[Yokuutsu]

You shouldn't have been going through his phone, but I can't blame you. But you can't control what your dreams are about either. Not saying that your suspicions are or aren't right. I'm just saying.

He has a double standard obviously. But neither has that friend come over and let you have it either, but you should pull it to his attention. The way I see it, you both need friends to vent to. Neither of you are going to be happy every single second of your marriage. You will piss each other off. And venting is better than getting that shot gun or a butcher knife and doing something more violent about it.

I don't have experience in marriage, but if you aren't happy, you need to do something. Whether that is divorce....or just talking it out...possibly going to a marriage counselor or whatever....that's up to you.