[Misericorde]

So today, the secretary at my school hands me an envelope with all the Graduation details inside. After 7 years of highschool, I'm finally graduating. Something my mom wanted so badly for me, and something my dad wants for me. I should be ecstatic, right? Wrong.

My mom died in November, so she won't be there for my graduation. That was something I was ok with, and knew I could deal with. But today, when I got in the car and asked my dad if he'd come to the ceremony... All he could say was "if I have to".

What father on EARTH would say something like that to the daughter he's been pushing and encouraging and guilting into graduating? Can he not see how badly those words sting? It's like someone taking a thin whip and cracking me over the nipple with it.

I felt my heart almost shatter into a million pieces, and the worst part is I don't think he knows just how bad he hurt me. And I can't tell him either. I talked to my aunt and she said she'll talk to him, but this scares me. I don't want him to get mad at me for taking something too personally or the wrong way...

What should be something happy for me is just depressing me... -Sighs.- I wanna curl up in a ball and cry myself to death...

[Taiania]

Awww. That was really harsh of him. He shouldn't have said that and you should be very proud of yourself. 'hugs'

[Sarah]

aw.. yeah he shouldn't of said that. i'm sorry about your mom. I don't know what i'd do without mine..:/

[Damies]

Your dad sounds like he is way out of touch with how you feel... It seems to me that if a parent pushes the kid to do something htey should go to the kids ceremony that signifies the success of that obstacle.

[Lunaryon]

I really don't know how someone could say something like that. I'd probably have slapped him right as he said that.

[Chi]

That was rather harsh of him...
I don't think you're taking it too hard at all.
I always get really depressed when I try to do well in school and things fall apart.
If my parents had said something like that to me about my grades, I'd be terribly upset.
You have a right to be upset and he should apologize.
If he gets mad at you for the way you reacted just explain it to him.
Tell him that he wanted you to do well and you achieved that.
Tell him how you really feel, that it would mean a great deal if he stood in the crowd and cheered for you in celebration.
That may be a little too much but just explain it would mean a lot if he was there and treated it properly instead of like a chore.

[Misericorde]

Thanks for the advice and support everyone. I don't think my dad has any idea how I feel about what he said, I haven't told him. I got out of the car this afternoon, and I didn't talk to him until only about an hour ago to say good night. I don't know how to tell him, but I'm hoping I'll figure something out... Thanks for the suggestions everyone, it means a lot to me. <3

[Fizzyology]

Most adults don't seem to notice how they make people feel with what they say. Think of it this way though; You're mother died and that's terrible, but you Dad's wife died. It's harsh enough when someone you love dies but when your own spouse dies, I can't imagine the way you Dad's feeling. Most people would become desensitized after a situation like that.

Honestly I'm not going to say that it was ok for him to say what he did, but you don't know his side of the story, nor do you know how he was feeling at the time. Hell he might not even realize that he said it.

If you're having a hard time talking to him, try focusing what you want to say to him as a letter and give it to him before you go to school.

[Funkduder]

Since Mr. Fizz, here, mentioned it, I might as well agree because in a way, it's true: your Dad did lose his wife. He might even get depressed in seeing you because daughters, in general, tend to be similar to their mothers. However, like everyone else said, that doesn't mean that what he said was acceptable, and I think that in a more or less diplomatic way, you should let him know you feelings about what he said.

[Ginger]

I think Funkduder explained what I was going to say.

It'll be alright. You'll be graduated and the best part is, you did it for YOU, even if you thought you did it for your parents. You're setting yourself up for success. You should be very proud. I know I am..

[Batty]

I'm with Ginger on this one. I know it means a lot to you for him to be there, and him disregarding it like he did wasn't very nice. But you did this for YOU. Be proud of that fact. <3

[Lauv Keiko]

I totally understand that feeling, miseh..D:
I had a fight with my dad last night because he's "challenging" me to go look for a job...
what he didn't understand is that what he says comes off as discouragement for me...D:

I hope he changes his mind and realizes that HE SHOULD be there because it's your special day ^^
*hugs*

[Sunako]

Hmmm that really wasn't fair of him to say that. That response sounded like he doesn't care that you are graduation, but he probably does care and doesn't know how to respond to it.

Luckily your aunt will speak to him about it, and hopefully he will apoligize about how he has been reacting. Good luck

Sorry about what happened to your mum though, I sorta know what its like as my dad died when I was 11 years old.