[Funkduder]

Originally Posted by MandaChaos

I am scared of losing control.

You couldn't have picked a better time to post that because I'm quite afraid of that myself.

I know too much about fear to rationalize any fear...but yet I'm very afraid. I can list out a lot of them that seem weird, like driving and the silence in the dark and the music in scary movies (at least in comparison to the actual movie it's really disproportionate) but I think I fear myself more than anything. It won't matter that I say it hear as much so I might as well admit that I see myself as a monster of my own creation. I'm afraid of hurting people, disappointing others who might depend upon me, helping others to do the wrong thing, and most of all I'm afraid of winning if it means that the other person has to truly suffer the loss. It's almost like the same sort of fear that drives me away from embracing my friends and confessing that I might like them as more than friends. I don't want to drive people away because doing so would mean I am alone, but asking and being rejected (which seems to be the normal reaction that I get) would result in a disappointing feeling in myself that continues to nag at me when I see them look at me in disgust. It's like they see me as something worse than scum even though I know that it's probably not true (otherwise they wouldn't be hanging around me). Though it may not have been a problem before, I think I'm growing paranoid from this, which is why I'm dubbing it a "phobia" because as my fears become realized time and time again, I feel driven from happiness and forced to sit in solitude, but I know that's not true...which is why it's a phobia...

[Hex]

Originally Posted by Funkduder

You couldn't have picked a better time to post that because I'm quite afraid of that myself.

I know too much about fear to rationalize any fear...but yet I'm very afraid. I can list out a lot of them that seem weird, like driving and the silence in the dark and the music in scary movies (at least in comparison to the actual movie it's really disproportionate) but I think I fear myself more than anything. It won't matter that I say it hear as much so I might as well admit that I see myself as a monster of my own creation. I'm afraid of hurting people, disappointing others who might depend upon me, helping others to do the wrong thing, and most of all I'm afraid of winning if it means that the other person has to truly suffer the loss. It's almost like the same sort of fear that drives me away from embracing my friends and confessing that I might like them as more than friends. I don't want to drive people away because doing so would mean I am alone, but asking and being rejected (which seems to be the normal reaction that I get) would result in a disappointing feeling in myself that continues to nag at me when I see them look at me in disgust. It's like they see me as something worse than scum even though I know that it's probably not true (otherwise they wouldn't be hanging around me). Though it may not have been a problem before, I think I'm growing paranoid from this, which is why I'm dubbing it a "phobia" because as my fears become realized time and time again, I feel driven from happiness and forced to sit in solitude, but I know that's not true...which is why it's a phobia...

I know exactly what you mean by becoming your own enemy. I can say from personal experience that if you learn to accept failure ad a chance to progress and a lost friend as a spot for a new one you will become happier...easier said than done I suppose. I have only recently learned to accept failure, but it still frightens me. If I cannot control the outcome of a situation I fear it getting out of hand and hurting myself or worst the people I love. but if we do not learn to face our fear we will sit alone in silence...meaning it still would have won, even if we didn't experience the possible disaster.

My favorite clamp character of all time is often quoted saying "There is no such thing as a coincidence in this world, there is only the inevitable." Yuuko-San

If we learn to believe that our choices are not always in control of what happens I find that it is easier for myself to accpept failure...I hope this helped you in some way!

[Shohnightingale]

CLOWNS they give me the heeby jeebys horses, when my mind plays tricks on me, and heights

[Funkduder]

Originally Posted by MandaChaos

I know exactly what you mean by becoming your own enemy. I can say from personal experience that if you learn to accept failure ad a chance to progress and a lost friend as a spot for a new one you will become happier...easier said than done I suppose. I have only recently learned to accept failure, but it still frightens me. If I cannot control the outcome of a situation I fear it getting out of hand and hurting myself or worst the people I love. but if we do not learn to face our fear we will sit alone in silence...meaning it still would have won, even if we didn't experience the possible disaster.

My favorite clamp character of all time is often quoted saying "There is no such thing as a coincidence in this world, there is only the inevitable." Yuuko-San

If we learn to believe that our choices are not always in control of what happens I find that it is easier for myself to accpept failure...I hope this helped you in some way!

It has...I think. Thank you.

[Miharu]

For physical fears, I will say that I HATE spiders! Nasty creepy little things. *shudders*

As for the inner fears... well, my biggest fear is being insignificant. This probably sounds dumb, but sometimes I really wonder what the point of life is if I can't do and be something great. >.< I'm also afraid of failure, and tend to put a lot of pressure on myself to get things right. And finally, I also have a fear that I'll never find love... >.> I think those are all of my grestest fears.

[Syari]

I have a huge phobia of blood. And it's not just the usual squeamish kind of reaction, it's the panic attacks every time I see it - and it's worse if it's other people's blood; my own not so much, unless it's accompanied with huge amounts of pain, then the reaction is just the same.
I have panic attacks when people cut their fingers rofl. I've fainted when people TALK about blood. And I don't like meat unless it's cooked to the point where there is nothing red in it.

It's something I really want to get over, as it restricts so much in my life, but no matter how many times I've tried to desensitise myself to it, it never works. I:


As for emotional fears, I'm scared of disappointing my Mumma. Everything I do, I think about what she would say - even when it's silly things that I really want to do, if my Mum doesn't approve then I won't do them. *cough* E.g. Septum piercing *cough* xD;
I don't like failing, I'm a perfectionist. And I hate the feeling that people are talking about me behind my back; I'd rther have someone bring their beef to me rather than hand it out to people behind my back and slag me off. :[

[Hex]

Originally Posted by Funkduder

It has...I think. Thank you.

I am glad :3 I have a hard time explaining things like that via text haha -sweat drops-

[MayChan]

@Syari: I didn't know your blood phobia was THAT bad, goodness. I know I freaked out when I was donating, I can't imagine you trying to x.x

[Syari]

Yeah it's really bad. That's why I leave the call when you guys chat about stuff like that lmao P:
But yeahhh, I don't donate blood - it's involved in one of my biggest phobias which is drawing any (my) blood in syringes ;[

[MayChan]

I freaked out when I was donating .-. I had to stay calm though or else they wouldn't take it Dx

[Kaderin Triste]

Falling from heights (even ones as low as maybe 4-5 feet)

The dark, but strangely, only at certain times...I don't know why, but there will be times when I'm walking home at night or even safe at home and the darkness just feels like it's closing in around me, like there's something waiting just in the darkest part of the shadows for me. Sometimes it will scare me to the point where I cannot move at all.

Plants and most flowers. Part of me wants to say that this is because of my sister chasing me around with flowers when I was a kid and was still afraid of EVERYTHING, but I never really had much of a problem with plants and flowers until probably the last 3 or 4 years really.
Now I make every effort possible not to come into contact with plants when I'm bagging them for people at work, and if I do touch them, it makes my skin crawl uncomfortably and often I get one of those annoying full-body shivers.
Currently, roses and daisies are about the only flowers I don't have much of a problem with.

[Oliver8607]

Originally Posted by Reyoki

I have only three great fears in this world. Those fears are needles, being electrocuted, and computer viruses.

Leave it to you to be afraid of computer viruses lol :P

Im afraid of the dark, snakes and the opalumpas off of willie wonka and the chocolate factory. I have no idea why they just freak me out haha and snakes if i see one i honestly run away screaming haha

[Bucket]

There's very few things that I would actually consider myself to be scared of, and the things that I am, it's only in certain situations.

I'm absolutely terrified of the thought of a house fire. When I was eight, my dad fell asleep when he was making dinner. I was outside playing in the garden with my friend. The oil in the pan overheated and burst into flames. My dad got out of the house and the fire was put out before the fire engine even got there. No-one was hurt and if you think about it, nothing was really damaged. However, since then the thought of my house going on fire has really got to me. The simple though of losing everything that you hold dear, having to start all over again from scratch. Losing things that you can never replace. I used to sleep walk and have nightmares about it. Even now, I often can't watch television programmes about fire before I go to bed.

However, with that being said, I find fire fascinating. I love to watch bonfires and crime shows about arson. I love looking at debris of things ravaged by flames, look at burnt shells of houses and things.

I just can't handle the thought of -my- things going on fire. I also feel a lot of empathy for people who have been through that, and would bend over backwards to try and help someone in that situation.

Other than fire, the thoughts of being a nobody scare me too. The thought of having all my life to live, and not doing anything of note. I'm terrified of waking up one day, middle-aged in a dead end job, with bratty kids and a failing marriage, realising that I've not done anything with my life. By that point, with the commitments that I do have, it will be too late. Mediocrity scares me. It seems stupid, but it does.

[gremlin]

I have an irrational fear of dolls and puppets. I hate them.
I also get scared of the dark sometimes and odd noises make me paranoid.
I'm crazy so... xD

[Fiyero]

I'm afraid of spiders and insects.
they're just...too crawly.

[Hero]

I really dislike insects in general but I hate spiders.
Something happened to me as a kid and ever since then, I did whatever I could to avoid them
Even if its tiny, I freak out.
>_<