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DragonDrifter · Posted 11-06-2011, 12:28 AM

So basically me and my girlfriend see each other almost only at school. We don't see each other a lot but we make the most of when we do, which is like an hour a day if we're lucky. But these people at school won't stop coming up and saying stuff like "she's too good for you", "she's out of your league", "you guys shouldn't be dating", etc. She is amazing but I don't think I'm that bad either. I don't have a high self esteem but what I can tell from what other people think of me I'm a pretty cool person. I tell most of them off but it happens alot and I can't find a permanent solution. What do I do?

Serra Britt · Posted 11-06-2011, 12:41 AM

Well, it sounds like they are jealous, to be honest. As long as she wants to spend time with you who really cares what they think? It would be nice if they would stop after a while when it's clear that you will stay together, and it probably does get rather hard to have to listen to often. I'm sorry that I don't have any ideas for something permanent though :/

Fey · Posted 11-06-2011, 09:46 AM

Sadly, there is no permanent solution. Bullies/petty people will always be around, your best bet it to just ignore them. If you give them your attention/reactions you're just reinforcing that when they do something they'll get attention. If you don't 'feed' them that attention they'll eventually find someone else who will and wander off.

DragonDrifter · Posted 11-06-2011, 06:13 PM

I see you guys' points. I'll just try to ignore them, but usually when people bully me the way to get them to stop is by showing them I'm not afraid to fight back. But I shall give it a try!

Ishu · Posted 11-10-2011, 02:06 PM

Everyone here is right. You can simply ignore them or just smile and walk away. If you start yelling at them or anything you will just fuel them to come back at you again because you have given them a negative reaction.

These people obviously don't know what they're talking about. Fuck'em. ^^

DragonDrifter · Posted 11-10-2011, 05:54 PM

Well I should probly just close this because we broke up...unless y'all wanna talk about...just stuff. o3o

Ishu · Posted 11-10-2011, 06:32 PM

I don't mind listening if you feel you need to vent. ^^

DragonDrifter · Posted 11-10-2011, 07:14 PM

Well not really about venting because we both agreed it was for the best. Just talking about stuff. But on that subject, I still kinda love her, I just know it won't work out. It's all screwed up XP

Ishu · Posted 11-10-2011, 07:23 PM

That is usually how relationships are :/ Just give it time and it will be easier. ^^

DragonDrifter · Posted 11-10-2011, 07:58 PM

Yeah. I don't wanna rush into things so I'm thinking I'll wait a month before accepting any dates or relationships or anything like that :P not that I'll get any

Ishu · Posted 11-10-2011, 08:01 PM

That is a good idea. ^^ they say you take how long you were with a person and cut it in half- that is how long it takes for you to get over them.

DragonDrifter · Posted 11-10-2011, 08:09 PM

Well I was only with her for a month and a half so a little extra can't hurt :)

Ishu · Posted 11-10-2011, 09:37 PM

Sounds good then ^^

Illusion · 10:09 PM

What I found that works is to beat them to the joke, just agree with them jokingly. And if they spread rumors just accept/decline them in a jokingly way. Just stay positive, that's how I'm surviving High School pretty much.
Things are hard to ignore, but if you just accept things as it is and just go with it with a positive attitude guided by positive choices, you'll find that your becoming stronger inside and people will see you as a happy go lucky fella.

Also here's something not to do.. DON'T IGNORE THEM! Yes weird hearing that right? Now the reason why you ask? Because you can't take a punch, bottling up will only have you snap one day. Ignoring only does so much, you don't tell them not to do something. A better solution is to fight with kindness. It's hard being mean to someone who is always nice right? Just think about it.

Ishu · Posted 11-10-2011, 10:06 PM

I survived high school by being violent, stand-offish and by verbally abusing the kids who thought they were cool but had absolutely no self esteem when they tried to verbally kick me around 8D -thumbs up-

Belial · Posted 11-11-2011, 12:23 PM

This is a sore subject to me because of something that happened in my area. Don't ever stop talking to someone if you ever feel bullied.
And people will be nosy, your relationships are none of anyone's business, more so if they choose to be passive aggressive about it as it sounds like.

Just take care of yourself and remember that you are a good person with a value. Try not to let anyone take that away.

DragonDrifter Preposterous Paradox		Idiot Bullies	#1
	So basically me and my girlfriend see each other almost only at school. We don't see each other a lot but we make the most of when we do, which is like an hour a day if we're lucky. But these people at school won't stop coming up and saying stuff like "she's too good for you", "she's out of your league", "you guys shouldn't be dating", etc. She is amazing but I don't think I'm that bad either. I don't have a high self esteem but what I can tell from what other people think of me I'm a pretty cool person. I tell most of them off but it happens alot and I can't find a permanent solution. What do I do? "Jesse, you asked me if I was in the meth business or the money business. Neither. I'm in the empire business."
		Posted 11-06-2011, 12:28 AM

		#2	Serra Britt Neko-chan Nya Nya~
Well, it sounds like they are jealous, to be honest. As long as she wants to spend time with you who really cares what they think? It would be nice if they would stop after a while when it's clear that you will stay together, and it probably does get rather hard to have to listen to often. I'm sorry that I don't have any ideas for something permanent though :/ ♥ Never be afraid to be yourself ♥ Want to see my art or webcomic? Serra's Art Gallery A Neko's Quest \| My Closet Kitsune's Haven Image courtesty of tsukiko
	Posted 11-06-2011, 12:41 AM

Fey gnometastic			#3
	Sadly, there is no permanent solution. Bullies/petty people will always be around, your best bet it to just ignore them. If you give them your attention/reactions you're just reinforcing that when they do something they'll get attention. If you don't 'feed' them that attention they'll eventually find someone else who will and wander off. I've gone to look for myself, if I should return before I get back keep me here. __________________________________________ \|What is your Quest?\| Nikko was here out of love for Fey. <3 beautiful art by littl3chocobo
		Posted 11-06-2011, 09:46 AM

		#4	DragonDrifter Preposterous Paradox
I see you guys' points. I'll just try to ignore them, but usually when people bully me the way to get them to stop is by showing them I'm not afraid to fight back. But I shall give it a try! "Jesse, you asked me if I was in the meth business or the money business. Neither. I'm in the empire business."
	Posted 11-06-2011, 06:13 PM

		#6	DragonDrifter Preposterous Paradox
Well I should probly just close this because we broke up...unless y'all wanna talk about...just stuff. o3o "Jesse, you asked me if I was in the meth business or the money business. Neither. I'm in the empire business."
	Posted 11-10-2011, 05:54 PM

Ishu The Ascended Angel			#5
	Everyone here is right. You can simply ignore them or just smile and walk away. If you start yelling at them or anything you will just fuel them to come back at you again because you have given them a negative reaction. These people obviously don't know what they're talking about. Fuck'em. ^^
		Posted 11-10-2011, 02:06 PM

Ishu The Ascended Angel			#7
	I don't mind listening if you feel you need to vent. ^^ ART AUCTION l Item Guide l Epic Quest tumblr l deviantart
		Posted 11-10-2011, 06:32 PM

		#8	DragonDrifter Preposterous Paradox
Well not really about venting because we both agreed it was for the best. Just talking about stuff. But on that subject, I still kinda love her, I just know it won't work out. It's all screwed up XP "Jesse, you asked me if I was in the meth business or the money business. Neither. I'm in the empire business."
	Posted 11-10-2011, 07:14 PM

Ishu The Ascended Angel			#9
	That is usually how relationships are :/ Just give it time and it will be easier. ^^ ART AUCTION l Item Guide l Epic Quest tumblr l deviantart
		Posted 11-10-2011, 07:23 PM

		#10	DragonDrifter Preposterous Paradox
Yeah. I don't wanna rush into things so I'm thinking I'll wait a month before accepting any dates or relationships or anything like that :P not that I'll get any "Jesse, you asked me if I was in the meth business or the money business. Neither. I'm in the empire business."
	Posted 11-10-2011, 07:58 PM

Ishu The Ascended Angel			#11
	That is a good idea. ^^ they say you take how long you were with a person and cut it in half- that is how long it takes for you to get over them. ART AUCTION l Item Guide l Epic Quest tumblr l deviantart
		Posted 11-10-2011, 08:01 PM

		#12	DragonDrifter Preposterous Paradox
Well I was only with her for a month and a half so a little extra can't hurt :) "Jesse, you asked me if I was in the meth business or the money business. Neither. I'm in the empire business."
	Posted 11-10-2011, 08:09 PM

Ishu The Ascended Angel			#13
	Sounds good then ^^ ART AUCTION l Item Guide l Epic Quest tumblr l deviantart
		Posted 11-10-2011, 09:37 PM

		#14	Illusion The Illusionist
What I found that works is to beat them to the joke, just agree with them jokingly. And if they spread rumors just accept/decline them in a jokingly way. Just stay positive, that's how I'm surviving High School pretty much. Things are hard to ignore, but if you just accept things as it is and just go with it with a positive attitude guided by positive choices, you'll find that your becoming stronger inside and people will see you as a happy go lucky fella. Also here's something not to do.. DON'T IGNORE THEM! Yes weird hearing that right? Now the reason why you ask? Because you can't take a punch, bottling up will only have you snap one day. Ignoring only does so much, you don't tell them not to do something. A better solution is to fight with kindness. It's hard being mean to someone who is always nice right? Just think about it. Last edited by Illusion; 11-10-2011 at 10:09 PM.
	Posted 11-10-2011, 10:01 PM

Ishu The Ascended Angel			#15
	I survived high school by being violent, stand-offish and by verbally abusing the kids who thought they were cool but had absolutely no self esteem when they tried to verbally kick me around 8D -thumbs up- ART AUCTION l Item Guide l Epic Quest tumblr l deviantart
		Posted 11-10-2011, 10:06 PM

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		#16	Belial Trisphee's Mad Hatter
This is a sore subject to me because of something that happened in my area. Don't ever stop talking to someone if you ever feel bullied. And people will be nosy, your relationships are none of anyone's business, more so if they choose to be passive aggressive about it as it sounds like. Just take care of yourself and remember that you are a good person with a value. Try not to let anyone take that away.
	Posted 11-11-2011, 12:23 PM