[Asami]

So the past few days my brothers childhood friend has been staying with us and will be staying for I don't know how long. They've been the best of friends for the longest time. Well what's wrong with that?? Well ill tell you..

It all started when he added me on facebook a long time ago. We talked a bit and he confessed he had a huge crush on me when we were kids. He told me when we were in high school the reason he let me put my armwarmers and makeup on him was because he liked me (I don't really remember this memory. I only remember the armwarmer part). It made me laugh. We talked more, I only really wanted to be friends with him but apparently he didn't. Things started getting creepy. He told me how when we were younger he snunk into my room one night (or more) and contemplated laying down in my bed and kissing me and other stuff. I felt the red flags go up but I thought. Oh well ill never see this guy ever again. So I started ignoring him but he kept at it. I told him I have a boyfriend(which he knew) and he got pissed. He wanted me to leave Mike for him. He kept saying how he was better ect.
I told him all I wanted from him was friendship and that was it. So he stopped talking to me.

I thought everything was good until one day Stefan comes upstairs and tells my mom "hey _______ is visiting family close by can he stay with us for a while?" Of course my mom agrees while I secretly freak the f*ck out. So I go on facebook and message him telling him he had better stay away from me and not even look at me. Which he replys saying "cold much?" So the first day comes and I do my best to stay out of the house. I go laser tagging with friends, walks ect. Come back no contact whatsoever. Im happy. Next day I get a message from him saying id better sneak him hugs while Stefan is away.
I feel nervous.
He joins me on my walk because my mom wants him to get shown around.
that night isle stay up watching anime and he joins me as well. Then says "you'd better hug me" so I do..
The next day passes with barely any contact. But he messaged me telling me that I have to hug AND kiss him now.
Now its today and im so scared. He keeps telling me he wants to kiss me. I don't want this. Im so scared but I CANT ruin this for my brother. Im so afraid...

How do I tell him no to make him stay away. What if next time he asks for more? What if he comes into my room in the dead of night and does something... I don't feel safe anymore...

[Lucid:]

Asami, you really can't take this crap from him. If you don't want to hug him, just flat out tell him no. Your safety and comfort aren't worth worrying about how your brother will feel. Stick up for yourself. This is sexual harassment. If you tell him no and he keeps trying to make a move on you, call the cops as soon as you can.

[Asami]

Ive been telling him no. He keeps on persisting. Finding ways to get me alone ect.
I told him there's no way I will ever kiss him or let him kiss me.

[Hikori]

it was a mistake to hug him. tell him you don't like him that way, and be honest with him, if he's creeping you out, he's creeping you out .n. seriously, why let him think he can get away with this. also, try explaining to your mom the situation, i think she'd be more sympathetic if she knew that he's trying to do what he's trying to do, as well as the whole snuck in your room while you were sleeping bit


one other thing, you need to let him know the reason why you don't want to hug him or have contact with him isn't because of your brother, it's BECAUSE he creeps you out.

also what lucid say, get the police involved if need be. this is wrong and you know it, you need to stop it hun, before it get worse .n.

also, try telling your brother that he has been sexually harassing you, because that's not cool. when someone messes with my sister, friend or not, i draw the line. friends are friends but family is family.

[Hero]

I agree with Lucid.
Don't let him have his way.
You should mace him if he tries to do anything
>:c

[Asami]

But he could just as easily say he was joking around and that im making it all up.
Trust me hes the type of guy who trolls regularly but I know hes serious about this.
Ill be made a fool of and everyone will laugh and make fun of me.

And I could show them the facebook messages but he could say he was trolling

I told Stefan about the room thing but when he asked mason said was was justbkidding around and I took it too seriously.

they wont believe me.

I just need to get out of this house as much as possible..


I didn't hug him because I wanted to. He forced me to.

Like I said im pretty weak (both physically and mentally) I cant fight back or say what's on my mind... im just scared so badly....

[Hero]

Hikori brings up a good point.
Talking to your mom would probably be better.
Just let her know how genuinely worried you are about the situation.

But the whole sneaking into your room thing is super creepy
._.;;

[Hikori]

trolling or not, if it bothers you, it's harassment, so if need be, contact the police, it's NOT okay. Tell your brother that it's not cool, even i trolling.

[Asami]

Yeah... ill try to... im just scared they will all hate me or tell me im stupid...
but Im even more afraid of getting forced to do things im NOT okay with

[Hikori]

Originally Posted by Asami

Yeah... ill try to... im just scared they will all hate me or tell me im stupid...
but Im even more afraid of getting forced to do things im NOT okay with

who ares if they call you stupid. you'e uncomfortable and panicking, and trolling or not, if this keeps up, he's gunna wind up doing something alot worse than forcing you for hugs and kisses, solely because he thinks it's alright, and i don't wanna see things go that far into the red because you were too afraid to let your mom and brother know how much this is creeping you out, let alone how much of a creep he's being.

[Asami]

I know... I just... im not good at taking innitiative... actually that's an understatement. Im horrible at it. I was hoping that my boyfriend would come down this weekend to protect me because I cant do it on my own... but sadly he cant.

[woopdidoodoo]

Seriously if that was me I'd tell you're mum surely she'd have a word with him for him to stay away from you? at the very least get you're boyfriend to come around and scare the crap out of him by threatening him rofl he can't do anything about it because he's threatening you on face book etc.

I would also have something to protect yourself with, I don't mean a knife or anything like that just something you can give him a good thumping with if he does try and kiss you or come to you of a night.

But I do think you should tell you're mother, it wont ruin it for you're brother, if you get raped or abused that would ruin it for you're brother and you so think of it that way

I can relate on the feeling stupid thing I'm terrible at talking to doctors about how I feel because it feels like an over reaction on my part even though at home its happening but when I'm out I feel normal. But that's just eh I do hope you get help through this. Also the feeling stupid thing is low self esteem, he's praying on that and making sure you're not going to tell anyone what he's doing to you, tell someone now before he does anything worse, you shouldn't have to feel like this in you're own home.

hugs

[Hikori]

how do i say this...

DON'T RELY ON YOUR BOYFRIEND he's already shown you he has no respect for your boyfriend, and let your mom and brother know this hun. if your brother doesn't believe you, then tell him about how he was actually forcing you to hug him behind his back, and how he's being even more of a creep now than he was when he was "trolling" if it bothers you, then your family needs to know.

[Asami]

I have a golf club under my bed...>>


Ill try my best tobtalk to someone about this...
//hugs back

Yeah. I know. Ive told him countless time im in a relationship and he says weird things.. he has also said 'even if you weren't in a relationship you wouldnt kiss me'
Which honestly... is true. But I couldn't say that to him. I just ignored it.

[woopdidoodoo]

maybe he has something mentally wrong with him? like he believes things are there when they aren't or something... but do talk to someone you need to be safe. Also if he does come in for a kiss or whatever kick him in the balls, that's what I would do, serves him bloody right. If he does come into you're room is there any way to put a lock on the door? if not can you put something heavy behind it to stop him coming in? or maybe set a trap for when the door opens something falls on him then he can get the crap away from you

[Lucid:]

Asami, call the police. Please. Sexual harassment is defined on how uncomfortable the victim feels, not on the intentions of the harasser. The police will take this seriously and he can't get out of it just by saying he was joking. You've asked him to stop and he hasn't so now this is a very serious matter. I want you to feel safe, so please, please call the cops.