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Originally Posted by Mica
Explain a relationship between a lover and a friend, would you consider the lover more important?
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It doesn't work that way for me. It all depends on length of time spent with that person and the QUALITY of the time spent.
Even if you have a newfangled "soulmate" you shouldn't drop your friend of 5 years to hang out with this lover all the frickin' time. It's very inconsiderate and you SHOULD show them the same amount of attention.
Actually... it's kind like "new stuff" effect humans seem to get. From since young, you get something new and that's your latest obsession. The old things go out of style.
Ideally, issues like jealousy should NOT exist because the lover should understand that you've known the friend for a while and enjoy spending time with them and the friend should also understand that you've got someone else to love as well.
I remember once I let my friend of now 11 years interact with my bf for the first time. She told me she found him creepy and thought he was a paedophile.
Did I jump on her case screaming that he's my LOOOOVE and she MUST be mistaken? No!
In fact, I jumped on HIS case for scaring her and partially blamed myself for not telling him about my friend's playful nature.
Why? Cause I know her for 7 years more than him... and though I may love him more.. i KNOW her more. And nothing can erase that.
He knows that.
And she knows that I love him tremendously. She'd even willingly listen to me drone on about how he makes me feel.
THAT'S how it's supposed to work. Not one without the other....
Anything else if fake, and you're better off without it. I've been through the popular crowd. Fussing over whether this is acceptable, and what's the next hang out we're making and if I miss it, they'll hate me.. UGHH stupid times... Feeling paranoid about not being around them... because if you're not hanging with them, you're a target to be talked about!
Terrible times. You do not want that.
Best to let friendship happen naturally. Don't force it. It's just like love....