[Meizicht]

Please close this; it's done.

[Glitch]

I was in a relationship kind of like this. I mean not really but as far as the basic feelings -yes. I used to be in big trouble if I didn't talk to him when he wanted to talk but he'd never talk to me if I wanted to - that part.

Ultimately for me, it came down to him wanting to feel like he had a girlfriend but not caring who it was- which led to my suffering and never feeling good enough, and stooping to doing things I did not want to do just to win his attention.

It's not worth it, you are better than that. You deserve somebody who wants to talk to you as much as you want to talk to them. Somebody who would go buy a webcam just so they could see you when they weren't home. Somebody who would spend the whole day talking to you just because they could. Somebody that makes it so you can't help but smile.

Loving somebody, but feeling so awful about youself - isn't worth it. You can love them, but you should let them go for your own well being. If they want you, if they really care, they'll fight to get you back - and then it becomes your choice.

[MuseSick]

The truth is; is that no matter his intentions, weather he's doing it on purpose, or doesn't realize it. Chances are, even if you call him out on it he'll do it again. It's not my place to tell you if you should leave him or not, that's entirely your choice, because it's your life. No one on here, no matter what they say, is going to be your yes or no. When people give you feedback, yes listen, but don't make it or brake it. Because this isn't about us it's about you. It's startling how many people read someone's opinion and instantly decide they've got the best one. But this isn't the point. My point is, is that yeah people say love is pain, but you shouldn't wake up every god damn day dreding a phone call from the boy's Mum, or hating that you want him to get on, but when he's finally there you wish you could take it all back and go back to bed. Go back to the moment in the day where you could completely change your mind about wanting him.

I can tell you what I'd do personally; and it's not easy. But I'd up and leave because love doesn't hurt that much. Yes- lovers do little things that hurt, but at some point there is a feeling of relief, that you've worked something out and it's behind you. Consistently bringing up the same issues over and over, without fixing them- it's not love. It's work. Love should never be considered like going to work. People should never think that work and love are something of equal value, unless you love your job to bits. Like I said it's not my place to say what you should do.

But is he really worth it? Really worth turning around and feeling like shit everyday? Worth the risk of his Mum making up some bullshit to the cops because you're different? At the end of the day all you can ask yourself is if it's really what you want. If it's worth it.

My personal beliefs on love are that there is always someone better out there, falling is love is based on getting sick of looking, and stumbling upon someone better than your ex. You've got to ask yourself if he's worth it, because I'm sure you could go on without him.

If you choose to go on through life without him, my best suggestion is to "quit cold turkey" block him, delete him, get your phone company to block his number from your phone, ect. Because it's not healthy for you to wake up every day and go back to bed thinking you've never had a worse day in your entire life.

Chances are if you feel abused you are abused.

Don't be the child who was afraid to call children's aid,
Or the girl who never left the abusive boyfriend because she was scared.
Or the man who wouldn't divorce his wife because he thought she'd take away his kids.

You don't need him, and chances are you'd be better off without him.

I hope this helps you in some way shape or, well just generally any way.
Feel free to PM me if you want, or anything really.
I like to help.

[Fey]

Let's start simple.
This is abuse.
And no one, even someone you love, has the right to abuse you. Ever. For any reason.

You are NOT giving up on him, but you are giving up on an abusive relationship. There is NOTHING wrong with that. You deserve better than that, and you need to recognize it.

What he is doing is most definitely manipulative, whether it's intentional or not. But no matter what HE is going through it doesn't give him the right to abuse you, even unintentionally. It's fine to love him, but you can't stay in a relationship just for someone else when it's hurting you mentally.

Inform him that you are there for him, when he can treat you like a fellow human being. Until that time you aren't going to be in contact with him because you deserve the same respect and care that he does, and right now you're not getting it.

[Mizeria]

honey; this is mental abuse. Everything you have up there has happened to me more then once. You want to be there for them and help them, and then they turn around and rip you apart inside. Its best for you to stop it now. Tell him goodbye. Lose his email, phone number, IM names. LOSE EVERYTHING. You have no reason to live like this.

Loving someone hurts. Loving someone that hurts you and treats you like trash is the worst things ever. I understand the thoughts that are going through your head even as you read this.
"I love him, I can't see myself without him even though he hurts me things will get better, He'll hurt himself with out me, something bad will happen and it will be all my fault. etc."

Does he treat you like he cares? Does he pick you up when you fall? Is he there for you EVER? Even if he "doesn't mean to" he's ignoring you, mistreating you, and hurting you. You have done nothing to deserve this.

That's my advice though.
I had a suicidal ex that treated me like that pretty much to the T. He said without me he would kill himself. But its been years and he's still around today. Theres someone better out there for you. It may take a while to find, but I promise you you don't have to be hurting all the time.

[Meizicht]

Edited; don't want to leave my business in the open.

[Alexander Linden]

Is this the same guy? Do I have to do something about this?

[littl3chocobo]

tch, sounds like you are stalking me only mine does not even love me, do us both a favor and leave this guy, trust me when i say this; he /won't/ change for you, not ever, even if you wait, and especially if you let him lead you around by the nose like this

[Alexander Linden]

People shouldn't have to change to be in a relationship anyway. If he's really that bad, leave him.