[gremlin]

Yeah, I know... It isn't my problem that they can't respect my boundaries, wants and needs. Heck, they don't even have to respect any of that or understand it. Even though I've made myself very clear with all of them. They just need to comply. You think telling someone to leave you alone wouldn't be this hard.

The guy who harassed me for nearly two years doesn't harass me anymore only because he no longer works with me. I stopped hanging out with people who continued to include him in everything, despite knowing all the details and that he was a real threat to me. He grabbed me, shoved me and intimidated me at a bar in front of all of my friends and strangers during a show once. Another time he elbowed me in my ribs as I passed him at a mutual friends party. At the same party he cornered me outside on the porch, blocked the door in and forced me into a convo. I had to text a friend to come out, he immediately went in once we weren't alone anymore. My friend hosting the party didn't ask him to leave and continues to spend time with him. Same guy would also causally bring up my ex, my abuser, talking about funny happenings, etc as if I wanted to actually hear about him. >>

It's really discouraging but I've gotten closer to being over it. It just really feels awful when you lose friends to stuff like this.. especially when being "neutral" isn't an appropriate thing given the circumstances. At some point you have to realize that the safety, security and comfort of people is more important than "not picking sides".

Sorry, I'm super stressed guys and venting haha.