[Ginger]

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[Echo-chan713]

So does my periods, my periods caused me to have endometriosis (which could lead to ovarion cancer)

[.rousium]

Gosh Ginger. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I would have felt the same as you did. You probably had a panic attack on top of the issues with the tampon. I'm scared to wear the things. I also think they're incredibly uncomfortable so I don't wear them. The alternative isn't great but it is what it is. I have tons of issues with my period. Sometimes I don't get it for a year, sometimes I get it once a month, sometimes every few months. It's a pain in the ass.

[Echo-chan713]

my worst is twice in one month

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[Duchess]

I know how tempting it can be to be mad at a person who ignores you when you are sick, but from what you typed, it seems that you made quite the effort to avoid people and hide it. You cannot be mad at him for that.

It would have been better to just tell him very quickly, "Hey, I'm sorry but I'm feeling kinda sick right now." and then run to the bathroom. You can explain to him fully what really happened when you come back.

And i also agree with the people at the party. If there was someone going off into a corner, avoiding everyone, I would think that SHE'S the bad girlfriend. It's more like YOU were afraid of making a fool of yourself because of the circumstances. It doesn't hurt to tell one person that you're sick, rather than assuming that they can read you mind. They can't. He can't.

When you're in trouble. Tell someone. Don't worry about ruining the party because of your ill feelings. You obviously made it -worse- by not telling and I'm speaking from experience.

In fact, If you had told him earlier, he could have drove you home and gone back to the party to enjoy himself. It always works on better to tell someone.

You cannot revert the damage at this point. Because you made the wrong choice to hide in the first place. Just hope that people forget and learn from it. I have been in a similar situation and did the SAME thing you did because I didn't want to "ruin it for them". Turns out people DO notice that you don't want to be here... but they NEVER think it's because you're in pain..... because you don't ever tell them.

Now about the actually period problems. I cannot relate ^^;;; I have regular periods for 3-4 days on schedule with mild cramping on the first 1-2 days. A blessing I guess |D

I alternate between tampons and napkins regularly and when going out for extended periods, I do both, taking out the tampon midway. I cannot wear a tampon for more than 4 hours... neither a napkin, no matter how absorbent ^^;;

Maybe try something similar to avoid in the future?

[.rousium]

You don't need to apologize for being scared. You were scared, you didn't react in the best way possible. It's called adrenaline and embarrassment can be a heck of mindset. I stayed in my house and didn't step foot outside of it for nearly two years because of embarrassment.

You do yourself a terrible injustice if you apologize for your actions. Sure, you need to talk to your boyfriend and explain things and if he doesn't understand or offer any kind of support you need to let that one go. There's plenty of fish in the sea, I know it might not seem as such but you have to think about you not other people. This is something I struggled with too for a very long time. I still don't always put myself first but if you don't put yourself first, trust me when I tell you that people will walk all over you and you will always be as sad as you are now. That will never change.

Have some courage and love yourself. Explain yourself but don't apologize. You do know that people die from the whole toxic shock thing, right? Not to be dramatic, but would you apologize for dying?

Ginger, if you need to talk to someone, you can always feel free to pm me.

[Echo-chan713]

There's no need to apologize Ginger *hunggles Ginger* I would do the same thing if I had TSS.

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[Taiania]

Birthday or not he was being a real jerk. He should have noticed that you were feeling unwell. And shouldn't have let his 'friends' carry on like that when you were obviously suffering. Guys like that get me so damn angry.

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[Duchess]

Well if you told him then he has no excuse. Go kick him in the balls now so he can understand your pain. The asshole.....

Sometimes I just feel so grateful for my boyfriend. he seems to notice EVERYTHING

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[Duchess]

That could be the issue. When you get closer, you tend to start to take the other for granted and appreciate the things they do and just being there a lot less....

Maybe you both do need to limit your contact a bit. Distance makes the heart grow fonder they say....

[Ginger]

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