[Rainbowfox Ari]

Originally Posted by mdom

@everyone: What's the most important thing your past relationships have taught you?

Ian:
Past relationships with my family - or what was left of it - have taught me a couple of valuable lessons. The single most important one of these is that trust is over-rated. TRUST can only stretch so far, and once it's broken, it's impossible to replace, so you might as well just give up.


Shane:
I guess it's taught me not to be too giving of myself, and to make sure I'M okay, before rushing in to comfort and coddle, and essentially be affectionate to my partner. There is a fine line between self-care, and self-harm, and I walked it. I have learned to make that line far broader in the long run - so that hurt doesn't have to come hand-in-hand with love. Love myself first, essentially, and the other stuff comes second.