[Trakadon]

Er... Okay first of all why is it that you go for the word "molest" right off the bat? The only reason they would have for touching you is if you refused both the X-ray , and the wand. Which is odd if you do... If you don't want to go just tell them you can't afford to go and you don't feel comfortable letting someone else pay for it.

If you feel more comfortable telling them through emails then do that.

On a side note I am afraid of heights and there for hate flying as well but I know in some cases I need to fly. I just make sure I'm not seated by the window and if I am I make sure it stays closed.

And why does your kid have issues with TSA? ... I would say it could be because of your own fear over it and your kid picked up on that or over heard you say that they will molest him... Either way I think it might be in both over you interests to just not go.