[MayChan]

The thing about my mom is we will argue, be mad, then she'll be all happy happy with me completely forgetting why we argued. Which I don't like simply cause it makes me feel like she doesn't care where I'm trying to get at... She also doesn't "believe" I have a boyfriend right now, because she wants me to marry an Asian boy, which sadly I can't tell if she's joking or not.

[Xun]

...yeah, now it's just to the point where you and your boyfriend have to show her the truth, regardless of what's going on. Apparently, she's just being ignorant of what's in front of her.

[MayChan]

I know...it's just thinking about it, how things are gonna play out makes me stressed.

[Daring Scylla]

this is going to sound awful but normally I don't think online/long-distance relationships are a good idea to work out
HOWEVER
you aren't going to know that until you meet him, and maybe you can work this angle with your mom
I can't tell from your post whether you've met him in person or not, but two years is a LONG TIME to stay committed in an online relationship so there's something working for you
if all else fails, don't tell your mom. let him come pick you up and when she calls asking where you are then tell her when she can't do anything. it's your life, not hers. if she wants to remain willfully blind of something you cherish then she's not being a very good mum

[Xun]

Well May, for one thing... if all falls in the toilet, your boyfriend should man up and take you in. Other than that, you both need to find a way to support each other, mostly you after what could be a bad turn in your family.

[Daring Scylla]

that's a good point. if it gets to a point when you can't stand mum anymore there are a few questions that should be answered before you up and ditch the lot of them:
do you and your boyfriend have the means to support yourselves/yourself alone or on his/his guardian's income?
do YOU have the means to support yourself if your boyfriend refuses to take you in or help you?
are you willing to cause a rift in your family like this? (is this guy worth it basically. REALLY think about this question because if you give the wrong answer and act on it you are not going to like what comes of it)
what feels right to you?

[Xun]

Basically all what Daring said. lol

In the end, one needs to remember what is necessary and what isn't. Having a companion is technically second to all things a person needs rather than wants. Sometimes people forget about this, though.

[MayChan]

We've talked about the worse cases that could come from this. I only have a job because of my mom and I work once a week cause she doesn't want me to have another job. I do not know how to drive nor a car to drive even if I did know how to drive. My mom doesn't want me to learn how to drive cause insurance, but really driving is my fault cause I just...won't read the book so that's just my fault. My boyfriend said if I get kicked out, I would have to stay at my friends for at least 2 weeks so he can sum up the money to buy the tickets for me to get to indiana then I will stay with him.

[Daring Scylla]

if he's willing to keep you, that's a start. what about schooling for you? (i don't know how old you are)
Also, not having a car COULD be a problem. do you have a bike?
do you also have a friend lined up to stay with?

[MayChan]

My best friend already said she would let me bunk with her until I can get to Indiana. I do not have a bike, well we do but it's not mine lol. I am going to college.

[Daring Scylla]

are you going to college right now and would living with your boyfriend have a effect on your ability to go to class/do work?
(sorry i'm asking all these personal questions if I make you uncomfortable feel free to tell me to bugger off)

[MayChan]

I don't mind the questions, I'm all open.

No I am not going to college right now, I'm still in my high school days with just a few months left. I think living with him will improve my education, cause I ask him to keep me off games when I get home to do my homework. He always tries to make me go to bed early too.

[Daring Scylla]

if he's the good sort who can monitor you and make you do your work then that's good.

you'll need to at least finish your high school education before you split off from that area, but when you're a legal adult/in college it will be your decision what you do.

[MayChan]

Yeah, I plan to finish high school first for sure. Its in the summer that I want to go visit him. My mom says I can't have a boyfriend until I graduate, so I'm waiting until I graduate to tell her. Then she tried to change it up on me and say until your 2 years in your college. Then I was like No -,-

[Daring Scylla]

once you are a legal adult she can't tell you when you can and can't have a boyfriend. that's something she's going to have to come to terms with.
she sounds like a nutter, if you ask me, no offense i'm sure.

[MayChan]

None taken, I love her but she's a handful, I'm probably a handful for her too. I think in the future I can see her coming in terms eventually.

Also I like to say that I appreciate everyone who took the time to read my thread and throw their opinions in. I really do ^^ so thank you for your time.