[Pocket]

So my husband is from a military family and one of his brothers just signed up for the guard.. My husband wants to go in but he has automatic disqualifications that prevents him from going into the army.. Well the recruiter that did the paper work for his brother called my husband, after his brother told the recruiter that he was interested, and I guess made it seem like he could get into the guard.

This all happened last night on his way to work..so we haven't really "talked" about it yet. He is still thinking about it and what not. But I really don't want him to go in....


I don't want to loss him.. I have lost enough people in my family and his mom and step dad have become more like family then whats left of mine..

Am I wrong for feeling like this? How would you feel?

[Wicked]

I don't think you're wrong for feeling this way. I really don't
It's scary and you don't want to lose him but you've got to talk to him.

Even if.. heck maybe especially if.. you feel like you're not "supposed" to feel this way.

Because the bottomline is that you DO feel it.

So talk.

He may still want to go and if he's determined you can't stop him.
And I think you wouldn't want to stop him even if you could.
No sense in inviting that kind of resentment.

I'm 100% sure you're not the only one who has ever felt this way.
Goodness gracious there's a television show about it! Army Wives.
I'd lay money on the fact that there's support out there for you.

Hey, you already mentioned you're close with his family. Talk to his mom.
She's feels something a lot like what you're feeling I promise you.

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☪ஐﻬ☽ I'd feel the same way as you do Pocket.
I would hate for my husband to join any
military. He tried to go into the marines
and I was so scared of his being gone for
a few months for training. But thankfully
he ended up not being able to go because
he had too many children for the marines
to enter. We had twins at the time.

I really hope that everything works out for
the two of you. I know he wants to go and
it's our jobs as wives to support our husbands
but we can't help not wanting to lose them
and to go away from us for long periods of time.
Good luck to the both of you.



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[Airina]

Oh Pocket.... Sweetheart. I totally understand. I've had cousins be in the army and friends. And its incredibly difficult. I know that you probably want to support him, but just ask him to understand your feelings through this all. He should listen to you, but understand that if it does happen then we will be here to help you and there are so many support groups for loved ones in the armed services. I know its difficult to lose family but if nobody did it then where would we be....?