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lol@Duchess.

I understand about rhetorical or for appearance's sake only phrases like "How are you?" and "We should have dinner sometime." Even a wedding invitation can be just for politeness' sake. But, if I ever asked you "Do you want me to bring you something," I would either buy you a souvenir, or expect you to name the item and give me the cash to get it. Never would it be mere civility. Jamais!

But in the future, I'm going to laugh vaguely and say, "Only if you want to," and leave it like that. I guess.