[shay_almost]

So I'm having some issues with my 20 something single male roommate. Currently my boyfriend and I have four largish cats and the roommate has two small cats. He had moved in a month ago saying that his cats eat kitten food still so he would be buying his own. He currently is using our cat food, but he isn't using a lot. The thing that gets me is the fact that we are not the ones buying the food all the time and I don't feel that it is fair to my mother for her to be getting cat food when his two cats are going to be eating also. Can some one tell me if I'm being crazy or am I justified to be annoyed by this.

[Trakadon]

It depends. Is he buying any cat food?

[shay_almost]

Nope and we talked about it today. He feels that since his cats eat "so little" that he shouldn't have to contribute anything toward the cat food. My boyfriend finally convinced him to go half on the cat food that we buy but that still leaves my mom buy cat food by herself.

[Belial]

This roommate doesn't seem considerate or responsible.

No matter how little his cats eat, they are still eating someone elses food. I say Lock up the car food and carry the key.

Or you can sit down with him to go over "house rules" if he can't obey them or he takes advantage of you, I am sure he could be easily replaced as a roommate. Even if someone is new to the whole living on their own thing, you don't steal someone elses food/soap/beer/shampoo/ECT.



You sound like a warm hearted family but I just think maybe you might be too nice to this guy.

[shay_almost]

This roommate is replacing our last roommate who had "anger issues". Right now I'm going to let this one go and bring it up again in a few weeks. I don't care if he uses cat food we, my boyfriend and I, buy I just don't like the fact that he will be using cat food that my mother buys.

[Belial]

It is your call, I just think he could have some issues. If he takes cat food from you, he could end up taking other stuff.

[shay_almost]

True I guess. I didn't really think of that.

[Tiva]

Get it to where every 3 bag of cat food that is used, no matter who buys it, he has to buy the 3rd bag in full?

[shay_almost]

That oddly enough is what I suggested and he didn't like that at all. I just talked to my mom about it and she is okay with what the roommate agreed to last night. Every other one the room mate is going to pay half on.

[Ginger]

If he doesn't like the idea of paying for his own cat food to care for his own cats that are HIS responsibility, maybe he shouldn't have any animals until he likes the idea of taking care of them by himself. Just my two cents on the matter.

[Tiva]

Make sure that the count includes the ones that your mom buys.
I can understand roommates not paying their fair share... one of mine is on the verge of getting hit because she keeps on not helping out around the house when she makes a good deal of mess.

[shay_almost]

Ginger and Tiva this is exactly how I feel about this but right now I'm the only one in the house who seems to care. I talked to my mom about it and she doesn't care as long as he helps with at least one bag of cat food. My boyfriend also seems to be okay with the deal agreed upon. Once his cats start eating more I'm going to bring it up again.

I don't really see him being a good roommate.

[Ginger]

You need to be firm with him about it. Don't just brush it off. Tell him this arrangement will last for a while,but then he will need to buy his own cat food once they grow up a little more. If he doesn't agree to that, you might have to tell him he needs to find a new home for his cats or a new home. It's very important to lay down the rules, especially since it is a shared living space. If you aren't firm with him he will just keep doing things that bother you.

[shay_almost]

I'm thinking a good solution when his cats get bigger is that he joins the cat food rotation. Right now we, my boyfriend and I, buy a bag of cat food and then my mom buys a bag of cat food. I suggested this at first but he didn't like it because his cats don't eat a lot. Oh and the reason my mom buys a bag of cat food is because I've been taking care of my sister's cat.

[shay_almost]

Update on my roommate situation. He had been asking about our money situation for every day. That started bothering me because dwelling on money tends to stress me out. He stopped doing that thankfully. He has also been doing other stuff that bugs me. There has been a couple incidents of him gawking, once me and the other time my mom. Also one night he came out and tried telling me that I was using too much internet playing on face book and being on here. We later found out that his wireless stick couldn't handle playing WOW and being on skype. I also have been having problems at work because its been stressing me out enough to cause my stomach problems to start up again. He has talked about how he feels my boyfriend and my relationship is. He has talked to me and my boyfriend about it alone and together.

There have been moments where having him here has been nice. He does have similar interests as me and he is very intelligent. I just have a feeling he doesn't know how to handle living with a couple.

My boyfriend has told me I'm just over thinking stuff. What do you guys think?

[Liena]

Actually my sister had to deal something similar only it was dogs, and the roomie made sure they ran away every so often. (they were easy to find though,.) most are uncomfortable rooming with couples and might bring up since there are two of you, that you should pay more for food. (which in this case seems to be almost similar to the cat incident.) if he mentions something about ya'lls relationship or asks about your financial business, simply tell him to f off, and its not really his business. Also just cause he acts nice,doesn't necessarily means he is nice.act nice, but be aware of his actions.