[Odessa]

~Naritai you ni nareba ii jan~

I feel your pain, Ultima. I'm in largely the same boat as you, except I'm bio-male, and instead of being queer/neutral I'm bigender -- that is, instead of being neither, I'm both.

It's hard enough coming out as trans when you DO fit into the gender binary. It's even harder coming out when you DON'T. When you're just the opposite gender from your physical sex, people can still understand what a boy is or what a girl is, but people that aren't either just don't fit into many people's understanding of how things work.

I wish I could give you advice, but I'm probably not the best help in this regard because while I've successfully come out to a lot of my friends, it didn't go over well at all with my family. Don't take this as discouragement, though! It IS possible and I know a lot of people who HAVE found acceptance.

~Shinpai shinakute ii~