[Fizzyology]

This is going to be a long one, but I suppose I should start at the beginning.

My husband and I have some debt problems which made us move out of our apartment and into my Parent's house. The agreement was that Pat AND I would HELP around the house. You know, clean up now and then.

My Dad refuses to make/let Pat clean, claiming that because he has a job, he should make me do it. That's not how it works, Pat WANTS to help me clean because he knows that one person can't clean up a house by herself. I can't keep everything clean if no one bothers to help me.

My Mom doesn't do anything around the house but watch TV and make things messier for me to clean. I know that she has pain problems and that she doesn't feel good too often, but the least she could do is throw away her own trash and rinse her dishes so it's easier for me. I'm always finding dishes and trash in random places.

My Dad has these 'rules' that only Pat and I seem to actually follow.

Such as rinse your dishes. DAD started that rule, not me. He doesn't abide to it, neither does Mom. He has this rule to crush your soda cans when you're done drinking it, rather then just leave it in the kitchen or somewhere else. I'm always finding soda cans in the kitchen anyway, but I KNOW that Pat and I crush our cans.

It's just silly really.

Well because the house wasn't super clean every time Dad got home, he'd always be in a bad mood. Keep in mind that my Dad just happens to only show his bad mood and act the way he does toward me when Mom and Pat aren't around.

Twice (while Pat and Mom weren't home) he threatened in not so many nice words to kick me out. Not BOTH of us, just ME.

He yells and moans and cusses at me because HE and MOM don't clean and he won't LET Pat help me. He's called be "a f*cking fat lazy ass"

Long story short the two times he threatened to kick me out caused a sort of treaty. A really unfair one at that.

Basically I got forced into agreeing that I have to clean ONE thing or room etc a day. ONE. Not that hard I suppose.

Although it is hard to clean anything else when there's always an impossible amount of dirty dishes in the bloody kitchen every day.

So you'd think "Hey, I'll clean more then one thing on days when I feel good and only one thing when I don't, and he should be find and dandy, glad that I'm doing what he told me to and then some" Right? That's what I thought, but apparently I'm dead wrong.

It's been a few months since that stupid 'treaty' was made and I'm NOT exaggerating when I say this;

Nearly every day (at least the days that Dad goes to work) he comes home angry and is always mad when the house isn't spotless. He bothers me nearly everyday with the annoying "What did you do for me today" question. No matter what all I tell him what I did, it's not enough he's still mad.

I literally made myself sick one day cleaning the whole kitchen, bathroom, vacuuming the floors and dusting and STILL Dad found something to bitch about.

What pisses me off the most isn't the fact that he's always mad. It's the fact that he directs his anger from anything and everything at me. He could be frustrated because of work, and he'll bitch at me.

An example: I cleaned up quite a bit (my Husband still insists that I only do one thing a day like the 'treaty' says) and even tried to clean up the huge clutter of random junk of the kitchen table. A pile of folded Laundry for my Dad has been sitting there for about FOUR DAYS now. I don't know where it belongs and I don't want to mess up his "system" plus I think he can put up his own laundry right? I mean I don't like it when people put up my Laundry, since they often don't put it where I want it.

Well he comes home that night, with his usual sigh of frustration the moment he gets in the door and his normal angry yell at their dog Skippy. Skippy LOVES them but Dad wants nothing to do with him.

I'm thinking Dad will be HAPPY that I cleaned up so much. I let him take his usual seat in front of the TV and relax a bit before I greet him with my usual happy self. He asks the same "what you do for me today" stupid line and I respond in the most positive attitude I can with "I did the dishes, and cleaned the kitchen, took out the trash and recycling in the whole house, vacuumed the floors and cleaned up the bathroom a bit. I even managed to clean up the kitchen table some, but your laundry is still waiting for you."

What does he do? He skips past the fact that I cleaned a LOT of the bloody house and looks like someone broke his computer.

"And you can't f*cking put up the laundry?"

Seriously? You're going to get mad at me because I didn't put up YOUR laundry, even when I did THAT MUCH work to try to make you happy?

There is so much more I want to rant about but I'm afraid I can't stay online much longer to talk about it, because Dad is more then likely going to bother me about the dirty house any moment again because it's his day off work.

I'm just seriously tired of all this bull.