[Rainbowfox Ari]

Originally Posted by Kaderin Triste

@Shane: Have you overcome any fears in your life and if so, which one was the hardest to overcome?

Shane:
Now if that isn't a loaded question... I suppose so. Fear and I walk hand-in-hand, so it's less about overcoming, and more about learning to live with. For the longest time, I had a fear of love. I know, that's stupid, but it was there. Put there in my heart by someone I don't want to talk about, but... It was there. Still is. I guess the whole point is that I haven't 'overcome' it - but I have learned to work with it. That's been the hardest thing for me to do.

[Rainbowfox Ari]

Originally Posted by Kaderin Triste

@Ian: If you thought that someone you were dating, or even just a friend, had an impossible to achieve dream would you try to be supportive anyway or would you try to talk them out of reaching for it?

Ian:
So long as they weren't hurting themselves in the process, I guess I'd try to help them achieve it. Something is only 'impossible' if you believe it is. Therefore, turning that statement around - I would attempt to make that impossible thing a possible thing. You never know what it takes, but you just might do it.

[Rainbowfox Ari]

Originally Posted by Death by Mirrors

[STRIKE]@everyone: Did you ever catch yourself having a dream that - despite secretly longing for it - you were actually also afraid of? (Both "oh my god I really shouldn't wish for this" and "I truly want to do this, but the thought scares the living daylights out of me" counts)

Ian:
I'm going to be really short, and really blunt with this, and I'm sorry in advance. I'm pretty sure fervently wishing for the death of your father counts as shouldn't be wanting to have, or afraid of.



Shane:
I guess being 'stable' in love is something I really shouldn't want. Maybe I'm sort of afraid of it. I was hurt before in the past, so I think maybe that's why I seem to be fearful of it happening in the future. On one hand, there's the whole 'Wouldn't this be cool' thing - and on the other, there's this 'Oh gods, what if-' scenario... So I think that counts.

[Rainbowfox Ari]

Originally Posted by mdom

@everyone - what do you hope with the Bachelor? To get a date only or to find a meaningful relationship?

Ian:
I don't really know what I want out of it. I was pulled here by a buddy of mine, and took the interview on a whim. -Shrug- I guess a relationship would be nice. Something where I was... yanno, more than just a pretty body, or a clothes horse. Someone to talk to, someone to spend time with.... Silly, I know. Well, I don't know - I think. It's silly. But maybe there's a chance for me, who knows.

Shane:
I'd like to come away from this with a greater appreciation of love and infatuation. I know that's not in your realm of possibilities, but... getting a 'date' and having a 'relationship' aren't really things I can pursue to the fullest extent of... well, where they need to be pursued. I'd like to, surely! But I'm not entirely sure I'm going to find my perfect match on this show. I'm doubtful my perfect match even exists.

[Rainbowfox Ari]

Originally Posted by Witchchylde

@Shane If life is but a dream (sha-boom sha-boom, la la la la la la la), would you rather it was your dream or someone else's that you were living in?

Shane:
Oh, wow. Well... if life WERE a dream, and I was merely a player in someone else's play... I believe that would be for the best. This life sometimes feels like a dream, but I think it would be more terrifying, for me, if it was my own. I'd much rather be living out someone else's fantasies. My own are far too dark... Granted, I might be drawn to wonder if this life WAS a dream, whose dream would it be? I've had more than enough happen in this life to wonder about my own sanity. I would be more than a little concerned if it turned out to be someone else that was imagining these things.

[Rainbowfox Ari]

Originally Posted by Death by Mirrors

@everyone: If you need to face your biggest fear, what (or who) do you think will help you succeed?

Ian:
I think that question relies a bit too much on thinking that fear could be - or needs to be - faced. My fears and I have an understanding. They are there, and I acknowledge them, but I never dive headfirst anywhere they can come and bother me. I'm perfectly happy with never touching them at all. I can say, do, see, and ponder just fine without them.

Shane:
I think Ian's missing the point, but my two cents is that if I were to attempt to face my biggest fears - and I have more than one... I would need someone patient enough, kind enough, and strong enough beside me to help me overcome them. Simple fears like heights and planes, frogs, and mice, or water and the dark? Those are easy to face. Fears of larger concepts are more difficult, and would require something more of a patient and loving teacher. I could never face what it is I fear above all... without someone else to help me through it.

[Rainbowfox Ari]

Alright! That's about enough for that topic! It's time to move on! Kind audience, if you would please look behind you, there are refreshments on the tables set up on either side of the studio. You'll find cookies, cakes, chocolates, and various beverages. Please partake of them with our hospitality as we move on to the next topic. Our next topic of discussion is:

PAST RELATIONSHIPS

A huge shout-out to Danny's Delish catering for providing snacks for both our audience and our participants. Remember: Need Catering? Think Danny's Delish - Number One in catering since 1993. And now, back to our questions!

[Death by Mirrors]

Originally Posted by Rainbowfox Ari

[Nope, this show turned into Ari getting really sick for a couple of days. Sorry about that. XD]

No need to apologize in my opinion. Glad you're feeling better!

[Kaderin Triste]

Just glad you're alrigt, Ari! Hope you feel better!

@Shane: Knowing what you do now, if you were given an opportunity to go back in time and try a relationship again in the hopes of maybe changing the outcome, would you take that opportunity?

@Ian: Do you feel it's important or good to talk about past relationships in a new relationship? Why or why not?

[MonBon]

@everyone

Is there someone from a past relationship that, despite it being well and over, you sometimes wish it wasn't over?

[Potironette]

Originally Posted by Rainbowfox Ari

A huge shout-out to Danny's Delish catering for providing snacks for both our audience and our participants. Remember: Need Catering? Think Danny's Delish - Number One in catering since 1993. And now, back to our questions!

Lol x'D.


@everyone: what ends a relationship for you? (Friends/lovers/family/etc.)

@everyone: do you tend to dwell on past relationships?

[mdom]

Where's the number of that catering? I'm loving the cakes!
/stuffing face instead of looking for a date

I mean...

@everyone: What's the most important thing your past relationships have taught you?

[Rainbowfox Ari]

Originally Posted by Kaderin Triste

@Shane: Knowing what you do now, if you were given an opportunity to go back in time and try a relationship again in the hopes of maybe changing the outcome, would you take that opportunity?

Shane:
Truth be told, I've only had one serious relationship in the past, and no matter what I did or tried, I don't think I could ever change the outcome. The gentleman in question was a broken soul in more ways than one, and I don't believe I could have ever truly 'fixed' what was fundamentally wrong in his heart. Not without losing myself in the process. It's the kind of thing you don't want to relive, and don't want to admit, but some people are just too broken to be fixed. Or, conversely, don't WANT to be fixed. He was abusive in the worst ways, and I would never have been able to change that. I'm glad it's over - and no, I don't think I could alter the outcome any. I guess the answer to your question is a passionate No. I don't even want to try and put myself through that again. Especially knowing what I do now.

[Rainbowfox Ari]

Originally Posted by Kaderin Triste

@Ian: Do you feel it's important or good to talk about past relationships in a new relationship? Why or why not?

Ian:
Not really, no. I won't go into it at-length, but I believe that past relationships - unless there is an issue that directly relates to a present one - are in the past for a reason. Dredging up dirty laundry never served anyone well.

[Rainbowfox Ari]

Originally Posted by MonBon

@everyone

Is there someone from a past relationship that, despite it being well and over, you sometimes wish it wasn't over?

Ian:
There's never been anyone - so... no.




Shane:
No. Wishing it wasn't over would mean accepting that the abuse was okay. It wasn't. So no.

[Rainbowfox Ari]

Originally Posted by Potironette

@everyone: what ends a relationship for you? (Friends/lovers/family/etc.)

Ian:
Anything can end a relationship. For me, it's more of an acceptance thing. If you can't accept who I am as a person - as dark, silly, fearful, or strange as that may be - that's a real relationship ender. There has to be some give and take in that whole area. You have to accept me as I accept you, or the deal's off.


Shane:
What ends a relationship for me is lack of trust, and lack of truth. Lies and deceit have hurt me horribly in the past, and I don't wish to repeat that experience. Thus, if you like to me - even white lies - I'm going to trust you less, and trust is a HUGE element in any sort of relationship that I have. I will, and have, cut off family members, lovers, and friends for lying to my face. I won't hesitate to do it again if it happens again. Like I said - TRUST is a big issue with me.