while browsing

2) I TRIED getting a cheap laptop I didn't want a big expensive thing j wanted a small portable laptop that cost 200. But they got this kindle and I do like it but its worthless Atm.

3) I do know my Bible a bit and in the Bible it does state all men are created equal. But it also States we should respect our parents ect but does that give them the right to make their children slaves to their every whim?

4)I am second to youngest actually I stated that in other posts. If you'd have read them. My parents do not make my brothers do anything ever and when I clean and ask for help the refuse and say they don't know how or something silly like that

5) its not the fact that I didn't get a birthday cake that was a something small that was in a pile of other things it made me upset. But its not a big deal or anything. I just wish they would have at least remembered u.u

They make me do all the work my dad does have a job but my mom sits on her computer playing farmville and drinking wine. She makes me run around the house getting things for her
I prepare most all the meals. I clean everything. I sk the dishes. I do all the things and I don't get thanked. They complain and say I didn't do enough. They say I should do more. I try but its not enough'

I personally don't believe in the Bible or God for that matter. I have good reasons for it and if you care to know ill explain it but its rather long and its hard to type on this thing.

If you know what my mother has done to me then you probably wouldn't be saying this. There was a reason why I had to go to therapy for cutting but I don't want to say.

//sigh

[Asami]

@ kat they are too prideful to consider that. I wanted help and it ended up hitting my in the Burt. So no more for now. Not until I'm gone

@neirra I haven't cut in a while. But its jot because her stupidity maybe just a little idk hard to say id rather not talk about it.
Again if I try to talk to them they would say its not my place.


My little brother physically harms me a lot. Hes even sstabbed my eye and cut it. And he didn't get in trouble. He does all these things and yet not once has been grounded. Yet when he does those things to me. Not only do I have to suffer the pain of it but I get in trouble. I get grounded and hit more. And I ask why and they Yell at me for asking and say its not my place

It is unfair that he gets to harm me and make me feel like trash and I get in trouble for it and he walks away unharmed and such.

[Xun]

1.) Then I don't see why your parents should be complaining about you being lazy when in reality they're not willing to drive you to school. Then again, it shouldn't stop you from being persistent in getting back to school and getting the education you just deserve. Go for an AA and you should be able to get more job opportunities. Also-- it's better to have a good mindset rather than the skillset. Apparently, employers would prefer workers who have good mindsets and are willing to learn the skills over those who have the skills, yet don't have a good enough mindset.

2.) "Tried" seems to weak and it sounds like you didn't care about what kind of laptop you wanted.

3.) Book, chapter, and verse where I can find it in the bible or it doesn't exist. OmO Girl, you need proof. Also-- if you call it slavery, then the shit I go through must be hell. If your parents actually BEAT you for not doing stuff, then yes, I will call it slavery. What I'm going to call your "work" situation is simple chores unless I get confirmation that they actually hit you for not doing anything.

4.) No, I see no need to actually read other posts. So I'm assuming you're the only girl in the family, then? And do your brothers have school? If they do, then you shouldn't go to them and ask for help if they're doing work themselves. If they don't, then tell them you'll teach them how to work so they can help you around the house.

5.) You really shouldn't care about who remembers and who forgets about your birthday. If at least one person remembers, then it should be just as satisfying, if not more so, as if a huge crowd recalls your birthday.

Really, you shouldn't care about what they say. Regardless of what they "want" from you, just remind them that you did what "needs" to be done. If they say it's not enough, then you tell them to do it themselves and tell them what they see is "necessary". Remember that there's a huge difference between "want" and "need." If your family has forgotten, then let your actions be a reminder to them.

I find it ironic that you don't believe in God, and yet you claimed earlier that you know a little bit of the bible. However, I am more than willing to hear your reasons for not believing in Him.

Honestly, I believe it's better for you to share what has happened just to convince me that the shit you're going through is legit shit. Anyone can throw this type of drama on the internet and watch as the thread floods with words of encouragement. I'm not saying this to put you down, I'm just telling you what I've seen in my time being on the internet.

[hyjin]

*hugs asami*
Im sorry you didnt get the bday gift you asked for. I know how you feel when parents dont listen and the throw a fit when your tired. I have been through this type of situation before. All i can say is try to live through it and when you get the chance (aka able to move out) take it and dont look back. I try to not have much contact with my family when im in college but its kind of hard to ignore them when they constantly call...

Hopefully it gets better for you.

[Asami]

1) I would have no wayyy to go to school. I can walk 30 miles to go to school ;-; I am trying my hardest to get a job but because I live in a small town no one hires people they don't know. We moved here so j didn't grow up here and am not related to people

2)I actually had one picked out. Like I said it cost 200 and was perfect for my needs. But its whatever right? Au.u

3) I thought it was in genesis u.u ill look it up.later Kay?
I will not say anything about that because that is personal. I do not want that in the Internet. Though I have accidentally said stuff to peoples before. Anywho.

4) id appreciate if you read the post above your recent post please.

5) Meh like I said. Small.problems stack. It was one too many and the tower tumbled.

Ill make it short Kay. I grew up Lutheran Missouri Senate. My family are some of the biggest Lutherans anyone would.know it goes back a long way in fact one ancestor was one of the first Lutheran pastors. Its just beat into us. Well My mother said that my bf had to become a Lutheran to marry me. So he did and such but then Lyman got engaged his gfs religion didn't matter to my mom. Ect there are a few more reasons longer ones but that's a short one hope its satisfying.

Id rather not say certain things Kay? Isn't that my right? I dint have to convince you. Others know a bit more about my past so they would be able to respond better than you but I really dint see the need to tell you everything that has happened to.me. every hit every punch ext that's my private life. I share what I want to share.

[Asami]

Originally Posted by hyjin

*hugs asami*
Im sorry you didnt get the bday gift you asked for. I know how you feel when parents dont listen and the throw a fit when your tired. I have been through this type of situation before. All i can say is try to live through it and when you get the chance (aka able to move out) take it and dont look back. I try to not have much contact with my family when im in college but its kind of hard to ignore them when they constantly call...

Hopefully it gets better for you.

//hugs back

I mean its not all that important. But I wish they didn't waste their precious money on something I cant use. u.u
I have a plan but I just need a job ;-; that's the big problem

[hyjin]

Ah... well it kind of does suck when they use it on something that has no uses. Trust me I know. I got lucky when my uncle got me my laptop bc my parents would have gotten me something stupid... they got me a ipod nano that served a small purpose for me until i got a ipod touch. now my dad is using it... mainly i got it but i didnt get to use it bc he took it all the time and filled it with his crappy music...

[Asami]

Oh wow u.u. that sucks
I'm not too lucky my family is not close at all my moms brothers are hard to explain and my dads side is even worse o.o

This family really isn't a family either... we just don't click at all

[hyjin]

i try to avoid much contact but this summer i gotta go home... bc the campus is closing to those who didnt register for summer classes

[Asami]

Ono sorry about that
I know once I'm gone I'm gone for good
I'm probably never going to talk to them unless its important.
The things they have done to me will not be forgiven easily

[hyjin]

yeah my parents stopped paying for my college tuition for next year so i have to get financial aid. and from the looks of it today i might be covered for the whole year and a little more...