[femme gauche]

Think about the fact that the culture for a good portion of that population has people marrying people for political and sociological ends, rather than because they've found someone particularly special...

[Echo-chan713]

or for economic gains, don't forget that

[femme gauche]

Well that was mainly what I meant by sociological, but yes. The point is many people are in situations where they are not looking.

[Saiyouri]

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(｡◕‿◕｡) People should only marry if they are truly in love. I hate how
people marry for stupid reasons like the ones
you two mentioned.



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[Echo-chan713]

My mom married my dad thinking that they are in love but then after a year in love they hated each other

[femme gauche]

I don't know; it's really hard to know what will last, and in many cases the ones which start for political or whatever reasons, last without difficulties... Of course there are many challenges with that as well. But people who are "in love", marry quickly without testing themselves in any way. Then the first fight splits em up. I don't know. I don't know if I want to get married. Not that it matters anyway right now, since I have not even a single prospect for a date let alone marriage.

[Echo-chan713]

My mom Marries men that have been with her for about a year, it's a short amount of time to jump into that sort of commitment

[Saiyouri]

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(｡◕‿◕｡) Marriage is tricky to figure out. Some people
can last if they marry soon and some
can last if they take their time to marry.
It all depends on the people. I'm one of the
lucky that has a marriage that will last. If
we haven't split up yet then we never will.
Too many people get divorced and I just don't
understand why they do. There had to be doubts
of some kind to begin with if the marriage didn't
last that long. At least that's what I think but
I'm different than most couples out there.



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[femme gauche]

Yeah, and yet after only one or two years people start chatting about marriage and it's like, shut up already.

[Saiyouri]

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(｡◕‿◕｡) Lol I never talked about my marriage to anyone. For
one I didn't have anyone to talk to but there
was nothing to talk about. We were just
together still like we were before, nothing
changed but a extra piece of paper saying we
legally share everything instead of choosing
to share everything.



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[femme gauche]

I mean that people start trying to get couples to get married, their families and friends, within a couple of years. Not necessarily that plans occur it's just pressure.

[Echo-chan713]

My mom did that everyone kept telling her to shut up, even her fiance told her to shut up about the wedding, she became a REAL bridezilla. Everything has to be her way or no way.

The wedding was taken place on the fields of the resort; the wedding before her had the exact color scheme: white, lilac, and brown they were real flowers and it was beautiful. No, my mom wanted them down because the white didn't match her dress.

The wedding sucked balls. No one carded anyone so my 18 year old step-sister got drunk off of at LEAST 6 rum& coke (heavy on the rum). Screwed up the catering, I didn't eat the wedding cake but everyone did and they said that it was the most disgusting cake ever. Better off making one that tastes 100 times better.

The wedding turned from $1,000 to $10,000 budget B|

[Saiyouri]

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(｡◕‿◕｡) Well that's stupid. No one should pressure someone into
marriage. Then it won't work out if you are
rushed into it when you are not ready. I was
an odd one and so was my husband, we were
ready when we first met to get married, heck
we would of married not long after we started
to date if my mom let me, but nooo she wouldn't.
But we are a rare find. People that actually
last long.

I won't deny we had our problems but that was
because we were teen parents and my mom kept
on butting in our marriage and my life every
possible chance she got, which was all the
fricken time. We did split up for awhile but
I finally realized that during that time my
mom was the cause of our problems and I needed
to cut her out of my life and I did and we
have been tighter than we were before ever
since then.

Echo- I am really sorry to hear that. Things like
that should never of happened. Sadly there are
women like your mom and there shouldn't A
wedding day is the day you will never forget, it
is supposed to be the happiest day in your life,
but alot of people out there take it too far
and ruin the whole thing by not enjoying the
process of getting married. People should enjoy
getting their wedding together, not stressed out
and have to have the best of everything. I feel
simpler is better, but that's because I think all
out extravagant weddings are ridiculous.



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[femme gauche]

Many women today feel like somehow they aren't women if they don't do the big wedding thing. It's sad...

My sister eloped. People suspected ti would happen, his family is in Alabama; hers is in Michigan; they married in Chicago, and did a little photo shoot in the city. My mom held a party at a local restaurant. But that all seems better to me than a big wedding. It makes me sick.

[Echo-chan713]

I would have a hard time with my reception because I'm so different from my family because I'm the club dancing type of girl and everyone in my family rather sit and talk for hours. I hate country and everyone loves country.

[femme gauche]

I can't see myself going to a club, unless it was more of a punk type atmosphere (not fakey though) and I don't like country, either. Haha. But I don't hate my family... I still live with my parents, heh.