[Hikori]

Forgive me for starting in the middle of the story, and forgive me for starting without any concretes, but I feel at an impasse. Oh and also forgive the way I am writing because A. it makes no sense, and B. all it serves to do is calm me a TINY bit.

NOW THEN:

Every time I try to express myself(especially lately) everything blows up in my face. I feel I need to learn to keep my mouth shut, or at the very least I feel that I need someone to at least stop me from saying things in such a way that drives a situation awkward... because my immediate reaction is to dissect and explain what I meant, but that act allow draws a situation deeper and deeper into the sphincter, so to speak... And somehow I feel I've done it again... in my mildly if not overly way of explaining via un-explaining...

Can anyone give me any tips/hints as to what I can do to rectify this issue? Am I doomed to continue this folly of mine endlessly... or am I just over reacting and making myself worry into a corner?

your thoughts for a piece of eight?

[Merlin]

I'd say that you're overthinking. Just stop and roll with it. They'll ask if they don't quite understand what you mean. . . Mostly in the form of "Uuuuuh what?" but then allow some time to gather your thoughts before trying to explain yourself, because usually when you're rushed you'll probably say something wrong that you didn't even mean to say.

[H u s h]

I totally agree with Sevvy. C:

Thing is, this happens to me too, and it's very very frustrating. :'c
I am rather gullible and innocent, so it's easy for me to say ' the wrong' thing when I try to explain myself, and if I try to explain it more, that goes wrong too. ; u ; So my best advice would be to think a little more before you speak, to avoid more confusion. ; w ;

[Hikori]

thank you so much... i'll try... but honestly i really fail at stopping and thinking.

[Merlin]

Well, that's something that needs to be actively thought of. It's not something that comes completely natural, so there's a way to learn with practice and analysis. If need be, just say, "Hold on, lemme think." I can definitely think of plenty of examples. I'm sure you read what you write before it goes into a post, correct?

[Hikori]

Actually I don't... every time i read what i write before i post i literally delete the whole thing...

Okay that was a lie, but i'm not talking about forum stuff, i mean in real life where there is no reading, and stuff akin to that.

[Merlin]

Well, of course it's different in that sense, but when you go through what you're going to say in your head to see if that's how you want to word it, it's like reading what you wrote before it's posted... Just more memorization in the process when you can't read it.

[Hikori]

but it sounds okay in my head . n.

[Lauv Keiko]

Some people just get the wrong idea, sometimes. You try to explain things to them and they'd get the wrong idea.
I can't really give you tips, but I can share what I do whenever I get in that kind of situation xD ... When I express myself, I use jokes (no sarcasm) or When I confuse the person I'm talking to, I stop, let them ask me questions and explain bit by bit, but always straight to the point.
(although I do think you're worrying yourself too much, love)