[Serah]

I spoke to him a few days ago and things got better for a few days but now I think it's time to call it quits. I try to just chit-chat with him for a little bit over texts and he wouldn't respond. He wouldn't answer my calls either. Finally his phone goes dead and he makes no effort to contact me. We were supposed to hang out today and he didn't show up. I saw him get online and I tried to message him but he left before I could. I told him a few days ago that I'm going to see a specialist, I have depression and my increasing loneliness is not making me feel better. I have no way of contacting him, he won't get online, he won't turn on his phone either. I have his mom's number but I don't want to bother her with my petty little problem of trying to reach her son. I don't know if I pissed him off or what but I can't do this anymore. I need someone that legit cares about me and loves me like I love them. I don't demand constant attention but I'd like at least some and for the past three days now, he won't contact me. I just want to break up with him at this point and end it all. But, I'm not the type of person to just break up with someone and not tell them. I don't know what to do. I can't stop crying and I just feel trapped.

[Yokuutsu]

I'm sorry, but it is kind of hard to tell someone it is over when they won't get online or turn on his phone or anything...

But you do need to do something. This isn't good .-.

[Wicked]

Hmm. It does sound like a problem but (don't get mad) part of it is your problem.
The part of your post that makes me say this is that you worried he might leave you for some WOW chick. There's some trust issues and insecurities there.

I'm reading some of your more recent posts on this
and are you really thinking of breaking up with him? Because of World of Warcraft?
Please ye gods do not do that!

I realize you've tried to talk this stuff out with him before
and okay I'm seeing in your last post that there's tons of other issues here.

Still I'm going to play devil's advocate and say maybe
he's blowing you off because he's not sure what to do about you either.

Don't hate me, hear me out.

On one hand the guy probably feels you're picking at him and making demands. Guys hate that.

Well. Nobody likes to be told what to do but it makes guys extra itchy.
When you do spend time together he feels you're harping on him.

You said his friends pull crap like calling you a bitch, which is rude and they suck for that but... are you acting like one? Maybe that's the only side of you they see. Have you ever made an effort to just chill with them and not bring up Warcraft or whatever.

My point is - with his friends - it is really, really emasculating for a guy to get chewed out in front of his friends. It's going to set him on edge and that's why he doesn't defend you. He's upset. They kind of think he's a chump but that's their bro so... you become "the bitch" and it sucks but that's how it works.

So. Try not to bicker in front of other people. Keep your issues between the two of you. And you two need to have a really long talk. I am not blaming you. Thing is that I'm not blaming him either. Both of you have to work on this relationship.

If it were me, the first thing I would say to him is "Have I been being a bitch?"
He's going to fluster and not know what to do with this. Mostly because guys have been taught these kinds of questions are traps. Don't make it a trap. You seriously need to know where he's coming from before you can tackle the issue between you. Let him talk. Do not become defensive or overly sensitive. Frankly, you've been busting his balls and he should be allowed to voice his viewpoint.

I'm seeing some comments about ultimatums and time tables. Do that. If you want to break up.

Just think about it for one second. If the tables were turned and your guy had an issue with something you like to do you'd be super pissed if he came at you with some ultimatum. You would probably dump him flat on his ass. So why on earth is it okay for you to come at him like that?

I'm not saying you should roll over and leave it alone. He spends to much time with this game and that's a fact but from what I've read you're coming down on him way too hard. WOW maybe one of the biggest issues in this relationship but it isn't the only one.