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*hugs* Pocket I'm so sorry to hear you're going through these difficulties. It's true though that the way he's behaving isn't right -- he should not be trying to control you or your friends. You need to take a good hard look at how he treats you, not just moment to moment but overall. If he is actively doing things to isolate you, keep you dependant upon him for your emotional security, that's not good. That's kind of a warning sign, y'know? You need to bring up these issues with him, perhaps in fact listing them off. Sometimes people are very obtuse and don't see their behavior, until you start listing things and then they're like 'oh..wow...I really do a LOT of negative things' Since it's easy to forget something when it's thought of as an isolated incident.

And he shouldn't have told you to choose, no matter what - whether it broke his heart or not. Unless your friend was constantly harassing him or acting untoward, but if all she did was defend you once, that is an overreaction.

And you can go to counseling by yourself - if he won't go, you still can. And he should not have a problem with it, if you're doing it to try to help/save your relationship. If he does, well.... that's really a problem.

just my two cents. I wish you all the luck, just know that you should never become dependant upon ONE person for your happiness and self-worth...if you need to just even spend time away from him outside of the house to find yourself again, do.




i won't rot ∙ not this mind and not this heart ∙ i won't rot
Old Posted 10-09-2011, 10:33 AM Reply With Quote