[Glitch]

So I was going to have a baby and lost it recently. . . I haven't been able to get my feet beneath me and I feel weird all the time. Like depressed but also kind of in denial about it.

I am only posting about it here because someone said something completely harmless but it made me feel like I wanted to punch them, so I thought I'd ask for advice on how to channel emotions rather than bottling them up.

Last night I went to a friend's house that my boyfriend hadn't remembered to tell we lost it too, and I couldn't bring myself to tell them so I just sat like a lump on the couch the whole time. I don't know what to say or how to act or how to handle it.

Also today one of my higher up bosses called and when she got me on the phone (I am one of two receptionists) she immediately told me she heard what happened and asked how I was doing, I didn't know what to say.I just feel like I'm lying to people and myself and now complete strangers making silly poem posts about children is making me want to curse them out for no real reason. Bah I don't know and I don't know that anyone could offer any advice.

I just don't know how to handle the news or how to handle the things people find to say to me - I don't think I can just keep ignoring it and pretending I didn't hear it. I don't want to take my feelings out on other people. :(

[Tiva]

People don't expect you to be okay Winter. You lost a family member, mild depression is normal.

How far along were you? I want to say that if you are over 4 months along your medical plan may include loss counciling.

But my mother had 3 miscarriages ranging from 2 months to 6 months, and her one statement when my sister was pregnant was that depression after miscarriage happens a lot more than you think and the closer you were to your due date the worse it is. Talk to your mother and take comfort if people who offer it, your boss may let you have time off work do to physical and emotional loss.

[Glitch]

They let me have one day off but that was it really ^^;; I still had to go to work with stomach cramps and pains and they even kept me late. xp I was a grouchy goose about it.

I was in my 2nd month, not very far along but this is actually my 2nd miscarriage but the first one was 5 years ago and I had not been planning on keeping that one. So this one is just . . . devastating because we were so excited about it and now I feel like something is wrong with me. My mother and my grandparents never had a miscarriage and they don't know how to relate with me other than to say they are sorry. I had told my mom my concerns at the beginning and she said it wouldn't happen to me because it didn't happen to her. So it's just like blehh >.<

I know it's ok to be emotional, I just feel like there should be a better way to channel being angry. This is all over a stupid comment from a stranger with some poem about children and parents crying when they're taken away. That line just made me so upset. I'm sorry for ranting in here I feel so lame xp

[Serra Britt]

Can't say I know about the pain of losing a baby, so I won't talk about that.

I'm not that great at channeling emotions but I have tried some stuff that sometimes works for me. The best one is to talk to someone openly about everything. I happen to have some good friends who are willing to listen without being judgmental and being able to speak plainly about what's on my mind helps a lot, at least to help sort out how I feel. Maybe you can try that out.

As for other methods...well it's hard for me to recommend some stuff when it doesn't work well for me but here goes. Games of the non-challenging violent kind sometimes help get rid of anger on stuff that won't care. Playing puzzle games may help busy your mind or at least sort things out. Can't forget the M-rated suggestion too.

Sex games might work.

I wish you well Winter, and I hope some of my advice might help.

[Glitch]

I normally try to put it into art but I don't feel any drive todo anything and its really annoying to me. It's like I can talk a lot and want to yell and cry but how do I talk myself into getting up and doing something! ><

[Twigg]

Oh, honey. :(
I'm so sorry.

And I can't say I know what you're going through, but my mother had something like 10 miscarriages before she had me, and she told me that she was feeling a lot like you are the first time.
Nobody would ever, ever blame you for being upset, even if you don't channel your feelings properly. So in my opinion, the first step would be to not let what other people think about your feelings bother you.

Secondly, have you considered therapy? That can help a lot as well. If you don't like actually speaking with a therapist, there are many online outlets you can find.

If you're anything like me you could also try removing yourself from the situation. Go get some fresh air or something to relax yourself and gather your thoughts, then go back and explain things calmly?