[gremlin]

My best friend's band is playing tonight for the first time in a year. It's going to be at the usual location and she's even playing with another friend's band! It's going to be an amazing show and I'm super excited.

But... Two of my three shitty exes may be attending. One I was with for almost six years, he was manipulative, emotionally, verbally and mentally abusive and an all around shit bag. I haven't seen or spoken to him in over two years. The other tried to coerce me during the relationship into doing all sorts of things, cheated on me the entire time and then after I broke up with him he would approach me if he saw me in public. It was really uncomfortable.

The friend I messaged to check the invitation list said that he could speak to the person hosting the event about what could be done is either of them decide to bother me. I'm so thankful but I'm also feeling a little guilty. I want to know that I'm safe and secure but at the same time I really don't want to seem like I'm making this event all about me. I know I'm not but ugh... also I'm scared of people not taking my concerns seriously.

Everything will probably be ok. I'm just super concerned that the third ex may not be listed but may show up, as he knows that I attend all of my friend's events. He harassed me on and off for nearly two years before being forced to either quit or be fired from our mutual job.

The only reason why I'm worried that he will show up is because even after quitting he would show up to "visit" or "buy a few things" when the potential intention may have just been to continue harassing me. He lives right by an assortment of stores and making the longer trip to my store doesn't make sense.

He's used intimidation tactics before. Cornering me at a party, cornering me at work, lingering around me at work when he has things to do on the other side of the store or even outside. He always harassed me where there were no witnesses, so whenever I was alone or in the backroom where there is no camera. Always tried to flip things so he was the victim and I was being unreasonable. I tried to be his friend twice before telling him one, final time to stop speaking to me unless it was related to work. I had accepted that we worked together and our shifts would overlap so that honestly wasn't a problem. But he just kept being a problem. Ugh...

Anyways whatever. I'm just stressing and writing this is kinda helping me calm down. I guess I just need support and reassurance that everything will be ok. >>

I'm waiting to hear back from my friend about what can be done if any of them shows up and decides to bother me.