[Cheshiresneer]

(And also the reason I've found this wonderful site!)

I'm still very new here, just joined up yesterday. But I wanted to post here to get everything off my chest. So thank you in advance for listening >.<

I've ran my mouth off about it for a bit in each forum whilst talking to some amazing people, but for those of you who don't know I'm moving soon. Moving more or less by force. This will be long and I'm sorry XD

About my fiance

I was going to college when I met my fiance. I live in PA right now and he lived in Las Vegas, NV. We met in WoW (World of warcraft) We spoke often, flirted, did the whole webcam thing, and then finally he decided he couldn't take it anymore and flew out here to spend a week with me. And then I flew out to vegas on spring break to spend a week with him. At the end of that week he flew back with me and stayed here. Now while I was finishing school my parents let me move in with them + my fiance as well.

My parents rent this house were living in from my great grandmother, my mother's grandmother, who's currently 97. We've lived here for 21 years now (I will be 23 this June) But the rent has been going to my grandmother for her to take care of my great grandmother's bills since she's very old and starting to forget things. Well it has (understandably) gotten very hard for my grandmother and great aunt to take care of their 97 year old mother, and they wanted/needed money to pay for her care. This was a bit hard for me and my father to understand because my grandmother doesn't work because she is married to a lawyer, in a big fancy house and whatnot. Respectively my great aunt doesn't work because she's married to a cardiologist and lives in a big fancy...yadda yadda yadda.

The solution they came too? Sell the house off that my parents and I are renting from them.

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My great aunt thinks out here in PA is some land, gold mine of money, and thinks they will get alll this money for the house. What they do not understand is that the house is incredibly old and in desperate need of repair. I cannot stress that enough. BUT the realtor told them that the house would take a long time to sell and would barely go for anything because of the horrible state it was in.

More on the house:

This house has always been old and falling apart, it was built in the 1950's I believe. It has a serious mold problem, the basement has sank a bit, it has a horrible draft, the walls are falling apart (not too bad though) and are dirty. Oh and the paint on the outside of the house is lead. Yup.

My father is a self employed contractor and my mother just now has a bachelor's degree and is working toward her law degree (she's incredibly intelligent) but before that she has a job as a receptionist in a chiropractor's office and after that worked with her father in his store. They had me at 19 & 20. Money has always been tight and there was never enough time or money to fix the house themselves. And the landlords (grandmother) didn't care. Over the years we've replaced a 6000$ boiler, and had hollow trees taken down around the house that were a hazard. Redid the bathroom + repainted the entire thing. This has been all under the impression that were were renting this house to one day own it. Apparently not. Back to the heart of the story

Well, the house went up on the market asap since it was going to take a long time to sell. This was mid April? about? The next couples days, the first two people were coming to look at the house. The next day, the house was sold.

Everyone was absolutely shocked. It was bought up by the first man that looked at it, a contractor, who bought it as a "fixer-upper." For his son + his girlfriend.

(I wish I had that kind of money!!!!)

To add insult to injury the guy asked the realtor + my grandmother to have us out by May 18th, a month from that day. And my mother put her foot down and said absolutely not. "We both work full time and have an entire house of belongings to move. You expect us to clear out the house, find somewhere else to live and come up with that money in a month? On top of working all day. You're out of your minds." This was good on her part! So the date got pushed back to June 1st, which really wasn't much better. So here we are desperately moving everything out of the house!

My parents found a place after searching the entire month of May. She's not talking to her mother, or her sister. And she's definitely never speaking to her aunt ever again. And I honestly don't blame her. For lack of a better word my great aunt, is a soul sucking, greedy... well many things. All in all, my great aunt + grandmother + even the realtor have been mean, pissy and incredibly rude. And my grandmother and great aunt have completely refused to help my mother out in any way shape or form. So my poor mom has been upset, and stressed and really we all feel betrayed by this. And my father has been angry 24/7 (as have I.)

During this OF COURSE, my fiance's company shuts down and instead of originally moving up to rhode island for the company, we now had no where to live and no job.

In January, my fiance got a job working at 38 studios, they were going to hire him on for the mmo they were working on called copernicus. His title was Quest and Dungeon design lead. He emailed Curt Schilling back and forth daily, they were good friends. Well he was to start in July 23rd. Now any old person with googled can go find that mess. Over the last month, the shit hit the fan SO BADLY, that 38studios shut their doors. No more job. T.T

My fiance's father, offered his son a higher paying job for him back in their hometown of Las vegas, before 38 studios had officially shut their doors. So thank god there was a job for him..but now this requires us to move cross country in a uhaul. (Flying is out of the question because of all our junk + our ratties)

Now I'm stuck borrowing some money from my grandparents (father's side) cause who knew a uhaul costs 2500$ from PA to Vegas. x.x

-Deep breath- SO, I've had to move all of my junk + some of my parents stuff into two different storage units. In a very very humind, no air conditioned house. Staying with my dad's parents for three weeks so I can stay in PA for my birthday with my family, on June 20th, then the day or two after, packing up a 2500$ uhaul from the storage unit. Driving 3.5 - 4 days across the country with 5 rats in tow, staying in motels at night, just to get to vegas to unload everything from the truck into our apartment...

I've been laying wide awake in bed for the last week, until 4am, 5am panicking.

I'm worried about the rats stressing out and fighting, or hurting each other. I'm worried about money. Making the absurdly long drive, not knowing the way. Affording food + motels + gas. Getting to vegas without having an accident, getting a ticket or having a heart attack XD Pretty much anything that will come to mind...I'm having a hard time calming down..

And that is my rant >.< Thank you so much for listening and I'm so so sorry that it's so horribly long!!!

<3 <3 ~Chesh

[Tiva]

Chesh, I won't say that I have had to move cross country because I haven't but everything happens for a reason, maybe your parents will be able to move to Vegas once their new lease is up. But if not at least you now know how your family truly feels about you guys. They lied to you, didn't care enough to keep your home in good shape, and gave you no time to move out along with not giving your parents an opinion in the process (Like upping your payments to start buying the home).

I am sorry that your Fiancee lost his job, but after reading about some of the trouble that 38 studios is in I am actually glad he didn't work for them. They were bound to collapse eventually, before Copernicus would have shipped, and if he had been working for them he would have had a lot more problems. They didn't pay their employees for over two months, the homes they had bought from their older employees before relocation were foreclosed upon and the past owners are being sued. It is a lot of mess that as a newer couple living together you don't want to be going through.

As for moving, I would suggest that you two take 10 hour shifts driving, and the other sleep while you drive. It will cut down the drive time and cost because you will drive 24 hours and not stay at a hotel. You will stink once you get out but you will be there sooner and stress your money, rats, and yourself much less.

Also, think about this, you are going to meet some new people in Vegas. New friends, and hopefully you can get a decent job out in Vegas or the military base out near it. You will have his family to help you getting started, but think of this as a new opportunity, both for you and him. Vegas is a big city to start your life together in.

[Kotomi]

If Tiva's idea of 10 hour shifts don't work out for you, there should be rest stops along the way that you could park and sleep in the truck, if you really want to save money, however, depending on the truck/ space and the seats for you to consider that I've been on trips before where it's been back and forth like Tiva's and that works at times and helps us get some distance, only a couple times slept in car, and other times hotel/motel, you could do a combination of it so you can save some money at least

it was nice to get a little more time in the house, where something happened like that to my uncles

family wasn't the problem
great grandmother didn't make a will so people wouldn't be mad with her on who got what... and a lawyer in charge of the issue after she died sort of took over trashed the house took their stuff and put most of it in a trash can while my uncle was at work the other one was home but he wasn't always mentally there anymore... but anyway they wanted to sell the stuff and the family wanted to get the money and split it up and instead since the lawyer wanted the money they came in and trashed a lot of stuff, grandfather clocks, grand piano, small organ lots of stuff... the one who was at work had to rush and find an apartment which he filled full of stuff before something like that could happen again
was a huge house... but anyway, no longer there...

hmm never had rats, however, wondering how do you keep them, do they all live in the same cage or different ones... if you could have them in different ones for the drive it would help reduce the worry of them killing each other out of stress on them
only problem with that is if you only have one cage and cages can sometimes be costly...

[Cheshiresneer]

Thank you guys for reading/responding <3 <3

@Tiva: I'll be driving something of 10hrs during the day myself, but we need to stop in a motel at least or try to sleep in the front of the truck. This is because my fiance's license expired a bit ago because he was not paying attention to it out here, (vegas license didn't get it transferred right away because he didn't know how long he was staying.) and I had no idea. So within the last couple weeks we sent out for his birth certificate to get a new license...

For some reason the state of California needs a written request for a birth certificate that's been notarized w/money of course, which has been sent. We're still waiting >.>; So I'm kinda the only one stuck driving, which is part of the panic. :( Otherwise I'd feel a thousand times better doing exactly what you said, taking shifts and sleeping..that's brilliant btw. <3

And as for my parents, my mother doesn't want to live anywhere but here because she has an amazing job with a law office right now as a paralegal. She moved from a large law firm with a couple lawyers that broke off from it to start a private one and they are doing phenomenally well. Of course I'd like it if they came to vegas! lol I don't think my dad cares one way or another, he'd actually have more work out there as a contractor! :D My grandmother (on my mother's side) lives in New Jersey and my great aunt, big shocker here, lives in the state of Rhode Island! So thankfully their lazy fat asses aren't moving anywhere near me or them anytime soon.

38 Studios detail <3

The big thing with 38 studios is that, it's completely different from the employee's point of view, and the news point of view. People are outright demonizing Curt because they need someone to blame, and because he's a figure head. When people don't actually realize, or gloss over the fact that, in reality Curt started the company, but was not the CEO of the company and he was only one of several investors in the company and is losing 50mil of his own money. My fiance had a friend in 38 who was actively working on copernicus + had worked on Amalur, on top of having contact with Curt on a daily basis.

There is an article online now, bringing a lot of the things we already knew to light about the governor and state. You'll read about what the state of Rhode Island did to the company, not just what happened from the state's standpoint. There are two sides to every story. :) I personally believe because of how corrupt that state is in business end f things, I wouldn't be surprised if they intentionally did this to take the eye off of some officials that were already on thin ice and blame an outside source.

Although, my fiance has a job with his dad that pays very very well. So I'm not worried about that, I'll have time to work on my portfolio. <3 But he also got an email from one of Blizzard's lead recruiters, and from Trion and Arenanet as well that were interested in hiring him. Since my dream is to be a concept artist this works for me as well XD

Okay aside from that crap! Lol, which is the least of my stress. @Kotomi, yea I actually might sleep in the truck a night or two. That's a nice idea! I'm just worried that if I can't sleep well I won't be able to drive for 10hrs the next day. I've never transported rats so far...the farthest has been 50minutes, but he was only one ratty and he had his own travel cage. ^^ I have 2 boys together, 2 girls together and 1 girl alone (lost her cage mate sadly) So I would need three travel cages which isn't a big deal really. The only thing is I might need to break up the two boys into a separate travel cage since they are territorial and whatnot. So that would be four travel cages and I'm not actually sure how big the front of the truck is yet... o.o;

Of course I won't be doing this until June 21st or 22nd so I have time but still. That's plenty of time to panic/worry.

Thank you guys again! <3