[woopdidoodoo]

so I'm 28 years old and I don't have any female friends, I find that I don't trust women. I'd like to try and get over this issue because I do miss having women friendships. The only woman in my life lol is my other halfs mum, who's lovely and I've adopted her as my mum and we get along great buuuuuuuuut its the whole age difference plus she doesn't want to go out much these days and I miss going out shopping, and having coffee and just girlie chitchats.

I find the people I am meeting all have their own issues, some I have met have drug issues, and worst people I do meet have children and whilst children aren't a problem it puts a strain on what you can actually talk about (I don't have children and wont be having children and quite frankly don't have much experience with children lol even though I can be childish myself haha) but that's beside the point.

It's just so freaking hard meeting people you get along with. The most people I get along with are guys!! which is fine but they don't generally want to go shopping with you or talk about your furbabies or talk make up lol let alone if its that time of the month tee hee.

So yeah I guess this is just a rant really? the girls I do meet are at the school I go to and they are soooooooo young like 17-18, I just don't feel like I can relate to them whatsoever, I chat to them in class sure but I would prefer someone my age or older. Or at least in their 20's...

I guess the other thing too is I'm self consious (kinda) I'm a plus sized gal (size 18) and whilst I carry most of the weight off well I've had experiences in the past with girls saying I'm too heavy to be their friend. So now I'm weary of talking to thin girls even though they could be quite nice.

so anyone else in my boat? my only social contacts are my other half, his brother and mother, and my friend Paul who we see once a month as he lives hours away lol so pretty much their all guys except othe rhalfs mother.

end of rant lol thanks for listening ^_^

[Espy]

I read through half of this before my brain shut down (not your fault at all! I'm just too tired right now); I'll get back to you tomorrow or when I next have time.

But, thread acknowledged.

[woopdidoodoo]

thanks Espy sweet of you ^_^ I realize its a wall of text don't usually write so much lol

[Umaeril]

I read it all and I totally sympathize for just about the same reasons as you. If you want to meet some women who are older you'll have to go to where they are. It depends on if you get out of the house or not or have transportation or live near a city. For example, if you are into crafts there may be a sewing shop with meetups. Personally, I am into BJDs (ball jointed dolls) so would want to meetup with others who have the same interest. Is there something that you do, sew, cook, travel, sports, that might help you to meet others of your age or older? I don't know what kind of a school you go to but some have groups which you might find appealing, like photography groups or something else you might like. The only way to meet others is to be proactive. I'm an introvert and I find this to be really hard to do but since a new friend will not spontaneously appear on your doorstep I think you'll have to make efforts to find one. Sometimes you can do this online too, find people nearby with the same interests.

[Espy]

How's about going to a club, or gym, or taking classes at a community center? I'm in that younger age bracket and don't really have a problem /yet/, so I'm not too sure if that would help.

The fact that people don't want to be friends with you because of your size is really douchebaggy.

I've also got some issues finding friends my gender, but that's not....surprising, considering my major and what I like doing around campus...

[woopdidoodoo]

thanks guys yeah I'm gonna have to do something about it cause its starting to get to me a bit I guess, just sick of my own self really haha.

I'll think about joining a craft group I'm into crafts a fair bit.
So I'll look for a local group that runs but most of them are at churches and I'm not religious lol.

What is Espy majoring in??

[Uruviel]

I'm going through the same thing. I don't really trust anyone though cause all the people I've gotten close to always turned their back on me and such. I've never had a true friend before.
I mean, girls that are 18-ish will talk about those same exact things that you listed. Don't be afraid of you're size. A true friend wouldn't be embearassed about your size.