[SanguaLuna]

I am a mature woman with a child, though I do enjoy "childish" things, I try to have a mature out look on life and as well as guys. I made horrible decisions in the past that I don't want to do now. So, I been talking to a few potential boyfriends and one sounds perfect for me. He does not mind that I have a kid, has a decent job and understands my situation. He is also pretty kinky in bed and I like that. Anyway, he is not ready for a relationship and that is good because I want to wait for the right moment. The only flaw is he is in AA but he is not a hard alcoholic or well, from my understanding he is not. He was a social drinker but he is almost a year sober and this is first time ever in AA, so he never really relapsed and even so, from my understanding he is not an angry drunk or even drinks that often. I guess people around him claimed him to be an alcoholic or he felt better going, I don't know but it does not seem to effect him in a negative way. Though AA sounds like a cult from what he tells me, but that is an entirely different story.

Anyway, he kind of never tells me the full truth. I told him I am an open girl and not afraid if he is seeing other girls. I am not a jealous type person, just be honest and I am happy. It took me a few months to tell me he is seeing two other girls. No biggie... He has to look around too and it is not like we are in a relationship. He thought it was odd I was not angered by it, lol... I guess so many girls tell him it is okay and then get jealous.

My issue is he claims he likes me and goes onto how he wants a relationship with me, but then he backs up and says he is not sure. He is kind of playing games and I am not even sure if it is worth my time. In the long run he is not bad but he sounds confused. Should I give it a chance and see how it goes or should I call it off before it even starts?

[Serra Britt]

It's always hard to give relationship advice when one does not know both people or the full situation. For me, trust is really important, I'd rather know the full details about everything and then go from there. I find if someone is honest with me it's easy to forgive them more quickly. He might be dishonest or he might just be afraid of your reactions, I'd say if you can figure out which it is you will be able to make a final decision more easily. I think the most important thing would be to remember not to have a relationship just because you don't want to be alone. Again that's just from my point of view..

I hope things work out with you SanguaLuna. Take care and good luck with this :3

[SanguaLuna]

Thanks. Yeah, he started to be more open and even said I am a lot better then most of the girls he talks too because my life is much more organized then theirs. That makes me feel a little better about that. I am not really up for a relationship yet, but I am looking and so I am hoping he will work out cause I do like him.

I have been talking to other guys and there is another guy of interested, but he is kind of afraid of me having a kid and a few other issues that do make sense. He is not ready for that responsibility and I cannot blame him, but we remain close friends. Closer then most people in my life. It is odd having a guy I like to be so close but at least I know I can never lose him.