[Kaguya]

If you ever need to rant about anything send me a pm... I'm a good listener.

[Meizicht]

Thanks ^^;
Just a little cautious because I tend to rant a lot. xD
That's my own problem though

[Kaguya]

You could rant hourly for all I care, I'll listen no worries.

[Lauv Keiko]

I suppose that woman needs to get a straight jacket, kagu is right.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this, I think it's best you find out first if he's okay, he's safe somewhere or just as far as he can from his abusive mom.
Then, as much as possible, block the accounts but never delete any chat history and such.
It's best to contact the police because it might go out of hand soon.

[Mika]

Where I live, the police can do something about that. I still don't understand why you don't call them regardless? If they can't do anything, they'll say so. If they can, then something will be done.

It's really stupid to wait for it to escalate before calling too because then you don't have a record of filed reports. If there's not enough to go on yet, they still file a report which could really make a difference in your case. It proves there was a history to it if it gets out of hand, so you should probably call anyway.

[Hermes]

You need to call the police. The worst thing they can do is say nothing can be done, seriously, they can't even charge you money for it. Like Mika said, establishing a case history is actually very important, as in the future if this keeps up it will hold more and more against her.

As for the guy, you guys should have worked out some way to stay in contact, or he should go to a public library or something. I hope you hear from him soon.

To those saying that parents shouldn't treat their kids this way...Well, while that may be true, it has sadly become the normal, actually the publicly acceptable and praised, thing to do.

[Merlin]

People have their own measurement of punishment. What might be acceptable for them may not be for you, but this is abuse we're talking about, not punishment. Punishment has some sort of justification. A "REASON" if you will. The fact that anything this woman thinks of that she doesn't like is the devil, and she'll f*** her son up over it. . . THAT'S abuse. I'd show up at her front door covered in red with a pitchfork and whip the holy hell out of her. Ironic justice.

But agreed. Call the po-po even if just to keep it on file, and give them as much information as you can. Best of luck to both you and your friend. I hope he's doing very well for himself.

[Meizicht]

I've pretty much decided to call the police if she starts again tonight. She hasn't done anything all day, but that could be because she goes out and sells stuff on the streets ( I don't think she's ever had a regular job ) so she could just be busy.
I live with other people, so I wanted their advice as well; I was told to ignore the calls for now, but if it continued tonight, the police would be involved.
Here's hoping she doesn't do anything. =A=

Thanks for all the response though; I really appreciate it. I hope he's alright too ( obviously OTL ) and like I've said before, waiting is always the hardest part.

[Ashy]

Just on the ringing police part if she is harassing you right now call 911, if not call the local police station. They do appreciate that as it's not an "immediate" emergency.

[Hikori]

what ashy said pretty much fits, however for the record, she legally isn't allowed to harass you OR her son like that. since i'm not a lawyer i can't go into full details, but all i can say is SAVE AND RECORD EVERYTHING, that way you can get a restraining order, even if only temporary, because this is the kinda thing you DON'T let happen.

[Lucid:]

**Cuddles Cagey** <3 I don't really have any additional advice to give, but good luck. I hope everything works out and your boyfriend is okay.

[Meizicht]

Well, new things happened.
This could be one of two things.

I'm really cautious because for one, his mother has harassed me a lot before. I want nothing to do with her, because she is abusive and wants to manipulate everyone, including me. And it wont work.
But today, I got a message from his account on facebook, which was tip number one; He knows I hardly use facebook. If he were to contact me online, it would've been through YIM. But at the same time, I have no idea if it's like the fastest way he could say anything to me or something like that. Second tip was his way of typing was way off. It didn't seem like him, but again, idk if he was being bothered or rushed. Third tip; he seemed to be giving up too easy. I asked for something only me and him know about, but he picked something that's on facebook to give to me, so that wasn't solid enough that it was him. So I still don't know.
But I sent, in hopes that no matter who it was - if it was him, he'd see that someone did care about him and what I thought of him, and if it was her, she'd see what I thought of him too - about how he's a great person, makes good music and had a passion for it, as well as writing, and didn't deserve being abused. That I was hoping no matter what happened that he'd be alright and no matter how long it took that he could definitely make it on his own two feet. I said I wasn't shallow enough to give up just because someone else told me to.

If it turns out that he's not told me something, or lied about anything ( I don't think he has, but I've got to consider all possibilities here ) it's going to wreck me far worse than anything else. This is looking so similar to what happened a couple years ago. And that had already messed me up enough.

But this isn't about me. Right now, focus should be on him. Just have to keep waiting to see how things turn out for him and if he's alright. Just never know what I can believe and if that was really him or not.

And I wanted to put this public because if things did go more insane than they already are, I've got it down as it went, and people have seen it. I'm saving everything, remembering everything and putting it down as I've heard and experienced it, so if anything happens, there wont be confusion or a mess. I think that's a good idea, probably.

I hate that I can't help him, but I'm thousands of miles away. That frustrates me the most. I wish there were more honest people so there wouldn't be so much suspicion about whatever I've said. She's convinced that it's all my fault, and apparently, according to whoever was talking to me, he is "not allowed" to speak to me anymore.

Because a virgin who has never touched drugs, alcohol or cigarettes, nor have they been arrested or in trouble for anything in their life, can be the worst influence on a person.
-___-
Sucks that the world is made up of idiot hooligans that make honest people look suspicious. It's all so unnecessary.

[Meizicht]

Sorry for the double post, but new stuff happened again.

He managed to contact me himself.
I was right; this morning it was his mother trying to impersonate him to manipulate me and/or make me give up. But that didn't and wont work. Not on me.
I'm so, so glad he's okay. He also seemed in good spirits. Police were involved but it seemed like it wasn't as bad as it could've been. I'm so relieved. And I also know he's not breaking under pressure as well.

I told him everyone along with me were behind him, and that he should focus on his own future. Sooner or later, he'll be truly happy, and hopefully maybe his mother will realize what she's doing isn't right. Maybe sometime she'll get the guts to admit what she's doing. Maybe turn it around and finally be a better person.

My mom's been helping with information, and the next time I see him, I'll be telling him to go to a public defender, tell them exactly what has been happening.

Ugh, I'm so relieved.

[Merlin]

I'm happy for you Mei. Both you and your friend.

[Lucid:]

I'm so relieved he's alright! Good for you for not backing down on your support, and good for him for being so happy with his newfound freedom. I'm really glad this is all working out.

[Meizicht]

He's not free yet; apparently she called the police to get him back to her. So he's back with her for right now. I'm going to suggest he get a lawyer and talk to them about all the things she's done, though, and do what he needs to in order to get his own life. But yes, all I'm worried about was if he was okay, and he is, so it's alright. And I'm happy about that.

@__@ Man, what a couple of days this has been.