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Coda · Posted 08-09-2016, 03:11 PM

You definitely DON'T want to use candy to de-escalate a meltdown. That reinforces that having meltdowns will let the kid get her way. Find a distraction that sidesteps the source of the meltdown, or give her a place to burn out her fury in safety.

If you want to use candy to make friends with her, then don't give it to her as a reward for anything, but rather give it to her when she's otherwise idle -- right when she shows up is a good option. It'll make her associate the gift with you instead of with her own behavior.

Using candy as a reward for doing something right WITHOUT promising it in advance is a good strategy too.

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	You definitely DON'T want to use candy to de-escalate a meltdown. That reinforces that having meltdowns will let the kid get her way. Find a distraction that sidesteps the source of the meltdown, or give her a place to burn out her fury in safety. If you want to use candy to make friends with her, then don't give it to her as a reward for anything, but rather give it to her when she's otherwise idle -- right when she shows up is a good option. It'll make her associate the gift with you instead of with her own behavior. Using candy as a reward for doing something right WITHOUT promising it in advance is a good strategy too. Games by Coda (updated 4/8/2025 - New game: Marianas Miner) Art by Coda (updated 8/25/2022 - beatBitten and All-Nighter Simulator) Mega Man: The Light of Will (Mega Man / Green Lantern crossover: In the lead-up to the events of Mega Man 2, Dr. Wily has discovered emotional light technology. How will his creations change how humankind thinks about artificial intelligence? Sadly abandoned. Sufficient Velocity x-post)
		Posted 08-09-2016, 03:11 PM