[Uruviel]

I'm 19 years-old, I graduated High School last year. And I just got accepted in to college. I decided to take a year off just to have a car in my name, get a job and save some money. And right now, I have a job, I have some money saved and I almost bought my car off of my dad.
And the college that Im going to is 30 minutes away. And I dont wanna drive that much to go to school.
And my boyfriend, we've been going out for 3 1/2 years, is going to college this fall and he's going to another college closer. Then to transfer to the college Im going to. And he hasn't gotten a job yet. And we want to move in with each other when he transfers to the college Im going to, we're going to move closer to the college we're going to go to.
And Im not really sure where to start and I need some advise

[Ashy]

30mins isnt actually too bad, it takes me a bit over an hour to get to university and about 45mins to get to work and it flies by. If you still want to find another place closer then it's worth having a look now for apartments(or whatever) even so you can see what the price is going to be like. Have you considered maybe living on campus?

[Tiva]

Living on Campus for your first year of college is recommended by most colleges in the US unless they don't have housing. It is a better way to get into the college life and make friends, it may require giving up your job and finding a new one though if 30 minutes is too far of a drive. At my college you can live up to 30 minutes away as a freshman if you live with your parents, but still have to use freshman parking (which is out in the middle of no where) and have a meal plan.

Also, think before moving in with your boyfriend, I know Alpha and I had a lot of problems first moving in with cleaning, and who should clean. At the time I had a job and he didn't, so it all fell on him and it never got done when i worked morning shift. Even if you guys have been together for years moving in together is a big step and a commitment. You can't just kick him out if you have a fight, and you will be stuck together for the remainder of the lease if you break up. The best advice if you are going to is to get a 2 bedroom for just incase it does happen and have a plan of action, and remember that you have to act like adults.

[Uruviel]

Living with my boyfriend will improve our relationship. And we've been planning on moving in together for the past 6 months, and probably going to wait another 6 months to actually do something about moving. So, with him moving in with me will be no problem.
And living on campus is not something I would prefer. I dont get close to someone thats a stranger very quickly. so it would be just horrible.
I would like to move to closer so I wouldnt have to use so much money on gas, even though it only takes $30 to fill up my gas tank.
But, I know we wouldnt be able to afford a 2 bedroom apartment. If we have a fight, he could just sleep on the couch. But, we rarely fight. So, I think just a studio/1 bedroom apartment would be just fine.

And I've been thinking about my job if I move down there, I would have to put in a transfer, and I know everyone at my work would completely miss me. But, I'm doing this for myself. And I would rather further my education then people at my work holding me back.

[Tiva]

The one bedroom/studio is a horrible idea. Stating that he will sleep on the couch, if you guys break up or get in a fight. He may not want to live with you if he has to sleep on the couch if you break up and he can't get some space of his own. Also, in most college towns only one person can sign per bedroom on the lease so he wouldn't be on the lease and could LEAVE at any point and then you would have to pay the full term of the lease. Alpha & I have done leases and we had a roommate who was on the lease and abandoned it. She flat out left and then we had to file suit on her for trying to not pay the lease, and her name was on the lease.

You need to think about what you are doing, because it can backfire right in your face.

[Uruviel]

Yeah I know. I still have some time until we actually do something. I just wanted some advise.
It's just that I'm really confused right now. And Im not sure.

[Lucid:]

Moving in with somebody can show a completely different side of them, even if you've known them for years. It usually puts strains and hardships on relationships.

Scenario one: Two years ago, I moved in with one of my best friends. It was a great time for like one month, except that she had some bad habits that I didn't expect. But eventually, she started getting really weird, started being extra secretive about everything she did and would never help out around the apartment. She got moody and retreated to her room to sulk whenever me or our other roommate asked her to help with house chores, if we suggested she join us hanging out with neighbors, or even sometimes during casual conversation where she didn't like our opinions. She used to be one of my closest friends, but moving in with her was a complete nightmare and completely ruined our friendship.

Scenario two: When I moved in with my husband, it luckily wasn't such a hard time as with my friend, haha. However, I definitely had to get used to some of his odd habits, it's hard to agree on house chores, and our sleeping schedules did not match up at all and that was really hard on us. We argued so much more after moving in than we ever did while we were just dating. I don't think moving in with each other is the fantasy dream scenario that you're thinking it will be. It's actually really hard on a relationship to live with each other.

[Uruviel]

Well, I moved in his house for about a month because there was some major problems at my house, which there still is, and it was completely fine. This was about 8 months ago. But, Im not sure what would happen if we did move out together.
I just feel like I shouldnt move in with him now.

[Lucid:]

Was that with just the two of you or with his family as well? Again, the situation is different when there's family around than when you're on your own trying to live as responsible adults.

Ultimately, it's your decision what to do. I just want you to think really carefully about what you choose to do. Moving in with somebody is a huge step in a relationship. It takes a lot of compromise for both of you to make it work. If you think you both can be mature adults and talk though all your differences and make compromises for each other, then I don't want to stop you from making that choice. You've got to trust that both of you to be able to do that, though.

[Tiva]

I still think that you could avoid the problem of it by moving into a 2 bedroom. The apartment quality may be less but it offers a safety net if you do run into problems.

[Uruviel]

Well, I guess so. But, I've been looking at apartments and they cost about 700-900 a month for a 2 bedroom apartment. And a 1 bedroom is half that.

[Tiva]

Yeah but it is also so small of a space that 2 people living in it is a hassle. Remember you both bring all of your clothes, and it is only one closet. Look for a 2 bed 1 bath, it typically cost about 200 more than a one bedroom but it give you a lot more space living wise.

[Uruviel]

We both do not have a lot of things in the first place. I really just have like 3 pairs of pants and about 4 tee's and thats it for my clothing. I dont have much clothing because I work 80% of the time Im wake. And I usually pay for my own clothing so. If he needed a little more space then I do, he can use it