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Originally Posted by Voidbarker

it's underdiagnosed in AFAB people, afaik.

also, i was not aware you were NB.

It's the "primarily inattentive" subtype that's underdiagnosed, because people with that subtype don't exhibit the more disruptive behaviors that cause parents to seek psychiatric help. (It just happens to be the case that it's also the more common subtype in AFAB individuals.)

As for being NB, I mean, I don't really talk about it much anymore, so it's not surprising you didn't know. It took me a few years to work through some issues, and it was kind of disruptive at that time. After I managed to settle into a good, positive understanding of myself and my identity, after I stopped being afraid and stopped resisting, the dysphoria eventually more or less went away.

I also kind of have it easy-mode. I'm AMAB, present as male, and for the most part take on traditionally-masculine roles in the household as breadwinner and caretaker. The idea of presenting as NB actually triggers MORE dysphoria, which... kinda sucks. My current state of zen required coming to terms with that paradox.