[trystan830]

long post alert, my apologies....

xmas was a trip that i'm glad is over. it really started back on december 8th, when hubby, who was supposed to pick four names for the four of us so we'd know who we would have for xmas (keep in mind there's only 9 of us in the first place), claimed his mother never gave him the names of who we all had... i called her and finally got the names. i sent out the email for everyone to "reply all" with xmas lists of what everyone wanted. i was the only one to reply - ever. and then just this past weekend, my older daughter tells me that i had the wrong email for my mother-inlaw (who had me) - but xmas 2016 she said "use email #1" and all the xmas 2017 emails were from #2, but now she tells me to use email #1 instead. i mean, in the end i got a $50 visa card, so there is that.

and... on the way to xmas (only about a 50 minutes drive) everyone's all talking and in good moods, so i figure to let hubby know about younger daughter's accepted students' day at the college she's already committed to - which is a 6-hour drive across state. money is tight, and i completely understand my 17-year-old not wanting to share a hotel room with her parents in the next bed, so i said instead of getting two rooms, it would be me and younger daughter going so we could get only one room. hubby said (in a kinda weird/pouty/hurt but trying not to show it tone) "okay" - and then proceeded to mostly ignore me the rest of the day. and when we got home at like 7:30, he just disappeared into the bedroom for an hour-long nap (he's good at depression naps. also refuses to accept he might have an issue in the first place). but over the rest of the night, i kinda got him to respond to me just a little bit. i mean, at least when i was going to sleep and i told him "love you" he said "love you too" and didn't sound pissy or anything, so that's a plus. (we've been married 24 years, i can actually tell when he sounds pissy or pouty or whatever. he sounded 'normal' last night.)

so: i've solidified what to do for my xmas for next year (i was going to do it this year, but it didn't work out): i'm going to excuse myself from the gift giving; and i'll be changing the email to exclude the "reply all" because no one does that anyway. *nods*