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gremlin · Posted 08-13-2011, 03:16 PM

And it isn't like I expect my boyfriend to get me shit all the time.
Or to be super romantic and to always be romantic. It would just be nice if he did something for me every now and then. I get him lunch a lot, etc.

gremlin · Posted 08-13-2011, 03:25 PM

Well, he can be quite insensitive to situations that I have with my family, etc.
Also, it's like ever since I turned eighteen he always uses the "you're eighteen, you're an adult" crap. As if being eighteen suddenly makes my family problems disappear and being eighteen makes everything better. He tells me to grow up and get over things, but not even in a polite way. He's been really fucking rude to me.
And he always tells me to ignore my family and their stupidity, but that's kinda hard when I live with them and spend days at my house. He also just can't understand how I can get frustrated with things because he wouldn't get frustrated. Probably because his family isn't like mine. He doesn't even seem to try to change, to be more sensitive and to not be mean when I'm complaining/looking for some comfort from him. It pisses me off. He doesn't know how to comfort me. He doesn't really seem to try to understand my situations either. Though he tells me that he does.

Anyways.
Last night we argued a bit.
Then he said a bunch of really hurtful things. "It's almost like we're not compatible anymore, sometimes I just want to ignore you and not care because I'm not interested in talking to you when you're upset." And a bunch of other shit, too. I don't have my cellphone so I can't whip it out and type every text that he sent me. He also said that he was becoming less and less happier with me.
He apologized and said that he was ashamed of what he said and that he loved me, but... idk. He said he was upset and all of that just came out. But I really don't know how to feel, think or what to say to him.

I'm really hurt. I think that we are compatible. Just because we have an argue maybe once or twice a month doesn't mean that there's something wrong with our relationship. Couples fight, it's completely fucking normal. We use to argue a lot, it was way worse, but that stopped and I've been really happy with him. I don't know why he would even allow himself to think and say that. :/

Sir_Odin · Posted 08-13-2011, 03:30 PM

food time

Poggio · Posted 08-13-2011, 03:34 PM

hmm are you looking for advice or just an ear? I don't want to try and say something where I really have no clue.

gremlin · Posted 08-13-2011, 03:36 PM

Well you can give me advice if you want, I don't mind.
I'm just venting because I'm really frustrated right now.

Poggio · Posted 08-13-2011, 03:41 PM

XD I dunno if my advice really helps or if its because people I tell it too don't take it, but I am all here for venting. Is this the first time that hes brought things up like this? I mean the whole being un interested in you thing.

gremlin · Posted 08-13-2011, 03:42 PM

Yeah actually. Same for the being not compatible thing.
But not the whole becoming less and less happy with me.
He's said that maybe twice.

Poggio · Posted 08-13-2011, 03:50 PM

Is he going through some issues himself? Or just stopped caring, I mean there is only so much he can do especially hearing the same issues over and over. Though he could stop being very blunt about it and try to help.

gremlin · Posted 08-13-2011, 03:55 PM

Not to my knowledge. He would tell me if he was facing issues. He does work a lot 40 - 50 hours a week. At one point he did 60 hours. Maybe working a lot has stressed him out? Still doesn't give him a right to treat like like shit last night and earlier today.

To be honest, his life is good as far as I know.
He had a really good job, gets well paid. He had a lot of close friends. He recently got his dream car back and has lost weight too and gained muscle. Plus we stopped having constant fights that were pretty ridiculous. I don't know. :/

Poggio · Posted 08-13-2011, 04:08 PM

Well you guys have talked about it in the past it shouldn't hurt to talk about it again. You might want to find away to mention all the things that are making you angry other wise he will keep doing it and you'll keep getting angry.

XD my other thing is you could always try what my roommate used to do which was take a hiatus from each other but that tended to lead to a break up for her.

gremlin · Posted 08-13-2011, 04:10 PM

Oh I've told him all of this.
A lot. More than twice or three times at least.
And he has this whole "oh that's in the past, it's unnecessary to talk about it" crap.

gremlin · Posted 08-13-2011, 04:11 PM

Anyways.

>__>

I'm going to get off and do something else to distract myself.

Reyoki · Posted 08-13-2011, 04:13 PM

*meanders in and flops down on a sofa* So... I've been infected with the pink...

Seriously, though, does anyone know what this is all about? Is it like a Trisphee Breast Cancer Awareness thing?

Poggio · Posted 08-13-2011, 04:14 PM

You got it from kami XD as far as I know. She infected Kaguya and is trying to infect others.

Rosekitten · Posted 08-13-2011, 04:16 PM

.___. i dun wanta be infected.. i just happen to like flora pink

Reyoki · Posted 08-13-2011, 04:18 PM

I'm not going to infect anyone. I'm not quite that evil. It was hard enough for me to use pink at all since I don't have many pink items.

gremlin Posty McPostsALot			#35969
	And it isn't like I expect my boyfriend to get me shit all the time. Or to be super romantic and to always be romantic. It would just be nice if he did something for me every now and then. I get him lunch a lot, etc. call me grem they/them
		Posted 08-13-2011, 03:16 PM

		#35970	gremlin Posty McPostsALot
Well, he can be quite insensitive to situations that I have with my family, etc. Also, it's like ever since I turned eighteen he always uses the "you're eighteen, you're an adult" crap. As if being eighteen suddenly makes my family problems disappear and being eighteen makes everything better. He tells me to grow up and get over things, but not even in a polite way. He's been really fucking rude to me. And he always tells me to ignore my family and their stupidity, but that's kinda hard when I live with them and spend days at my house. He also just can't understand how I can get frustrated with things because he wouldn't get frustrated. Probably because his family isn't like mine. He doesn't even seem to try to change, to be more sensitive and to not be mean when I'm complaining/looking for some comfort from him. It pisses me off. He doesn't know how to comfort me. He doesn't really seem to try to understand my situations either. Though he tells me that he does. Anyways. Last night we argued a bit. Then he said a bunch of really hurtful things. "It's almost like we're not compatible anymore, sometimes I just want to ignore you and not care because I'm not interested in talking to you when you're upset." And a bunch of other shit, too. I don't have my cellphone so I can't whip it out and type every text that he sent me. He also said that he was becoming less and less happier with me. He apologized and said that he was ashamed of what he said and that he loved me, but... idk. He said he was upset and all of that just came out. But I really don't know how to feel, think or what to say to him. I'm really hurt. I think that we are compatible. Just because we have an argue maybe once or twice a month doesn't mean that there's something wrong with our relationship. Couples fight, it's completely fucking normal. We use to argue a lot, it was way worse, but that stopped and I've been really happy with him. I don't know why he would even allow himself to think and say that. :/ call me grem they/them
	Posted 08-13-2011, 03:25 PM

Sir_Odin Anu's knight			#35971
	food time Odin's closet (updated 08/11 name:Odin(Ben) Status: not sure What am i?:I am the plague knight and Odin himself Norse god sex:yes lots please(m) loves:Alyssa
		Posted 08-13-2011, 03:30 PM

gremlin Posty McPostsALot			#35973
	Well you can give me advice if you want, I don't mind. I'm just venting because I'm really frustrated right now. call me grem they/them
		Posted 08-13-2011, 03:36 PM

gremlin Posty McPostsALot			#35975
	Yeah actually. Same for the being not compatible thing. But not the whole becoming less and less happy with me. He's said that maybe twice. call me grem they/them
		Posted 08-13-2011, 03:42 PM

		#35972	Poggio Bald and loving it!
hmm are you looking for advice or just an ear? I don't want to try and say something where I really have no clue.
	Posted 08-13-2011, 03:34 PM

		#35974	Poggio Bald and loving it!
XD I dunno if my advice really helps or if its because people I tell it too don't take it, but I am all here for venting. Is this the first time that hes brought things up like this? I mean the whole being un interested in you thing.
	Posted 08-13-2011, 03:41 PM

		#35976	Poggio Bald and loving it!
Is he going through some issues himself? Or just stopped caring, I mean there is only so much he can do especially hearing the same issues over and over. Though he could stop being very blunt about it and try to help.
	Posted 08-13-2011, 03:50 PM

gremlin Posty McPostsALot			#35977
	Not to my knowledge. He would tell me if he was facing issues. He does work a lot 40 - 50 hours a week. At one point he did 60 hours. Maybe working a lot has stressed him out? Still doesn't give him a right to treat like like shit last night and earlier today. To be honest, his life is good as far as I know. He had a really good job, gets well paid. He had a lot of close friends. He recently got his dream car back and has lost weight too and gained muscle. Plus we stopped having constant fights that were pretty ridiculous. I don't know. :/ call me grem they/them
		Posted 08-13-2011, 03:55 PM

		#35978	Poggio Bald and loving it!
Well you guys have talked about it in the past it shouldn't hurt to talk about it again. You might want to find away to mention all the things that are making you angry other wise he will keep doing it and you'll keep getting angry. XD my other thing is you could always try what my roommate used to do which was take a hiatus from each other but that tended to lead to a break up for her.
	Posted 08-13-2011, 04:08 PM

gremlin Posty McPostsALot			#35979
	Oh I've told him all of this. A lot. More than twice or three times at least. And he has this whole "oh that's in the past, it's unnecessary to talk about it" crap. call me grem they/them
		Posted 08-13-2011, 04:10 PM

		#35980	gremlin Posty McPostsALot
Anyways. >__> I'm going to get off and do something else to distract myself. call me grem they/them
	Posted 08-13-2011, 04:11 PM

Reyoki Best thing since cheese-in-a-can!			#35981
	meanders in and flops down on a sofa So... I've been infected with the pink... Seriously, though, does anyone know what this is all about? Is it like a Trisphee Breast Cancer Awareness thing? Emperor of Japan*Anonymous Fiend Nikko, Kaguya, and Toki are my siblings Reyo has an art thread! Click the adorable tentacle creature!
		Posted 08-13-2011, 04:13 PM

		#35982	Poggio Bald and loving it!
You got it from kami XD as far as I know. She infected Kaguya and is trying to infect others.
	Posted 08-13-2011, 04:14 PM

Rosekitten Thorns and Claws			#35983
	.___. i dun wanta be infected.. i just happen to like flora pink
		Posted 08-13-2011, 04:16 PM

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		#35984	Reyoki Best thing since cheese-in-a-can!
I'm not going to infect anyone. I'm not quite that evil. It was hard enough for me to use pink at all since I don't have many pink items. Emperor of Japan*Anonymous Fiend Nikko, Kaguya, and Toki are my siblings Reyo has an art thread! Click the adorable tentacle creature!
	Posted 08-13-2011, 04:18 PM