[Kory]

Hey all,

I could really, really use some good energies right now, (or prayers if you pray)

Recently, I got into some drama because I was elected new Pool Monitor in my complex because we have to enforce certain pool rules due to COVID. So, there were two men that I caught smoking in a public area in front of the pool. I assumed they were smoking weed because it smelled of weed right after they lit up, and it stopped smelling like weed after they put it out...

So, as the Pool Monitor, my job is to report any behavior that goes against the terms of the lease. I especially did this because the apartment manager had just sent out an email saying that if you smell any weed at all, you should report it. So, I reported these men for smoking.

The next day, I was monitoring the pool again. These same men and one really, big man approached me, asking for the pool monitor, I told them I was and that I needed to see their ID before they could use the pool (as per the rules.) They left, saying that they left their IDs at home, I waited. They came back, and this big guy said he needed to speak to the 'real pool monitor' and I again said that that was me. He then said that someone reported his "guests" for smoking and I confirmed that that was me..

This big (black, sorry, I hate to bring race into this, but I am mentioning this because he later claimed that I was "lying" about him and his "guests" because they were black.... never mind the fact that **I myself** am black) guy got into my face, screaming profanities at me and scaring the shit out of me. I asked him multiple times to back up and get out of my personal space, and he only kept coming closer and closer. I told him that I would have to report to the management and he literally looked like he was going to beat me up, so I left the pool area and THANK X'HAL the manager (who is never in the office!) happened to be in the office at that time and this big, black dude was still threatening me and calling me all of these disgusting names, claiming that I was "racist" and lying about his "guests" and had the nerve to call me a "Karen".... ??? Nevermind the fact that this man doing all this arguing WASN'T EVEN THERE THE DAY THAT I REPORTED THESE BOYS FOR SMOKING.

This man got so aggressive at one point , the manager had to literally get in front of him and hold him back because he was going to charge at me.

After all was said and done, this man said that he would "use the pool every day from now on" and even after this one-sided argument went down, he went back to the pool area and sat there and stared at me. He didn't even swim or use the pool chairs. Literally, just sat there and watched me. The next day, he came back to the pool during the hours he knew was my shift, and when I saw his name on the list, I opted to not watch the pool that day out of fear for my own safety. So this guy called the manager and complained and asked when I would show up.

I told the manager that this man was harassing me and I did not feel safe going down to the pool by myself anymore. To make a long story short, she said "Okay, I'll find another Pool Monitor" COMPLETELY ignoring my concerns about my safety!! I wrote a formal message to her to complain about this because I am honestly afraid to leave my apartment because of this tenant's violent and aggressive behavior. He consistently only shows up to the pool during MY hours and breaks all of the rules, in which case, I can't report to the manager, because she doesn't enforce the rules either ! But then if another tenant saw that I was allowing these rules to be broken, they could report it and it would be on me!

So it's a lose-lose situation.
I told my mom that this man's violent harassment falls under "stalking" and is punishable by law. My mom doesn't want to go to the police if we don't have to, and I agree with her. But this behavior is disgusting, both from the violent tenant as well as on the management. Personal safety should be TOP PRIORITY. And we feel very scared to go anywhere in this complex by ourselves... I'm actually so afraid of walking around MY OWN HOME by myself, that I started looking into buying a taser or pepper spray to carry around when I go to the laundry room or when I go to pick up my mail. This is absolutely ridiculous because I shouldn't have to carry a weapon just to get my laundry done or check my own mailbox, but this very clearly violent man has me worried for my life...

And now our personal business is being spread like gossip because the building manager doesn't seem to understand the difference between RULES and GUIDELINES/SUGGESTIONS... She has broken several health code violations and hasn't complied with ANY of the rules our governor has set to slow the spread of COVID. She literally doesn't seem to care that she's breaking the LAW. And I have no sympathy for any woman who would watch another woman fall and kick her while she's down. We women need to stick together, not trip each other up like this! If this manager gets fired, I won't have any sympathy for her. Even as a mother, (which I am not, bt I imagine being in my mom's shoes) if you see this GIANT man threatening the life of YOUR CHILD, you wouldn't sit back and let this giant man scare your child into never leaving their home! I would think any mother would feel empathy for a mother in that situation... and what's worse, the manager has the power to stop this, but choses not to because she's lazy.


So that's what I am dealing with right now.
I think since we TRIED to work it out with the management and we tried calling the landlord and whoever is in charge of the building, I think our only option now is to call the police. At the very least, I'm hoping for a restraining order against this violent man, and I want the building manager to get reprimanded for not doing her job. She has to learn somehow that RULES and RULES and NOT GUIDELINES. She seems to just do whatever she wants because she doesn't believe that rules have a purpose... and that's fine if that's how she wants to live her own life, but there are other people's lives at stake, and she needs to take that seriously or quit.

So, if you read all of that... Thanks!
And again, I could really use some positive energies, good vibes and prayers (if you pray!)

TL;DR; I could use some prayers, positive energies, good vibes and encouragement...