[Potironette]

"You don't care about adults." Ha. Could you not say that to my sister, please? Who's an adult huh? You only care about yourself. They say that people see in others what they see in themselves.

"I hate you." As a mother, could you not say that to your kid please? It's OK for me by now, because I'd be happy if you died in a fire, but my sister actually cares about you? Could you not be so destructive? Please and thank-you?

Opening up all the windows in winter just because YOU were annoyed by a smell? Saying my sister doesn't care about you because she cooked and so there's the smell? What did YOU did when my eyes hurt when you sprayed peppermint oil all over the place? Yell at me, that's what. What do you think condones you to be selfish then? What right do you have to tell another person what you think they are? Okay, I don't believe in rights. But could you not go around abusing your family please? Especially when that family DOES care about you? I don't, but at least my sister, whom you yelled at does. It'd be terrible if she turned out anything like me.

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How can you tell a kid they're "bothersome" and that the next time they "do this thing" you'll "kick them out of the house"? Especially when you say it that way, in that tone of voice--how dare you attack someone personally that way? Not just someone, this is your daughter. How dare, you even attempt to put such thoughts into someone's head. Just because she cooked at night, and forgot to turn off the oven, does not warrant that reaction. AT ALL. Sure, tell her she did something wrong--and she'll be happy to apologize. But you shut off the modem as punishment AND you tell her she's bothersome to the family? Really? Is this a conscious or unconscious attempt at emotional manipulation? And to what end? I can't even say a thing because it'll just exacerbate things, and I don't think my sister would like that. Crazy woman. How dare you call someone else crazy when it's clearly you? How dare you try to call someone bothersome when it's really you? Can't you just point out a fault and let someone learn from it? Can you NOT try to make someone feel like making even one mistake is punishable by kicking someone out? We all learn from our mistakes. Heck, striving to make mistakes is a GOOD thing (well, no. But being unafraid to make mistakes is). There's no such thing as a perfect human being Mom, and you're the least perfect person I know anyway. My sister made a mistake. Don't try to make her feel like it's unforgivable.