[Saiyouri]

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(｡◕‿◕｡) I went through this exact same thing in the
past with my husband. He played Final Fantasy
XI non stop for months straight and then
years. I was upset because he ignored me too
and wouldn't talk to me and we were raising
kids too. It took me years to realize this
but it was something he loved. I understood
that.

What one thing you could try to do is ask him
that when you two are scheduled to do something
together ask him to leave his game alone for
that time. He's too obsessed with this and it
isn't easy to ask a guy to put something aside
when they are that obsessed. What he needs to
do is try to organize his time. He needs to
realize that you are part of his life too and
that he needs to put some time aside for you
two and only you two. This is way easier said
than done. Trust me this will be a struggle
to do.

Try to get him in a neutral place. A place where
the two of you can talk and feel comfortable.
He needs to be away from his game in order to
focus on you and this important talk. Try to
explain to him that you understand that the game
is important to him but you really would love to
have sometime set aside for just the two of you.
Time where he doesn't play the game or think of it.
Tell him you aren't asking him to quit the game
at all, just try to set aside more time for
the two of you to be alone and enjoy each others
company. It will be hard to do and it will be
hard to get him to pull himself away from WoW.
He will have to work hard on it. It will take
sometime for him to do this, but be patient.
If he isn't willing to do this for the both of
you, then let him know that you are feeling
neglected and ignored, like you don't matter
to him anymore like you sound like you already
are feeling. You might need to tell him you
need to take some time alone from each other
since he isn't willing to do this one small
thing for you. He has to realize that you are
important to him and he needs to put you first
too. His friend was in the wrong, he doesn't
understand how hard it is to work on a
relationship.

The one thing to make sure you don't do is tell
him he has to quit the game completely. That will
definately make him not want to try to set time
aside from the game where he just focus' on other
things. He will feel like you are trying to control
him and that is one thing you can't do to a guy, I
took like 14yrs to figure this out >.>; Maybe once
he starts to spend time with you and not the game
and 'you' he might take more time away from the game
to focus on your relationship. He has to be willing
to do this on his own and not feel like he is being
pushed into this. I know you might want him to give
it up all together, but sometimes when a guy finds
something that they love that much, they need to
know you are not demanding that they stop what they
want just so you get your way.

I don't mean to sound mean or rude, I'm trying to
be as supportive as possible. I know this is a hard
thing to go through, especially when you feel like
you mean nothing at all to him, but I'm sure he
loves you alot and you mean the world to him. He's
just obsessed with something that is controlling
his life.

My husband has a suggestion for you, I can't believe
I didn't think of this. I did this lol. He suggests
that you make your own account and play the game
with him. It will give him a sense that you are
trying to do something with him that he enjoys. And
in doing so you will be able to talk to him ingame
in tells so he won't be able to ignore you because
he will be looking at the screen non stop and he
will feel guilty if he doesn't help you do all the
low level garbage that he's done so many times
already. This will basically drain all the fun
out of the game for him. It worked for me. He
doesn't play FF11 anymore. We did things together
everytime we were on the game together, the
entire time and he wasn't able to enjoy the high
level things you can do if you are the max level.
It might take awhile to do this but it should
work. At least you are showing him that you want
to be part of something that is a big part of
his life and you are trying to embrace it as
well. Give it sometime but it will eventually
work. I wish you the best of luck with this
hard time. I know exactly what you are going
through and it is hard to deal with especially
since not many people know what it's like
and how it feels. I'm here if you ever need
anything. *huggles*



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