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Ok so this --- I need advice.

A year, almost a year and a half ago -- I was making a failed real life effort at female friends. I get along with guys a lot better, but I miss that female companionship. I had made friends with this one girl and her best friend. From there I met another girl which kind of trickled into my knowing a lot of people but not actually knowwwing them? Anyway.

We all played around on this online dating site, I was kind of serious about it, one of the girls was purely on it for jokes, and the other one I didn't even know was there. I'll call them by numbers. First friend I made 1, her friend 2, and the other girl is 3.

I met a boy on there, who was pretty cute. I flirted with him a bit and he kept asking to come over and spend the night. I lived with my mother so I told him no. He promptly quit talking to me. Then 1 tells me that 3 was flirting with him, and that he was going to go stay with her for a few days. I told 1 about my confrontation with him and then stated, "that guy is just looking for a place to stay that isn't his house."

A mutual male friend of ours happened to be in the skype chat at the time, and having mis-read it, blurted to 3 "grats on the new boyfriend!" She got pissed and demanded to know who was spreading these lies about her. He told her it was me. She refused to talk to me, but instead talked about me to 1 and the male friend. Things got worse and worse and soon this guy was texting me horrible things which I ignored, because 3 went and told him I was spreading all these lies about him. I had said the one thing to 1, and hadn't even spoken to 3. I don't know what happened, it spiraled out of control so quickly. The next thing I knew friends I didn't even know 3 knew were asking me why I'd spread such slanderous lies about 3. I tried my best to clear things up with everyone I could.

Lo' and behold the guy stayed at 3's house for a couple days, went home and promptly "dumped" her. She blamed me, told 1 I had cursed her relationship and made him not want to be with her when drama was already starting.

The male friend has an exe boyfriend that is friends with 3. My male friend was still missing him and tormented by him and came to me to ask what he should do. I told him to do what he wanted and felt was best. He said he thought he should block the guy but didn't have the courage to do it. I told him if he thought that way he should do it. So he did. Then the exe started yelling at this guy about being blocked, so the male friend said I told him to do it. The exe accused me of being spiteful and just wanting to keep them apart. I have never said more than 2 words to this exe of my friend's.

Now I thought it had been enough time that nobody would care anymore. 3 has a baby with another guy now and is quite happy with him. I have no idea about the exe boy, and I rarely see my male friend. He asked me to go to a bar this last weekend so I went since we hadn't hung out in forever. The first thing he says to me is, "omg you know how I was dating my exe again?" me: "sure?" him: "he kept saying how much he hates you!" me: ". . . " friend: "ya he said you cause so much drama." me: "i don't even talk to anybody but my boyfriend hardly?" him: "i tried to defend you but he said I had no idea how much drama you were spreading."

I ended up crying in the bathroom at the bar. I don't know what to do. I've been so looking forward to this convention I go to every year, but 3 and the exe are pretty big head honchos there. If they're still holding this grudge all sprunge from one comment how will I survive? Why won't this die?? We're all adults! At least all over 20 years old. Arg I don't know what to do. I've tried to defend myself through 1 since she's the only way I have to even talk to these people. I'm terrible at up front confrontation but I would do it if i had to. I'd even forgive 3 for all this nonsense and try to be friends again, I am happy for her to have found someone. I honestly am. I feel like my reputation is being tarnished and I'm powerless to stop it. Bleg.

/rant.