[Darkest Laugh]

My girlfriend is a year and a half older then me. Normally this wouldn't bother me, but she's turning 18 soon and she'll be graduating and she's been talking about wanting to get a job and moving out of her parents place. I'm 16! I won't be able to actually move in with her for another year and a half. I'm still trying to get into Driver's Ed, and she's already almost on her own. I feel like a little kid around her...

I know that all I can do is just deal with it, but I need to vent. You can talk about this if you want, but I don't think there's much to say.

[rawkabilly]

I understand what you mean.

What prevents you from living with her, may I ask? If you have your parent's permission and a car, living with your girlfriend shouldn't be a problem.

[johnny]

Just because she's moving out of her parents' house, why does that mean you have to move in with her?

I don't quite understand why anything on your part has to change.

You don't have to feel pressured into "catching up" with her. You should continue your relationship with her just as you always have. The only thing different is she won't have to worry about what her parents are thinking/doing/etc. where you and her visiting each other is involved.

[Ginger]

I know exactly what you are experiencing, except I'm the one who is older than my boyfriend. He's got a car and a driver's license, and he's in college living with his sister in the meantime. He went to a casino before I did. He got his driver's license before me. He got his first job before me. But you know what? It's not going to be so bad over the summer =) Apply for jobs before school releases for summer break and pay your way through driver's ed. Save all of the money you can for insurance and everything else you would need. Ask for help from your parents, too. Every $5 helps with gas!

I am sure you will feel better about it. I felt the same way and it doesn't help to compete. Don't worry yourself. If she loves you, she will understand your situation and she will stay with you. If not, I would suggest dating someone closer to your age.

Good luck, but I don't think you'll need the luck. You seem smart and I encourage you to find a summer job. It will definitely pay off =)

Also... You are both young. Moving in together can cause a heck of a lot of disagreement. You might not think that now, but there will definitely be different sleeping patterns and you won't get very much time for yourself. That is just a couple of things for you to think about before you decide to move in together.

[Darkest Laugh]

Originally Posted by rawkabilly

I understand what you mean.

What prevents you from living with her, may I ask? If you have your parent's permission and a car, living with your girlfriend shouldn't be a problem.

No car. Well, she has one but I don't. I know my mom wouldn't really give a shit, but it'd just feel... weird, like I was being a freeloader or something. If I was going to live with her I'd like to contribute, you know? I have enough trouble with school alone, handling that and a job... I can't juggle. Besides, I don't even know how well I'd be able to get a job in the first place.

I know that eventually this won't be a problem, but I'm just sort of aproaching an awkward time, which is part of the reason why I really dislike that this bothers me. Not much is going to change, but it's still driving me crazy.

[Darkest Laugh]

Originally Posted by Ginger

I know exactly what you are experiencing, except I'm the one who is older than my boyfriend. He's got a car and a driver's license, and he's in college living with his sister in the meantime. He went to a casino before I did. He got his driver's license before me. He got his first job before me. But you know what? It's not going to be so bad over the summer =) Apply for jobs before school releases for summer break and pay your way through driver's ed. Save all of the money you can for insurance and everything else you would need. Ask for help from your parents, too. Every $5 helps with gas!

I am sure you will feel better about it. I felt the same way and it doesn't help to compete. Don't worry yourself. If she loves you, she will understand your situation and she will stay with you. If not, I would suggest dating someone closer to your age.

Good luck, but I don't think you'll need the luck. You seem smart and I encourage you to find a summer job. It will definitely pay off =)

Also... You are both young. Moving in together can cause a heck of a lot of disagreement. You might not think that now, but there will definitely be different sleeping patterns and you won't get very much time for yourself. That is just a couple of things for you to think about before you decide to move in together.

*woot woot* Helpful advice!

We've been together for a;most 2 years now (as of May), and we spend a hell of a lot of time together as it is, so I doubt that we'd have very many problems that we couldn't work out. Neither of us have very much time to ourselves anyway, so honestly with just the 2 of us it might be kind of quite...

Sleeping patterns is a possible problem though. I have a tendency to stay up late, she doesn't.

I am currently looking to volunteer, and if I can start doing that, one more thing for the resume.

[Darkest Laugh]

Originally Posted by johnny

Just because she's moving out of her parents' house, why does that mean you have to move in with her?

I don't quite understand why anything on your part has to change.

You don't have to feel pressured into "catching up" with her. You should continue your relationship with her just as you always have. The only thing different is she won't have to worry about what her parents are thinking/doing/etc. where you and her visiting each other is involved.

... My sisters nickname use to be johnny...

Anyways, I don't necessarily have to, I guess, but... I guess I'm just considering my optons how to adapt (or not adapt) to this change.

[Blitzkrieg]

Originally Posted by Darkest Laugh

*woot woot* Helpful advice!

We've been together for a;most 2 years now (as of May), and we spend a hell of a lot of time together as it is, so I doubt that we'd have very many problems that we couldn't work out. Neither of us have very much time to ourselves anyway, so honestly with just the 2 of us it might be kind of quite...

Sleeping patterns is a possible problem though. I have a tendency to stay up late, she doesn't.

I am currently looking to volunteer, and if I can start doing that, one more thing for the resume.

I live with my boyfriend of three years in my parent's house. We share one room and are together a lot. We also have very different sleeping patterns. He'll be asleep by ten most nights and I stay up as late as three in the morning. It's really not a problem so long as you're not so loud. I play computer gamers just a few feet from the bed, and when I'm done I just crawl in to snuggle. The only way I can see it affecting the two of you majorly is if either of you is a very light sleeper.

[Darkest Laugh]

Originally Posted by Blitzkrieg

I live with my boyfriend of three years in my parent's house. We share one room and are together a lot. We also have very different sleeping patterns. He'll be asleep by ten most nights and I stay up as late as three in the morning. It's really not a problem so long as you're not so loud. I play computer gamers just a few feet from the bed, and when I'm done I just crawl in to snuggle. The only way I can see it affecting the two of you majorly is if either of you is a very light sleeper.

Yeah neither of us are light sleepers, really. I said possible problem, but I don't think it's likely.

Isn't Blitzkrieg a computer game?

[Ashy]

age only matters when youre young really, as soon as youre out of school age suddenly doesnt feel like such a big deal

and yes blitzkreig is a ww2 tank game >.>

its german for thunder war >.>

[Juniper]

Well, don't feel the need to grow up too fast to catch up. You're young and won't be at the same point in life ever again. I'm sure that is she cares about you, she won't care about waiting to move in. Hopefully things work out for you for the best!