[Saiyouri]

тнє ℓσνє σƒ мαgι¢ ιѕ вєуση∂ ƒσяgσттєη
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☪ஐﻬ☽ My family is a bunch of ass holes who are abusive and treat you like shit.
And will talk about you behind your back, all run
by the biggest bitch in the world, the bitch who
calls herself my mom. The only decent people in my
family are dead. My great grandma was the only person
in the family who treated every like they are worthy
human beings and loved everyone to bits and would
take her time out to get to know you before she ever
even thought of making a judgement on you. And my
grandma she was the sweetest person, but she would
always side with my abusive mother when I had problems
with her and had problems with my husband she didn't
even know, but she was an abused woman for over 40
some years by her husband so I am not too mad at her.
I cut everyone out of my life, they hate me because I
married a great amazing man and they don't even know
him at all, just what my mom tells them, which is all
lies. So I learned alot of bad habits from them which
are hard to break. Like yelling because I am upset
or frustrated, but I have controlled it alot better
though, but with my son I snap all the time especially
since I still can't figure out why he would lie to me
but talks highly about me all the time to school. I
am just frustrated and confused with him so I snap
alot more with him than I would with anyone else.



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uǝʇʇoƃɹoɟ puoʎǝq sı ɔıƃɐɯ ɟo ǝʌol ǝɥʇ

[Feythfull]

Dx I was talking about your husband and kids. . . that family.

I am sorry you had such a terrible mother. Some people would have been neutered.

[Saiyouri]

тнє ℓσνє σƒ мαgι¢ ιѕ вєуση∂ ƒσяgσттєη
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☪ஐﻬ☽ Ya know, I think people need to be. There are too many people
out there that should never be allowed to have
kids and the prime example is my entire family.
My real family has been through alot but Joey
and I are still together and going strong even
though everything (statics) say we should of
seprated a long time ago.



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uǝʇʇoƃɹoɟ puoʎǝq sı ɔıƃɐɯ ɟo ǝʌol ǝɥʇ

[Feythfull]

I am glad to hear that! Keep on going strong!

[Saiyouri]

тнє ℓσνє σƒ мαgι¢ ιѕ вєуση∂ ƒσяgσттєη
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☪ஐﻬ☽ Oh I am definately making sure we go strong no
matter what. It's hard at times, but I don't
like arguing with him so I make sure that we
don't.



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uǝʇʇoƃɹoɟ puoʎǝq sı ɔıƃɐɯ ɟo ǝʌol ǝɥʇ

[Serra Britt]

That's really good to hear, Sai. Never giving up can be hard but it's usually the best way to get to an ideal solution.

[Saiyouri]

тнє ℓσνє σƒ мαgι¢ ιѕ вєуση∂ ƒσяgσттєη
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☪ஐﻬ☽ I gave up on my family, and my son. Well I'm giving up
on my son. I can't handle him anymore and I
try to let him get away with everything but
he keeps acting up and taking advantage of the
fact that I don't want to deal with anything
anymore. So I just called him PO and told her
everything, one of his conditions is he is to
listen to us no matter what and go to school.
Well he is breaking one and a half of those
so he better be dealt with now because I can't
handle it anymore. This weekend we went over
to the whore who calls herself my mom's place
so he can see his brothers and she is refusing
to let him see them because I refuse to appologize
for being honest to her. She's really mentally
ill and crazy as hell so I'm still getting over
that right now.

I swear I am only happy with my husband and cats.
They don't do things to me to hurt me. Sorry for
sounding really mean, I had to yell, actually scream
at my son a few times because otherwise he won't
listen to me and I got off with his PO so I'm a little
aggitated over that right now.



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uǝʇʇoƃɹoɟ puoʎǝq sı ɔıƃɐɯ ɟo ǝʌol ǝɥʇ

[Serra Britt]

Sai, your problem with your son reminds me of my friend's problem with her son. He doesn't like to go to school, though he doesn't leave in the middle once he gets there. My friend also has trouble with her dad, as he is very controlling but she's disabled, and poor, and sometimes needs financial help to raise her two kids. Unfortunately she doesn't have a kind and loving husband to help her with stuff, because she didn't get married.

I think calling your son's PO is not giving up, it's offering the problem to someone else to help you. I know it might not sound like the best thing right now, but maybe it will help you and your son in the long run. I'm sorry I don't know what else I could say to help you, but I hope by writing it all out here on Trisphee it helps you calm down some. I'm always happy to listen even if I can't give any advice, or even relate.

[Saiyouri]

тнє ℓσνє σƒ мαgι¢ ιѕ вєуση∂ ƒσяgσттєη
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☪ஐﻬ☽ Thank you. Maybe calling the PO might help us in
the long run. I hope so because I've been
putting up with his crap for over 4 years
now and I keep thinking he will behave himself
because we are close and I give him anything
he wants, I am really badly in denial lol.

I will keep you offer in mind. Talking does help,
even if advice isn't offered. It still helps alot
since his father can't talk alot during the days.



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uǝʇʇoƃɹoɟ puoʎǝq sı ɔıƃɐɯ ɟo ǝʌol ǝɥʇ

[Serra Britt]

Sometimes children know how to manipulate their parents to get what they want even if it's not the best way. I know my friend's son does the same to her. Sometimes you do need outside help, because you may know that you can't resist certain things on your own.

I know you said before that it's hard because your husband is away. I'm sure he helped a lot to enforce rules with your son, and also help you to not give in. With him being gone, not only do you have your emotional support missing, but also no one to remind you not to slip into the bad behaviors that you learned from your family while growing up. If my analysis is correct of course.

[Saiyouri]

тнє ℓσνє σƒ мαgι¢ ιѕ вєуση∂ ƒσяgσттєη
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☪ஐﻬ☽ Ya you are sadly. My husband did help me, because he would
tell our son to listen to me and stop taking
advantage of me so I was able to deal with it
a bit better. I just wished he was home more
often. But at least I get to talk to him, that
is better than nothing. This is the first time
that I listened to him when he told me to call
the PO, he's been telling me that for quite
a few months now lol. At least I listened now.
>.<;



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uǝʇʇoƃɹoɟ puoʎǝq sı ɔıƃɐɯ ɟo ǝʌol ǝɥʇ

[Serra Britt]

I'm glad you at least get to talk to him while he's out. Being in a long distance relationship myself, I can say that speaking on the phone or being online isn't nearly as good as being there in person, but it's far FAR preferable to no contact at all.

I have to vanish now, Sai. I'm glad I could help a little by listening to you. -gentle hugs-

[Saiyouri]

тнє ℓσνє σƒ мαgι¢ ιѕ вєуση∂ ƒσяgσттєη
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☪ஐﻬ☽ *hugs* Thank you again.

Have loads of fun.^^



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uǝʇʇoƃɹoɟ puoʎǝq sı ɔıƃɐɯ ɟo ǝʌol ǝɥʇ

[Feythfull]

whats a PO?

[Serra Britt]

I want to say Parole Officer. Am I right Sai? Because if not that's what I meant when I used it.

[Feythfull]

I was thinking maybe that but he's only 12. . .