[Quiet Man Cometh]

I'm not totally sure who has been doing what here. Was if your friend that was angry about you seeing your ex?

What strikes me is that the way your friend acted sounds fairly routine in some ways. Tossing out old items and photos of exes is is generally standard procedure after a break-up, at least in impression if not in practice. Your friend may have been thinking that she was helping by helping you get over your ex faster by having no reminders around. Have you talked to her about what she thought of your relationship? Maybe she thought it was a bad one, and that may be why she was so angry about you two getting back together. She may just be being overly opinionated about it. She could think she's acting in your best interests with what she's going. It may not seem like it but people reason in different ways.

It does sound like you two either need to sit down or maybe agree to disagree about some things, even if it means you aren't as close friends as you once were. I have friends that I've had for years and we obviously aren't as close as we used to be anymore. Our interested have changed since we were kids and we've gone in different directions. We still talk with each other but the vibes are not the same. I get a little whistfull about not being as close to them as I was, and that we don't have the friendship that we once did, but in a way that's to be expected and I'm happy that we still keep in touch.