[Joey]

I don't know where else to put this, so I put this here. As you can see, I don't post very often.. I want to post more yes, but I'm afraid that people may judge me or hate me even. I have this problem with big forums like this. I want to post more, but its so hard. I don't want to leave Trisphee either, but if I rarely post, people won't know who I am, or want to be friends with me.

I want to make friends too, but that's another problem I have. I'm not very good at making friends on forums. Only way I can think of is to send a private message to someone and ask for friendship. That is what I have done in the past. And it's hard for me to chat with someone in a actual thread and join a conversation. And sometimes if someone doesn't reply back to me in a topic, makes me feel like I have been ignored.

So, what can I do? I want to stay here at Trisphee, but it's very hard for me to post a lot, etc.

[Serra Britt]

I have to admit, it's a lot easier for someone who's not shy to state their feelings to jump into a conversation and keep talking even if it feels like they are being ignored. I know I pushed my way into several of the clubhouses and just started talking.. at first I didn't care if anyone paid attention to me because I still felt like I was participating. Eventually after a few days people were used to seeing me there and started to talk back to me, either that or I was just saying the right stuff.

I really don't think you should worry about being judged here. I mean, I'm a transgirl and no one gives me any problems about it. I think most of Trisphee is a very caring community and would be happy to hear what you have to say even if they don't fully agree with everything.

I know it's probably hard but.. maybe you can just try to find someplace (follow me in if it helps) and start posting. Make yourself heard. Reply to people even if they don't reply to you. I know it's hard for you Joey but I'll do what I can to help... if you want me to that is.

[Fey]

It can be hard to just jump into a pre-established thread. Pushing your way through the awkward 'newly here' stage you'll find everyone here is super nice. I can't imagine they'll judge you, outside of being a snappy dresser ;)

If you really don't feel comfortable jumping into long, ongoing, threads start your own! We're more than willing to wander into new places to start chats up. Then you can master of your own conversation!

[Quiet Man Cometh]

For starters, don't worry so much. :p.

I'm one of those people who's fairly shy in real life but not so much online, but it also helps that I've been on forums before and the slight anonymity online helps with not feeling so vulnerable if that's a concern. I don't think you need to worry about being judged either. I used to be concerned about that but ultimatley, I haven't actually found that to be an issue much. I may not have always given people reason to like me, but that doesn't mean that I given them reason to not like me.

If you want to start posting more, maybe start up a thread yourself in something you are interested in, such as a movie or a game over in the entertainment forums, or a topic in general in the community discussion. People with similar interests may show up to chat and that gives some common ground to start with. You may find yourself talking often with particular users based on similar interests and friendship can develop from there.

[Suzerain of Sheol]

I'll echo everything that's been said above, especially Quiet's post, as it pretty much sums up my experience with this site to a T. Honestly, this is the nicest community I've ever been a part of, and I've been part of a fair few.

I had a hard time getting started here, too, and felt the same way as you looking around at all the lengthy topics, but it's only been a month and I feel completely comfortable as part of the community, now. You just have to give it time, and try to post when you can. People can't befriend you if they don't know you. ;)

Also, I don't know if it's your thing, but I'm in the process of starting up a roleplay at the moment, and you're more than welcome to join in there if you want to. :)

[Joey]

@Suzerain
Guess I could try out the roleplay, but I rarely ever did roleplays in the past, and back then I was not very good at it either. But I shall give it a try. That and I will try out that group story too.

Edit: I know I said I try out the roleplay, but looks like I won't be able to do it at the moment. :/

And thank you everyone for the help, though I'm not good at making new threads either. But I will try my best to make a new thread, just need to think about a good topic to start with.

[Quiet Man Cometh]

I wouldn't worry too much about a "good" topic. Just pick something you are interested in. That will at least give you something to say and things to talk about. That makes it easier to use the thread for chat.

There's a thread on chocolate in the central square. It's reasonably popular, so I took a shot and made one on tea because I love the stuff, and it's gotten some attention so far. :).

[Joey]

Ah, I see. Well, I was thinking of actually starting my own roleplay topic, but I don't know how. I heard from Serra that CupcakeDolly knows a lot about roleplays, so I left her a visitor message asking for advice on how to start one.

And thank you for the advice too Quiet! ^^

[FaceMeetsPalm]

If you want advice about roleplay threads, I suggest you keep it organized, and try to keep your plot ideas as detailed as possible. Be as clear as you can be, and encourage people to bring their own ideas to the table. State your preferences clearly, and don't be afraid to rant a little bit. =)

[animeloverluna]

i would like to be friends. º.=.º

and being shy is okay. just be you'r self

[Joey]

@FaceMeetsPalm
Ah, I see. Thank you for the advice!

@animeloverluna
Sure, that's fine with me.

[FaceMeetsPalm]

@Joey: You're very welcome. Did I leave anything out?

[Joey]

@FaceMeetsPalm
What do you mean by leaving anything out?

[FaceMeetsPalm]

@Joey: Sometimes I don't realize I've left something out when I give a person information. *chuckles*

[Joey]

Sorry to everyone that I have been late on trying to post a new topic. Been mostly posting in the same few threads. I finally made a topic of my own, and its a roleplay. Also, here is the link to the thread:

http://trisphee.com/forums/showthread.php?p=739218

Also, thank you everyone again for trying to help me too. I hope in the future, I can be less shy, and be a little more active than where I am now.

[Gallowsraven]

Don't worry, you'll get passed that stage with us, i think we all start out the same way. If it helps at all, just remember that most of us (I don't know if you actually know anyone here in reality) don't know you in real life, this is a chance to show your true colours, and if people don't like it then they're not worth your time.

Nothing like cyber-space to boost confidence :D But everyone here i've found is really friendly, so you've got nothing to worry about.