[johnny]

Originally Posted by Aiko

Johnny: That's not really Edward's fault, love is not something you can control (Oh but how nice it would be if it were), actually Edward is constantly trying to push her away, because he knows it's dangerous for her.
Also do you really think that would happen irl even though the fangirls wish it?
That's why it's fiction, it's not how things are, it's made up

Which is why I say that it's Bella's fault, too.

Bella is the key to this situation. It's Bella that's saying "he stalks me because he loves me" and "he tries to control me because he loves me". Bella is actually the dangerous one to the readers, because her justifying the control-freak behavior of Edward as "love" is something that the people who grow up and get into relationships will do.

And yes, it's perfectly possible for someone to get into a relationship and not recognize that the abusive behavior isn't what love is. People do it all the time without Twilight's help, now they'll just do it more because they have an idealized representation of "love" that is actually controlling, manipulative, and creepy.