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Angry Defend [m]   #1  
Hi
So I get this text message from a friend. About a friend. She had invited the friend to hang out with me my hubby her and her hubby. Now this "friend" has been my husband's and her friend sense like 7th grade. Anyway she tells me that this "friend" said " no I can't be around her(me) with out throwing up or laughing"
So mean. I guess because of my new hair cut it makes me more emo? or some thing.. I'll link a pic and you can tell me.
But anyway I of course am mad. And I want my husband to call that "friend" and defend me. To find out why this friend would say such crap. Well he wont.. And he got mad at me for asking him to.

Now what I need to know is well one, is it messed up when your partner has a friend that talks shit and your partner wont tell the friend off or at least tell the person to knock the shit off or some thing?

Is it wrong for me to expect my husband to do so with out me even asking? Or getting mad that he wont.

And how fucked up it is that that person said that about me over a hair cut?

Link <--- new hair dew and upper lip piercing.
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Old Posted 02-23-2012, 05:19 PM Reply With Quote  
Default   #2   Renata Renata is offline
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I personally think that your husband should stand up for you and defend you. I see nothing wrong with the hair cut.
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Old Posted 02-23-2012, 05:36 PM Reply With Quote  
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@renata: Thank you I'm glad. And what do you think i should tell my husband to maybe open his eyes to defending me.
Old Posted 02-23-2012, 05:53 PM Reply With Quote  
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Hmmm I'm not sure because some people would take it differently so I can't really say how to tell him without knowing him.
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Old Posted 02-23-2012, 06:01 PM Reply With Quote  
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The sort of hair style is in, although in most cases (this is in no way my opinion) I think people see piercings as somewhat juvenile? So generalizing based on the fact you're married, people may think you need to grow out of them~ and "grow up"

And yes- your Husband probably should stand up for you, if he loves you, that should bother him that one of his friends is talking about you like that.
But also in the same perspective, although this doesn't make it right that his friend said anything about it, if they've known one another since 7th grade, there's a good chance that he probably doesn't want to fight with this friend. I'd assume they're very close and he might not want to step on anybody's toes.
He may be upset that you don't understand that, or that you're making a big deal out of what he may see as "nothing". Especially if your husband is the type of person who say's you shouldn't care what people think. If he's that type of person he may be aggravated that you care so much about it.
It's also a possibility that he too does not like your piercings or hair cut~

But your haircut is very in style (from what I know o.o; I'm not stylish or trendy xD). But if that's how his friend is going to act, you should just be happy they're not coming at all. That person seems quiet conceited.

Also, if it bothers you that much, confront the friend! You don't always need him to stand up for you. But that runs the risk of stepping on his toes and upsetting him if things blow out of proportion. Like they usually seem to.

Your hair looks fine by the way~ And also, some people who aren't usually around people with facial piercings find it a bit much to look at, that could be why. Whether the hair makes you look "emo" or not~ Sometimes it's hard to take in new things~

Best of luck~
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Old Posted 02-23-2012, 06:42 PM Reply With Quote  
Default   #6   Delicious Nightmare Delicious Nightmare is offline
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I'm only 24 lol
I love my piercing even if they are juvenile. My snake bites I've had for over a year now, the upper lip one is new. And the hair cut.
And I was unable to express my style or any thing when i was younger my mother would not let me dye or cut my hair. Its a first for me.
And if my husband does not like them then he is lying to me lol. But I know he is not one for the piercings but he does not mind them.
And Yes I could see how my piercing could be a bit of a shock but here where i live its pretty common not like omg every one has them. but 5 out of 20 people do.
I am glad he is not coming but He is my husbands like best friend and I think it pretty fucked up to talk about your friends wife that way and also like punish him because of my style?
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OH! It's a he, that illiminates all kinds of "jealous bitch" ness.
Well no- not really. O.o; Is the man single?
There's a lot of motives that could cause him to say things like that, such as;
He's single and because he's jealous of your relationship with your husband he lashes out and puts you down to make himself feel superior. (This could also apply if he was gay and fancied your husband)
He could just be old fashioned and not like the pierced look.
Your Husband (though based on what you've said I doubt this one) has told him he hates your piercings.
It could even be that you've said something that's offended him, and not wanting to bring up the exact details he lashed out on your appearance.
He could also just be an asshole. (Probably is part of it regardless of it being the main reason)
He could also being going through a tough time, since, most people wouldn't punish their friends based on their lovers. Unless he's upset about him choosing you, perhaps over something else.
He probably also doesn't know the intimate details of your relationship and why your husband loves you. Making it easy for him to judge you, and not approve.

Oh really? xD Sounds just like my parents.
They look good :3 I think they're neat, I've always wanted my lip pierced.
I was just referencing to how people often say the whole "grow up and get a job"
One of the first things my Mom said when I asked about getting a piercing was that since I'm about to look for a part time job, I should be mindful of what I get because often people reference piercings with someone being trouble. (Especially here, it's very rare that someone has something that isn't an ear pierced)
But if it's common that definitely over rules that~
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Default   #8   Delicious Nightmare Delicious Nightmare is offline
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Oh as for the job thing. There is flesh colored plugs so the holes don't close but look like they are not there. And a little makeup makes it look even more like its not there. I looked into it for I plan to have a job as soon as my sons are in school.

And your post made me giggle
Hes gay
no hes an ass
no he is a gay ass with a crush on my husband!
Yes that must be it.. *nods*

And yes he is single and has been for as long as i can remember.
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Then he could just be envious, plus you've removed him from being number one. You said he was his best friend, so that could be it.
Most peoples motives like with jealousy.

xD I'm glad it made you laugh~

And ooo- yeah see me, it's more my parents flipping shit. ._.;
I got my industrial just before Christmas and my Dad still yells at me to keep it out of his sight. xD
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Default   #10   Delicious Nightmare Delicious Nightmare is offline
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Parents are such a pain lol.
I know how it is. You should always make sure you will love it before doing it with the press on jewels or even the magnet trick piercings.
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Those things exist? xD I had no clue.
But yeah- so anything happen with his friend?
Do you plan on saying anything?
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Old Posted 02-24-2012, 09:31 PM Reply With Quote  
Default   #12   Delicious Nightmare Delicious Nightmare is offline
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Well, the wonders of facebook got me to message him after he left a comment on my wall of " ahhahahahah ahhahhaha"
So I asked him what his problem is. And he said that Im "pathetically emo "
then proceeded to mock my depression issues acting like they are not real.
When they clearly are real. Docs and judges both said I must be put on meds. Because last time I tried to kill myself I kinda blacked out.. I don't remember any thing that happened. I was told what happened. I guess in that time i don't remember i hurt my husband.. I bit him.. So they put me in jail. No fun. And trust me no I don't think its okay to hurt ones self. And I do not like the way I feel and how its had to enjoy things I used to love. But yeah you don't need to hear that stuff sorry. It just got me so mad. I don't want to be the way i am. I'm paying doctors money i don't have to fix it. But yeah, He is a jerk. And I don't know what his problem is. I'm going to show my husband the messages. I don't know what will happen after that.
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Default   #14   Ginger Ginger is offline
Snap!
I know Facebook drama. Facebook has gotten me into majorrr trouble with my fiance's friends and siblings. I think it's because of their closed-mindedness (my opinion) and they took every single little thing I said seriously, like they didn't know how to take a joke. So finally, I just deleted them (except for his mom and oldest sister) and haven't had problems since. Figured I'd spare whatever rude remarks they to use "against" me and have them focus on other things that are more important in their lives than some stupid Facebook post.

A suggestion would be to delete this person and if you want to, block them, or they're just going to keep being an asshole to you and also behind your back. If he can't see what's going on with you, he can't really make any kind of comment at all about it without knowing what you're really up to ;]

Good luck! :D
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Old Posted 02-25-2012, 01:10 PM Reply With Quote  
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That's probably a good idea, just to delete him, but to be honest because he has phone numbers he may just talk more shit about how "Oh yeah she deleted me, what a (Insert profanity), she such a (insert profanity)." That's usually how it goes. So that could also cause more drama, also the idea of being "immature" Which- I don't see how deleting someone off facebook resorts in immaturity, but this happened to my sister awhile ago with an ec boyfriend who would harass her and be rude to her so she deleted him and he texted her rude things about how she did that. She was being "immature"

But- "Every action has an opposite and equal reaction" So no matter what you've just got to do what you think is right.
If shit hits the fan, just know you made the right choice. :3
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Sorry for the double post D: Trisphee glitches a lot for me lately.
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