[MayChan]

I am genuinely a generous person, I don't have a lot of money myself, I only work once a week roughly 70 dollars for that one day.

But the way I work of my generosity is I will give you stuff/money if you need it and or starving or something or I'm just nice and I see you want something real bad. But I cannot stand it when people ask me for things. I can't, it's like I can't tolerate to be asked for money. Also when they make it EXTREMELY obvious of telling me how much they want it, very annoying...

I've spent quite a bit on my friends, cause they were hungry or we go on trips and almost all my friends have zero jobs and nu allowance.

Lately I've been feeling annoyed cause some of our friends don't have money whatsoever to do stuff with us. I understand they have a tight situation and some families just don't give money to their children. Some reason I feel annoyed when people don't have money, does that make me a bad person? x.x I know money isn't easy to come by for people.

[Yokuutsu]

You're not a bad person.

I'm kind of a scrooge, but I don't have a job yet, and most people I know...(minus a few that <3) waste their money. Such as one family gets 600 dollars in foodstamps a month. Somehow they always run out of food all the damn time. They're doing something wrong.

And they also will waste money on drugs. So I can't feel bad for them when they run out of money (and want me to drive to them, take them to the store and back for free. Though now they always pay me)

When I have a job, that pays more than I need, I hopefully will be more open with my money .-.

[Ishu]

I don't think this makes you a bad person but it sounds like you might be having a run in with ignorance. I'm not trying to be mean to you or anything because, well, it's just a word. If you have never had problems with money or you are able to have a job and always have money when you want to do something just because you can- you are highly privileged.

I grew up eating out of schools trash cans for years. I even split cans of dog food with my dog and, most of the time, I gave her food that I had scrounged up for myself so she would have something to eat too. Granted, I had some electricity at the time but it wasn't enough. I wasn't given what I needed to survive. I would have been fine with a few meals at the house a week and no electricity.

I'm living in a trailer with 4 other people and one of us JUST got a job after searching for nearly 6 months. We've been living off of her husbands' retirement (she is my mother-in-law) and it has put an emotional toll on all of us. I'm not from money and any money I might come into will be from working my ASS off.

Until I get a job, I won't be able to pay for my wedding. So, naturally, I'm scrambling for a job at the moment and have been for a while. It is possible your friends are lazy snobs who just don't want to work and, in this case, they don't deserve your money. If they really are underprivileged and can barely afford to hold onto their house- they don't need nice things. They need money to pay for bills, food, ect.

I just think that, in more extreme cases, you need to consider the possibilities of abuse or stinginess of the parents. If your friends are old enough to get jobs then that needs to be their focus- not going out or buying video games, ect.

[MayChan]

I really do understand that money isn't easy to come by or of course they need to use it for necessities rather than hanging out. But the one friend who always happens to be broke, isn't really broke as far as I know. Just her parents just don't give her money at all, supposedly her step mom is loaded, but she's that evil step mom or something. My best friend has to move into her grandparents house cause her mom left her now ex hubby. Her mom works and my best friends tried everywhere to apply, but no call backs or anything. I'm lucky to get a job. But I admit I'm probably very ignorant to how it's like with being on edge of brokeness. and ignorant to ungiving parents -cause my mom is a LOT more generous than I am, that's who I get it from- I just don't want to feel annoyed anymore, I feel bad for feeling annoyed knowing they don't have a job or giving parents.

[Ishu]

I think you need to direct your anger at their situation or their parents. The economy is HORRIBLE right now and I honestly don't see it getting any better any time soon. Another thing you can do is tell your friend who has a stable home life that she can't ask you for money any more. I don't know what she can do to fix her situation other than confronting her step mother but, for all you know, she could be lying about that altogether.

I tend to look at the darker side of things before even considering the "good" or "easy" side, lol.

[MayChan]

It's okie, I get skeptical, in fact I am skeptical about her in general...but idk I don't know her that much I only known her this year really. I do direct some of my anger at the parents, but it's not like I can go up to them and be like "You need to give some money to your child, like 5 dollars at least." =/ I can't do that. It's like I need to do something to help other than giving them money x.x

[Ishu]

You could give your friends advice. They could try talking to their parents and say that it is embarrassing when they have to ask for money. They could offer to do chores around the house in exchange for a small allowance that they need to save up to use to go out and socialize.